Just the other day my husband in so many words told me that we got married by the Organization and if I told him I wanted nothing with the Organization then that would be pretty much the end of our marriage.
With thinking like that this man is not married to you, he's married to the organization. It's going to be quite hard to do any kind of fade, where the spouse, especially a male one who already relishes in the "I've got the penis" headship principle and is looking to his wife to set the proper example so that he can gain more privileges.
Though you say you love this man dearly, I suspect you already know that if to him your marriage is primarily based upon allegiance to the organization, then it's no marriage between you two at all. It's really a shame how JWs will resort to that threat\fear tactic to impose their will on the other.