Posts by Snoozy

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I finally drove off my wonderful jw wife...and i am so sad..

by oompa in

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i helped her move out this weekend so i must be a masochist too...so on top of losing every friend in my life...i have now lost my wife...and yes i asked her to leave on more than one occasion this year...we have argued for nearly five years about wt crap...nothing i could ever say would make her question anything!!!!

it was beyond frustrating...then this spring when i somehow disassociated myself and even lost my parents i knew i would never have a normal marriage no matter what...all i wanted was a normal marriage with mutual friends...that is off the table as long as she is a jw...but why could i not accept it???

why could i not shut up???

Snoozy

I too had to make the choice to stay or go..I stayed. It was miserable in the last years as he because even more attached to the religion. He planned on retiring and pioneering..Life just didn't seem to be working out like I planned for us. To retire and travel..

I had to endure days of nothing but preaching..condemnation for me and the world..(and our grown children and their families).

Oompa..NO ONE should have to listen to that. No one!

I loved hubby dearly and miss him but since he passed away it has been so peaceful and the world is once again beautiful.

I feel like I am normal again!

You have to make your own decision of which you prefer..

Peace and a fullfilled heart..

Or constant disapproval and a world that is painted black by someone everyday..

Best of luck in your decision..

Hugs, Snoozy

ps..We often remember the good times and forget the bad with a person..remember what made you miserable in the first place! ..don't remember things through rose colored glasses..remember them as they actually were.

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Abusive Women and manipulation

by Lady Lee in

the other day we were talking about abusive mothers (toxic relationships).

i was sent this link today and think it is worth sharing.

i think it is an excellent article.

Snoozy

Btttt...worth reading..

I think a lot of it applies to anyone. Not only women..

Ever find yourself being manipulated?

Watch for the signs.

Snoozy

59

Anyone Feeling the Holiday Spirit Yet??

by charlie brown jr. in

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i know every year it seems to come earlier and eariler............ yet must admit ......... this week on my 3 am ride to work i'm listening to x-mas songs on the radio instead of zeppelin................. and smiling............... tis the season............. and haven't had turkey yet!!!

!.

Snoozy

I want a piece of that cake!!!!

Snoozy

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In need of advice

by NY23brown in

yet another visit from jw's at our door, demanding to speak to only my husband and claiming to be friends of "his family".

it has reached the point that i contacted the sherriff's department and was informed to sent a certified letter to the local kingdom hall.. dh hasn't been a "witness" since his teen years.

i had a falling out with the in-laws (avid jw's) over them hitting our daughter while we were on vacation visiting them.

Snoozy

You have a choice..make plans to get out ..or stay and suffer 75 % of the time..It doesn't sound like you and your feelings are being respected but merely tolerated.

It doesn't get any better when you are married to a JW or they are strongly attached to their JW family.

I stayed and was miserable even tho I loved him to death..Now that he has passed away I can see how abused I was in many ways by hubby and his mom and sister. ( All JW's)
No one should be allowed to say the hurtful things they (JW's) can say and get away with it. It's up to you if you want to put up with it or not.

I am sympatetic to what you are going through but remember we all determine our own happiness. Don't complain if others mistreat you and disrespect you and you allow it.

Unless you want to be like the woman in the Feb Magazine they just put out and let them wipe their feet on you so to speak...

Snoozy

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JW comment on my facebook newspage turns my stomach..

by Snoozy in

trying to figure out why..this is in reference to the small boy that was abducted and killed today.

why doe they think it is their duty to turn it into a witness..this person usually posts about how great things were when she was a teen and hanging out and how she wishes she could go back to those fun times.. posts various you tubes with oldies and once in a great while she breaks from it all and posts how great jehovah is..then she goes back to all her worldly facebook friends..i really can't stomach hypocrites!.

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Snoozy

Trying to figure out why..This is in reference to the small boy that was abducted and killed today. Why doe they think it is their duty to turn it into a witness..This person usually posts about how great things were when she was a teen and hanging out and how she wishes she could go back to those fun times.. posts various You Tubes with oldies and once in a great while she breaks from it all and posts how great Jehovah is..then she goes back to all her worldly facebook friends..I really can't stomach hypocrites!

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I really hate this old world .Satan really is the ruler of it! The Bible says man will go from bad to worse!Some people are just EVIL and sick!!!!!!!!My heart goes out to little Tylers family!We are definitely living in the time of the end!

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Are You Afraid To Die Alone?

by minimus in

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i know of someone that is concerned that she will be all alone when she dies.. are you afraid to die alone??

?.

Snoozy

Same here rebel..after watching so many of my relatives die I see what pain and torment they can go through..When someone dies in their sleep they usually suffer a lot beforehand. My daughter says her father in law went peacefully but she is forgetting the 2 years he suffered trying to get a breath when there wasn't any..gasping for air..that's what emphesema does to you.

Heart disease , your heart slowly dies and your kidneys and then you fill with water in your lungs and slowly quit breathing..usually getting pnemonia.
Cancer, well my mom went out of her head the last two weeks and gasped and reached for us when she died.
My fil had bone cancer and he died in a nursing home as my MIL could no longer take care of him. He could be heard screaming when you walked in the home to visit him..

When hubby was dying he covered his head with a sheet.Hospice said that some do that because they are preparing a place where they will be oging. ??? The cancer had filled his liver and he itched constantly from the built up bile in his system..towards the end he couldn't drink and his mouth was so dry he could hardly breath..that is one reason I would hate to have a medical release for treatment towards the end..if he was in a hospital he could have had a IV and it wouldln't have been so miserable for him. But he wanted to die at home. I would never ever again recommend that to anyone. He died in his sleep..but not without suffering a lot first.

With all this I would still, knowing I would die shortly, want to be alone..nothing worse than someone wanting to carry on a conversation when you are trying to die peacefully..

BTW, I had the widowmaker and didn't even know it..All I had was a squeezing in both my arms..I was alone watching my daughters dogs while they were in California..I called my own ambulance, got up and opened the front door for the EMT's I had just called.. Locked the dogs up and made sure they had water..Oh yeah, I also took a shower..lol

Snoozy..is this TMI?..

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Is anyone else getting ready for Christmas?

by juni in

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i was in the mood today... got the tree cheap (came w/lights), decorations and ribbon for half price and made the bow myself to save money.

i was going to put it aside until after thanksgiving, but couldn't resist completing the project.

i just have to get some fiber fill for "snow" at the base.

Snoozy

Pap wrote:"We've started shopping for our anual ornament. We get a new one each year and decorate the tree in order of years we've been celebrating. Then we add on the generic ones. This will be our sixth family ornament"

I love traditions.

Snoozy

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Ex-JW Women website!

by Chemical Emotions in

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i just created a website for jw and ex-jw women.

please visit it and tell me what you think (and maybe sign up hehe)!

it's a work in progress.

Snoozy

http://www.exjwwomen.webs.com/

Clickable link..

Snoozy

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sorry...but how do they not notice???

by oompa in

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that their bible is different from any bible anyone else reads in that it has added the name jehovah to the new testament greek scriptures??

when it is not there in any ancient manuscript????

i mean they put it there where it aint quoted at all....like all 12 times in revelation....i mean how can they not have a problem with that???

Snoozy

They swear their bibles aren't any different. They also explain that the name Jehovah is put in where others left it out. They also use that excuse when adding other words. It's supposed to be there but someone in past bibles left it out, we just put it back in. Or they say someone else misinturpreted the verse and they corrected it.

They have an answer for everthing..it not they make one up..

Snoozy

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What's the most insensitive thing you have been told while grieving?

by 3rdgen in

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a few years ago my 21 yr old firstborn and only son died in an accident.

i was an active jw at the time.

in fact , i was at the meeting when it happened.

Snoozy

Halo said:"The other thing that came to mind was when I was told that I could choose a new spouse in the new system...........mine never was a JW. "

My hubby was a JW..his Mom constantly told him and he repeated it to me many times that "He should not worry, (Because I wouldn't go back) that Jehovah will make him forget me and will give him a lovely new wife in the new system..."

I think he was really looking forward to it..

Too bad he didn't make it and now is not eligible to remarry ..(according to their teachings of resurrected can't marry.)

Snoozy