i know what you are saying....but while i was supposed to be going to the meetings, it was off and on, i was warned by a witness relative about hanging around my husband sister who was disfellowhipped and we just used to go around to visit and talk in general....how do the elders really know what we might have been talking about anyway....because they always tell everyone not to even eat with disfellowshipped ones
and the second answer you gave....well, does that mean he picks and chooses when and if he saves someone even though they are doing his work