if you try to read that crap.. you'll ... purge the baloney sandwich you ate for lunch..lol.
I left all my JW stuff on the side of the road
there are a few things I wish I kept. The program for an assembly where there was a talk "guard against the sin of independent thinking" because my husband refused to believe there ever was such a talk, and I'm sure there was.
JWs have such selective memories, I got a letter calling me a demonized spawn of satan, I wish I had kept that!
because of "religious" differences, she now wants me to move out and "separate"...i said what biblical grounds does she have for her request?.
she couldnt respond...she said she'd rather be beaten up by me than have an "apostate" in the house.... this org definitely encourages conditional love.... i don't know what to do...by the way, we dont have children.
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I'm sorry this is happening to you. If you know JW, which I think you do, then you know not much good comes from a "mixed" marriage.
Ultimately it will be a lonely time for you, she will be getting support from the cong. I'm glad you have this forum and your family for support.
Look after yourself
my youngest who i haven't seen for 6 months came to collect the rest of her stuff from the flat today.. she was cold and indifferent towards me until the dog went for her because she no longer knows her and then she blamed me for everything that has happened.. having trouble keeping it together now..
Im sorry amelia, if you were on my side of the world I'd bring you a hot chocolate
and a cupcake...and a flower..... I hope your sh*t day improves....
For Australian women.......no chatting allowed during:
state of origin rugby, or any other rugby game
start of the Sydney to Hobart
Bathurst (best to leave the house for this one, lasts for hours)
AFL grand final
any motocross,
the silence can only be broken to abuse the TV, refs, umpires, kiwis and queenslanders, OR perhaps to offer a cup of tea.
so i have been a lurker on this forum since its inception.
i registered over a year ago.
i jumped in several months back with a highly controversial subject of my daughter being sexually abused by an elder and the efforts we were taking to bring him to justice.
Welcome Tylin, thanks for sharing your incredible story.
sadly it seems these crimes are more common than any one knew.
others like blindnomore & crazyblondedeb.....
you guys are all heroes and I feel humbled by what you have achieved.
I also believe that this issue has the potential to destroy the WTS, it cannot be ignored.
Love to you & your families, thankyou again for telling us your stories, I know it must be painful, good luck to you all
i was just reading another thread about elderly dubs looking back on their wasted lives--and the thought occurred--.
they had a choice!.
so--for any active jw's reading this----perhaps having the odd doubt or two:-.
What a fantasy this is, I used to daydream elaborate scenarios....where everyone thought I was somewhere else & I just snuck away from the daily grind of the dub routine.
if you can, do it!
I am planning a sabbatical from my own life at some point this decade, and im 40!
i am a non jw who has been doing a fair amount of research on my own in hopes of finding some answers and understanding for my current heartwrenching situation:.
i have been dating a man for the last while, and we grew very close, very quickly.. .
suddenly he has pulled away from me, gotten very skittish and says he feels like he is leading a double life, and isn't ready for a relationship.. all the while stating that his impending divorce is the reason for his cold feet, which could be understandable except the marriage was very much "over" long ago.
LIT, welcome to JWN.
Seriously, RUN! I can honestly say us JW & xJW have loads of issues, but at least we are one, or the other.
The absolute worst person to be involved with is someone who is leading a double life/lying to themselves/lying to you.
OK, now I've seen that you were involved before and I'm imagining the romance of it all. ....still, he needs to sort himself out & come to you as a divorced xJW, or stop messing around.
I hope it works out for you!!!!
so, i finally decided to become a member and make my first post .
a bit about me:.
i've been lurking around the forum for quite some time (about 6 months i think).
Welcome sparlock, I can't believe you got that name? I thought it would have gone!
Everyones got an interesting story on this forum, looking forward to hearing more about you. I'm amazed at people who are able to manage and control their exits from the org, good for you!
we went to the british museum, there were loads of dubbies there.
i had a bit of fun!
one group were looking at the exhibits referring to the babylonish occupation of judah, the jw guide was talking about 607 - so i said "this sign here say 587 not 607".
Well done cantleave, next time I'm in London that's what I'm doing!!!
i`m just speaking from my own experience here ,and it has occured to me that over the 33 years i was a witness and in the six congrgations i was a part of , except for a few exceptions, the majority of sisters in the congregations did not have a grasp of the so called deeper things of god,according to wt theology, sure they could run off " bible topics for discussion" sermons but very few could take a discussion any further than that.whereas i was aware that males seemed more likely to delve deeper into, not only the scriptures,but also the wt interpretations as a whole.
don`t get me wrong a few women left me for dead in their comprehension of topics ,but i`m just saying overall i found this to be the case ... my experience... smiddy.
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Hey smiddy, I never had a grasp of the so called "deeper things". I found it incredibly boring, even when it was a matter of life & death I still found it dull.
Since being on this forum I've tried to follow some of the more convoluted theological discussion, and it just kills me! I cannot make my brain stay focused for more than 10 seconds on this stuff.
BUT, I am a great student, i do have a science degree, and a second degree, and have had a serious career.
SO..... Some of us just aren't interested, even when you are born in.
Reading people's stories on this forum, emotions and feelings seem to lead people out just as much as doctrinal issues.
also, I want to second what Xanthippe said, there's no role for women in the congregation anyway, and plenty of social penalties await anyone that appears to question the brothers!
