Posts by Tameria2001

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Are born-ins or are converts most likely to leave?

by Julia Orwell in

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maybe born-ins are, because we converts made the choice whereas the born-ins did not.

or are the converts more likely to because of thought patterns developed outside the cult?

i'd like to know what you think..

Tameria2001

I was not born in, my mother became one when I was five. I guess that would be about as close to born in as it can get. My dad never became a JW, and never went to any meetings. The same is for my husband, but in his case it was both his mom and dad to became JWs. He does have relatives that he is close to that are not JWs, and never will be, because they saw first hand what happens with one does leave the Watchtower.

I can't speak for others, but I am the type of person who, if I believe it, ok, but if I don't, well let me just say I don't have time for it in my life. I won't be a hypocrite either. At first, yes it was very tough, loosing my JW relatives, but I vowed that I would never return to that vomit. Yes that is how strongly I feel about the Watchtower. I can not even stomach listen to the words and lies that come out of their mouths any more.

Someone asked me the other day how I would feel if my mother passes away, she is still alive, but getting up there. I have no love in my heart anymore for my biological JW relatives. Will I attend this woman's funeral? The answer is a flat out NO, or should I say He!! NO!! But before anyone accuses me of being cold hearted, there was a lot of abuse I had recieved at the hand of both my biological parents, and I refuse to even call them that. Anymore if I have to mention them, I call them by their first names, just not on this site. They don't even know where I live, and I don't even want them to find out.

OOPS, it looks like I got a little distracted in my toughts, but the answer for me was, when I left, it was like this weight had been lifted off of me. Yes for a while it was like learning all over again, and I was very glad that my husband was there by my side during this whole thing. He was also going through the same thing as well, so we had each other to help us through all this. I'm sure if we both would have drove any one else nuts. There are times, not so much any more, but there were times in the past that we would just get really angry. Not at each other, but our situation and what we were dealing with because of the Watchtower Cult.

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So, Was It Just "Luck" Or Did "Jehovah" Intervene At Times For You?

by minimus in

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i know witnesses believe that miracles were done away with other "gifts" after the apostles died but every so often they suggest god produced a miracle.. did you believe that jehovah god saved you out of a bad situation?

did you accept that god's angel help you out?.

Tameria2001

I was never saved from anything bad while I was a JW, in fact it was the complete opposite for me. About the only good thing that ever came out of that cult was I use to work on the kingdom hall builds with the electrical crew. At one site I did meet my husband, we were married a few months later, and in 2001 we left that cult together. Hubby wanted to leave it much sooner than I did, but he waited on me, until I figured the Watchtower out for what they really is.

I won't even go into the crap I had to endure growing up in that cult.

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Watchtowers Power Protection Program

by Marvin Shilmer in

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watchtowers power protection program.

today i added a new article to my blog addressing watchtower's newly rolled out teaching that effectively puts about 12,000 of jehovahs witnesses outside the circle of authorized providers of spiritual food to jehovahs witnesses.

my article is titled watchtowers power protection program and is available at: http://marvinshilmer.blogspot.com/2013/04/watchtowers-power-protection-program.html.

Tameria2001

The Memorial that the Jehovah's Witnesses observe every year, is nothing more than a Satanic Ritual. When a person refuses to eat the bread, representing Christ's flesh, and refusing to drink of the wine, representing Christ's blood, they are actually denying Jesus as their Lord and Savior.

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Sex before marriage would eliminate a lot of unhappy marriages in the Borg...

by sinis in

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sensible, safe sex, in my opinion, should be engaged in.

because, as you get older and are ready to settle down, you will look at your potential sole mate, not for sexual reasons, but for what they have to offer mentally and if they are compatible.

when religion restricts this, and yuo must marry to have sex, i believe that you doom a marriage at the outset, because these young folks marry out of lust, only to have the rose colored blinders pulled off later, and regret the entire arrangement... .

Tameria2001

I will admit that my husband and I had sex before we were married, but only after we were engaged to get married. The real reason behind us doing it was this. If we were going to be married until one of us kicked the bucket or "Armageddon" happened, we wanted to make sure that what happened after we were married, would be something we both would enjoy. Guess what, we never ended up pregnant before our wedding. Our first child was born two years after we were married. Our sex life is still very much alive, and very good, and we have been together 20 years now.

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The Shunning

by lriddle80 in

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so, i am not df'd or da'd at the moment and my family knows i attend a baptist church.

recently my husband and i were asked to give our testimony in our sunday school class.

i mentioned the scripture in.

Tameria2001

Hello Iriddle,

I don’t come to this site much; I get very busy in other things going on in my day to day stuff. But for some reason did, and read your post. I remember feeling exactly the same way you are now. In my case I was raised in that cult since I was a small child. I had sent in a letter telling them I no longer wanted to be a member in August 2001. The only reason why I remember the month was because a month later the Twin Towers in New York was destroyed.

Even though my mother was supposed to shun me, I would get letters and occasional phone calls from her. We never did the texting, the letters were bad enough. She would cut off all contact with me for a year or two, and then one day I would hear from her. We would talk over the phone, and eventually I would let down my guard, thinking that maybe I could have a relationship with her again. But as soon as I would allow my heart to open up again, she would just rip it out again. She would ask me if I am ever going to come back to Jehovah’s Organization AKA The Watchtower. And every time my answer was the same. That was that Jesus was my Lord and Savior, and that I felt that the Watchtower is a false prophet. Another year or so would go by, and then a repeat of the same thing would happen again.

Finally in 2008, I had enough of this mental abuse, and I ended up cutting off all contact with her. I even sent back her letters and anything else she would send me. This was something I had to do for my own mental health and sanity. When your husband said to just let it go, listen to him, and don’t let them pull you down. It took me seven years before I figured that one out. Look at what you have now. The people who are in your life now are the ones who really love and care about you, with no strings attached.

I have a sister who also left the JW a couple years after I did. Just last fall, I had another chance to visit with my mother, but chose not to. My sister on the other hand, did. She told me it was the biggest mistake she ever did. In her case, my sister was physically assaulted by our mother. She ended up bruising my sister’s arm and tearing her blouse that she was wearing, this happened at our Aunt’s funeral.

The best revenge you can ever do against any of them is this. Live a happy and fulfilling life, and to be successful in whatever it is in your life, family, and children. My JW relatives are shocked that my husband and I are still together, in love, and our kids are happy and healthy. My boys are not getting into trouble, and even one of them is going for his Honors Degree in High School. Well talking about my boys, I need to go. I have an appointment with my son’s teacher about the classes he will be taking next year.

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At what age do you think people should start dating? What age did you start?

by MsGrowingGirl20 in

hey guys!

i hope that everyone is still holding on amidst all the struggles.. i know that there are parents, older ones, middle age and younger ones here.. sooo, my question isss- what age did you start dating and what age do you truly believe people should start dating?

and why?.

Tameria2001

I was 22 when I went on my first date. Before that I was having way too much traveling to different location in the US. Dating never appealed to me. When I was in high school I would observe and watch my classmates. I would see the results when a couple broke up, or end up pregnant. As a child and through out my teens I had to deal with abuse (sexual, mental, and physical) from my own father. So dating a boy was the last thing on my mind. I put up a barrier around me, and I did not want anyone to get near me emotionally or physically. My first boyfriend was a lying prick who I would rather forget, and dumped rather quickly, I only saw him for less than two month. The second man I started dating is the one whom I married, he was able to get through my shell that I had put around me. This past September we just celebrated our 19th wedding anniversary, and we have two wonderful sons. There were times that I was not the easiest person to deal with, dealing with that crap my father put me through, and the cult my mother raised me in. I am just amazed that I am not in a looney bin. My husband has been my rock and my strenght, if it were not for him I know I would have went off the deep end a few times.

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How Long has it Been since you Last Attended Meetings and What Caused...

by flipper in

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..... you to stop attending ?

injustices ?

disagree with the teachings ?

Tameria2001

It was two things when I stopped attending in 2001, I don’t remember the day, but I do remember that I did not fade away, it was abrupt, and it ended when it involved my 6 year old son. It all started when my son had a night mare. This was no ordinary nightmare, but it was the exact same reoccurring dream I had when I was his age. This was what woke me up from the JW slumber, and blindly following the Watchtower’s teachings. It was at that point I started to think about all the bull I had to deal with over the years because of them.

While I was researching, I was using the internet to show me from their publications the lies, and deceit. My brother-in-law happen to pop by, and discovered what I was doing, and he called me an apostate, and that I was a stupid woman. At that point my husband made him leave threatening to beat the life out of him, which is putting it politely. Before he let his brother leave our home, he told him this. “If you are calling my wife an apostate for researching through the older publications of the Watchtower, then your religion is an apostate to God.” The only person I ever showed what I found at that time was my husband, who was already looking for an excuse to leave that cult.

It was also during this time, my son, became very ill, and required medical attention. At the time neither I, nor the doctors knew what was going on with him, and they were thinking surgery, and I was having some of the worst case thoughts going through my mind. I called up my family (JWs), the elders, and other friends, or at least who I thought was friends. They all asked me, “What do you expect us to do about it?” When they said that to me, it was in a rude tone, and after that they just hung up on me, when I told them I did not expect anything from them.

For the next week my son was in the hospital, fortunately he did not require surgery, but it was indeed life threatening, because of his age. After he came home from the hospital, it took him the next three months to recover from what he had. From the time he was in the hospital, and during the time of his recovery, no one called or checked up on to see how we were doing. I did manage to make it to one meeting, and no one asked how my son was doing, but instead they told me, no demanded that I attend the upcoming district convention. I never made it to that either, everything decided to quit working all at the same time (both my cars, the refrigerator, and stove all stopped working). It was when the repair man showed up, he said something to me, and it was this, “Maybe someone is trying to tell you something.” When he said that, it was light a light had been switched on, and it was then when I really started to dig into the history of the Watchtower. By the time I had learned everything, I threw away EVERYTHING, I was that pissed off.

In August 2001, both my husband and I sent in our letters telling those people we did not want to be a part of their group anymore, and I have not looked back since then. Then one month later the Twin Towers were attacked, and people were going crazy thinking it was the end of the world. I think that is the only reason why I remember the month of when I left that God forsaken cult.

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Do you know me? Do I know you?

by jeremiah18:5-10 in

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since leaving the wts i've struggled mightily to make friends and adjust socially.

i would really like to find some people that i know and reconnect if any happen to be on here.

so i'm going to reveal my name and ask that if you know me or our paths have crossed, please reach out to me.. i'm "no longer one of jehovah's witnesses" so why not?.

Tameria2001

Hello neighbor, I know you don't know me. I only moved into the area after my husband and I left the JWs back in Kansas. But as a former JW, I have lived both in Bethel Heights, and now in Fayetteville. We moved to Arkansas back in 2008, and still living here. I did attend the Miller Congeration (Missouri) for a few years. Miller is only about 45 minutes away from Springfield.

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Have You Prepared For The "Flu" And Do You Get A Flu Shot?

by minimus in

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i try to keep my hands clean regularly and stay away from areas and people that i know are sick.. i have never gotten a flu shot and i do know that many that do get one, get the flu anyway.. still, the flu is considered very very bad this year..

Tameria2001

I have had the flu shot only once in my whole life, it nearly killed me, so I will NEVER EVER EVER get another flu shot again. I have only had the flu ONCE in my whole life, and it was because of the flu shot.

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Where Are You From?

by finallysomepride in

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alot of members don't have a flag or country name beside their user name, and well frequently one doesn't know where that particular person is from, tell us your country, state, county or what ever you feel like giving out.

if you are going to post please at least devulge your country.. me, i'm originally from taranaki, new zealand via auckland.

for the most of this decade i have been living & working in brisbane, queensland, australia.. .

Tameria2001

Currently I live in Arkansas, USA, but I have lived in many different loctions.