Posts by freein89

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I have been shunned!

by shera in

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not that i really care...but my daughters family has a few of them that are jw's.for many yrs they talked to me very limited,i guess they have found out that i no longer believe the org has truth to it.so now the shunning has started...lol when we met in the coffee shop my daughters father did this little dance shuffle, backwards to get out of my way...even a few weeks back when he picking something up from here for my daughter they had to get him to carry it(this happened before i knew i was a shunnee) he peeked around the corner of my door and took a weak step in..he leaned a bit couldnt reach what he was trying to pick up,then he took another step..leaned...still couldnt get it...i was watching him like..good gawd!!

does he think a demon is going to get him?how sad..i am amazed at what this cult has done to persons minds.....back to the story... =0).

my hubbies brother is married to my daughter's aunt and she is a jw.....and we went camping with my hubbies family and they were to meet my daughter's father and other jw...well when they seen me pull up in the van,i thought they were going to have a stroke.my daughters stepmom was about to pop her last nerve.they sat behind the tent and chatted forawhile and my brother in law came over and said they are leaving because of me.so they took down alll their camping gear and moved far enough away from the evil..bad bad heather.(lol).

freein89

Welcome to the great crowd of the shunned. Sounds like you are taking it well.

You must be very brave, when I was first shunned, I was alternately angry and weepy what a ride!

Deb

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cancer

by talesin in

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what do you say to your friend when (s)he tells you they are have terminal cancer?

freein89

Talesin and Mouthy,

I am so very sorry. I lost my brother to cancer 3 years ago. It is a horrible thing. Talesin, just keep up the contact with your friend, sometimes people withdraw because they don't know what to say or do. It sounds like he has a faithful friend in you. I am sure he appreciates your non-interference the best you can do is to let him lead the conversation, he will know what he needs and when he needs it.

I live in Wisconsin and my brother lived in Los Angeles, I went to see him two weeks before he died. I spent a week there, going to see him in the hospital every day. One day we snuck out of the hospital to go have a beer and two days later he was on a respirator, when I left he was in a coma. I will always cherish the memory of that beer.

Deb

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My Story

by unique2u in

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i have been lurking through this sight for about a month now and have found it to be wonderful!

i would like to say right off- i am not a baptized witness-i am not a publisher- i do not have family in the borg-nor do i have friends there either- i just study with the jw's.

at 1st i thought "wow- these people really know their stuff- this is great!

freein89

Welcome!!!!!

I am looking forward to your stories about the study, you will find much support and advice here, I am pleased to see that you have kept an open mind and are looking for the truth, you know you will not find it with the Jehovah's Witnesses. Ask them if they ever feel that the graphic depictions of Armageddon are healthy for children.

Deb

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Goodbye My Friends.

by Englishman in

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her ladyship and i are off on holiday tomorrow.. we're flying to corfu, a greek island not far from the coast of albania.

we're staying in a pub in a village called paleokastritsa in the north-west of the island.http://www.agni.gr/index.htm.

this is our first time ever to greece, so our anticipation is running high!.

freein89

Have a great time and when you get back, could you spell the name of the place you went to phonetically, I tried to pronouce it, and don't think it went very well.

Deb

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Stay OR Slay

by RAYZORBLADE in

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to anyone who clicks on this thread and cares to post upon it.

i have a few questions for you.

do you value this forum on its ability to keep newbies/recent posters to stick around, therefor: stay.

freein89

Razorblade,

you old softie, I'm having a psychic moment here, because I have spent the weekend thinking about the changes in me since finding the board. After years of feeling shut down, stifled, defensive and being unwilling to make new friends, I have begun to speak. Not just here though, it has begun to move into the rest of my life. I have an opinion and I express it. I had planned on starting a thread this morning, because I feel so good, and it is slowly becoming a consistent sense of well being and dare I say worthiness.

As for the nastiness here, I usually don't get it, what I mean is I can't figure out what the fights are about, why some people get mad and post a nasty reply to a post that didn't seem to deserve it. When I see that happening I usually get bored and drop the thread. But the fights do demonstrate that emotions run high among many ex JW's, and I have seen that as a sort of post traumatic effect of having been a witness, particularly among those born into it.

Thanks for your insight and now you might have to change your name from Razorblade to something like sweetie-pie or wrm&fzy.

Deb

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How did 'Serving Jehovah' make you feel?

by BLISSISIGNORANCE in

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for many of us, serving jehovah was a life changing choice we made as adults.

for others, it was something we did because it was our parents' choice and we had to comply.

for me it was my choice to become a jw.

freein89

There were times when I felt safe in the nurturing arms of the Witnesses, but on the whole all I felt was worthless. It was the result of the thrice weekly VERBAL BEATINGS I received at meetings. Because there was absolutly no way to be good enough.

The safety part was an illusion that David Copperfield would never be able to replicate.

How can you feel or be safe when you have jackles nipping at your heels, waiting for you to make a false move, waiting to move in for the kill.

The jackles of course are all your loving "brothers and sisters" ready to tear you apart if you make a mistake, have a bad day, or go through a tradgedy that derails you if only for a little while.

Deb

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How Sad

by Ariell in

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i have a distant cousin, 15 and in a wheel chair.

she's always saying how she can't wait until the new system comes when finally she'll be set free from her handicap and can run around with joyful glee.

it breaks my heart knowing this is never gonna happen and makes me even more angrier.

freein89

Got a funny one for ya,

There was a brother in our congregation who had been in the Hells Angels before becoming a witless. He had been shot in the head in a big shootout with the police. He was paralyzed on one side (no that's not the funny part). There was a sister who married him because she would one day have a perfect husband. The brother was not "all there" mentally as well as physically, but our faithful sister didn't marry that guy, she married the one that would one day be. He was on full disability, couldn't work, neither did she and she had some kids from a previous marriage, and I'm sure they are all living happily on disability, pioneering away, waiting for the perfection.

I take that back, its not a bit funny, its sad and pathetic.

Deb

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brown paper on the mirrors at assembly

by freein89 in

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this happened in the mid 80's at a circuit assembly in wisconsin.

the "brothers" decided they had the solution to the long lines for the ladies room.

they went in there and covered the mirrors with brown paper.

freein89

I thought the brown paper was an isolated incident, but it looks like it was the ultimate solution, reminds me of Hitler. Will there someday be gas chambers for all the unruly sisters who tear down the paper? I cannot believe the stories here, it is beyond belief, wouldn't it be fun to get some undercover cameras in one of those restrooms to document the brown paper? It would be a great way to get people to understand what the borg is all about, particularly with regard to women. Gets me thinking about a documentary. Hmmm. Do we have any film making buffs here?

Deb

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