in light of recent threads, does honesty preclude kindness? Does it have to be harsh and raw?
I consider myself a brutally honest person, however I am capable of being honest without knocking the knees out from under someone, until they leave me no other choice--in which case I certainly am not afraid of doing that either. But it is not my first approach. So what do you think? Can we be honest and still be nice(and I am not talking about politically correct--just kind)?
For me when I finally found out the truth about the 'truth' it hurt. and honesty was painful. but I still did not purposely hurt other's feelings just because I was hurting. I am just not like that. But I do realize that some people wear their hearts on their sleeve and it is impossible not to hurt them(my husband is like that--he takes everything personally and I end up yelling at him in arguments that if I wanted to say something to hurt him I will let him know! oh god he can be so passive aggressive! but that's another thread....) However I would never purposely hurt someone who showed a vulnerability or weakness, I consider that dishonorable and cruel.
I don't want this thread to turn into a personal attack on anyone, please don't hijack it for that. But I have been thinking about this alot this week...can we be honest and still be considerate of others' feelings?
Ravyn