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In the end its all words on a screen
by SpiceItUp inapparently yesterday there were some misunderstandings and feelings were hurt and situations were brought way out of proportion.
(i must say when i popped online before i went to bed i was shocked and saddened at some of the stuff that happened.
i had an enjoyable day of shopping/cooking/dinner & a movie only to see some of my friends involved in a dispute that could have been easily avoided).
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My minimus like question of the day
by pr_capone inwhy is it that every time there is an argument on this forum, there are at least 5 to 7 threads that pop up talking about how we need to make up, how we should get over it, and how we need to start over/ .
none of them point directly or quote directly from the original flame thread but all beat around the bush though we all know what they are talking about.. do those threads really do anything to help the situation or do they continue to pour salt on an open wound?.
kansas district overbeer
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SpiceItUp
there are at least 5 to 7 threads that pop up
you mean like this one (just kidding)
All joking aside.....I started one myself because I always get ignored if I post in the middle of someones elses thought.....so in order to be heard I do my own.
I think it depends on the feel of the thread as well as what the original subject content was about.
With things like this it is a case per case that you will have to judge. Some will help and some may indeed hurt.
Spice of the hoping my words don't fall on deaf ears class
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In the end its all words on a screen
by SpiceItUp inapparently yesterday there were some misunderstandings and feelings were hurt and situations were brought way out of proportion.
(i must say when i popped online before i went to bed i was shocked and saddened at some of the stuff that happened.
i had an enjoyable day of shopping/cooking/dinner & a movie only to see some of my friends involved in a dispute that could have been easily avoided).
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bttt
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In the end its all words on a screen
by SpiceItUp inapparently yesterday there were some misunderstandings and feelings were hurt and situations were brought way out of proportion.
(i must say when i popped online before i went to bed i was shocked and saddened at some of the stuff that happened.
i had an enjoyable day of shopping/cooking/dinner & a movie only to see some of my friends involved in a dispute that could have been easily avoided).
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SpiceItUp
Apparently yesterday there were some misunderstandings and feelings were hurt and situations were brought way out of proportion.
(I must say when I popped online before I went to bed I was shocked and saddened at some of the stuff that happened. I had an enjoyable day of shopping/cooking/dinner & a movie only to see some of my friends involved in a dispute that could have been easily avoided)
In the end yes it is all words on the screen but to the ones writing it, its not. We put our thoughts, feelings, emotions and opinions into them. Some of us put a little bit of our soul into what we write. When we get misunderstood then our hurt and temper gets brought into it as well.
When someone writes something, we don't get to hear the inflection and tone of their voice as they would sound if they said it. I myself am guilty of writing out sarcasm that could be misinterpreted...and we all are guilty of maybe not wording things quite the right way so as to get our intended point across. Are we all able to write in such a way? Of coarse not. We all have different backgrounds and primary languages even. What some of us excell at others are not so adept. We have to not only accept that but embrace our differences.
It all comes down to common consideration. If we were in their shoes how would we want to be handled when such miscommunications arise? Most of us are guily at some point of donig the opposite of what we ourselves would want. Thats because we are only human. When we get riled and emotions flare we tend not to think before we act/post sometimes.
Its not even about right or wrong its about breaking free from the stereotypes and the "always having to be right" dub thinking. Be the "bigger" person----It will make you feel better.
I wasn't there and reading as it happened so I have no idea how/what even went down. And guess what I don't care. I happen to like all parites involved and it upsets me that we can't just let some things slide by.
Who started it? I really don't care. Was someone in the wrong? I really don't care. Was someone in the right? I really don't care. Was someone hurt? I care and thats what this is about.
Lets all step back, realize that none of us are perfect, hug each other and say sorry. Say sorry even if right now you may not be able to realize you should be.
After all in situations like this everyone contributes something to the argument and/or difference of opinions that has gotten blown out of proportion.
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I am sorry too. Lets prove to those lurkers that we can rise above our differences and stay friends.
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personal poll-serious responses please!
by Ravyn2 ini have to go to alt sign on name....but this is important(to me anyway):.
what do you want to see as the future of mankind in your lifetime?.
tolerance?
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SpiceItUp
I am a weak atheist...
Id like to see us evolve into people that are beyond discrimination of all sorts (gender/race/sexual orientation etc)
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pessimist
optimist
realist
etc......
I fancy myself as an optimist
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your catch phrase
by SpiceItUp inso i'm sitting here at work and it just dawned on me that i use the same phrase over and over subconsciously.
in my job i have lots of people that thank me on the phone and for some reason instead of saying "your welcome" (which i do use occasionally) i say "not a problem" or "no problem".. what is your little catch phrase that you subconsciously use?.
spice of the fluffy friday class
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LOL at you all
I went through a phase a while back where I'd say..."but Alas...."
My honey says that I always say.... "What are you thinking about?" (hope that doesn't make me a cliche)
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your catch phrase
by SpiceItUp inso i'm sitting here at work and it just dawned on me that i use the same phrase over and over subconsciously.
in my job i have lots of people that thank me on the phone and for some reason instead of saying "your welcome" (which i do use occasionally) i say "not a problem" or "no problem".. what is your little catch phrase that you subconsciously use?.
spice of the fluffy friday class
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So I'm sitting here at work and it just dawned on me that I use the same phrase over and over subconsciously. In my job I have lots of people that thank me on the phone and for some reason instead of saying "Your welcome" (which I do use occasionally) I say "not a problem" or "no problem".
What is your little catch phrase that you subconsciously use?
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I stumped my dub mom
by SpiceItUp inso last night me and my mother had a long 2 hour conversation on all sorts of stuff...... mainly......truth, faith, the bible and apostacy.
i asked her if the bible could be used without any other book.
she of coarse said yes.
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Pandora
Please copy if you can use it. Even if it doesnt work on my mom (keeping my fingers crossed as she hasnt decided anything yet) it would be worthwhile if anyone benefitted from it. I think thats the main reason I shared it with you all. I wish you luck.
Jourles
Thanks. I will keep those in mind if she decides against it. It might be the breaking point.
Double Edge
Hey thanks. I never really thought of myself as a great debater but lately a few people have told me otherwise. I think you have to really control your emotions to pull it off. I just talked to her like she was any other normal person. Then again considering she knows I am apostate (thought never baptised) we do have a pretty great and rare relationship with being able to be as open as this was.
Rocketman
Oh I know. I can't wait to show her what I read from. I wonder what she will do.
Teejay
I sure hope so.
Twinkletoes
Yeah I just hope she agrees to raed it. Funny thing when I mentioned book she asked if it was "I was a witness slave" or something like that. I tols her not at all so she may not realize what CoC really is.
drawcad_1
Well through the years I have learned how to approach my parents. Believe me if I had tried doing this even 2-3 years ago I would have failed in that department miserably. Now I think I am so determined (been working on mom with little tidbits for several months now) and ready to test her willingness. I feel like I will be sucessful. The confidence I think showed as well. I'm not that "scared" worldy girl anymore and I am sure of the things I tell her. She then takes note that perhaps what I am saying could be important. thats the first step is just getting them to listen to what you are saying. That is one thing I have accomplished.
Someone asked me where I came up with the "green-glasses" example. That is a Spice original so if anyone wants to use it please feel free. Using the Awake was shamelssly taken from CoC which I am currently reading.
Thanks again for all the support.
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(fluff) British expressions
by DanTheMan ina question to my fellow united staters on the board, .
do you find yourself using british expressions in your daily life because of being on this db so much?
two that i've picked up - i occasionally will call a friend "mate" (they look at me kind of funny) .
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SpiceItUp
"At the end of the day" we are all people.
Spice of the gets lots of "English" tutoring class.