Hello twizzle, welcome to the board. I have great sympathy for you - I was there a long time ago.
I was in my 20s when an old friend came back into my life. He had grown up, changed, become responsible and hard working, had his life together, it seemed. We started dating and fell in love and had a wonderful time until he broke the news that he was a JW. They were responsible for the positive changes in his life - and while that was great in some ways, they also destroyed who he was. They took away his independence and they blackmailed him. His 'new family' whom he loved more than his biological family, threatened to cut him off from their attentions if he continued seeing me. It broke my heart. He wanted to find a way to cheat the rules, he thought if we got married before he was baptized they would eventually have to forgive him and maybe over time I would start studying and come into the truth as well.
Everything I saw and learned about this religion during that time appalled me. The emotional hell they put him through was unforgivable and the emotional hell he put me through taught me a valuable lesson. He may love you and you may love him, but if he puts his religion first then he doesn't love you enough to make it work. I don't mean to be harsh, but consider yourself lucky to have found out now when you can still get away easily. Do yourself a huge favor and walk away, close the door and cut him off. Don't compromise yourself for the sake of the Watchtower Society. They're a destructive cult and they are nowhere the 'TRUTH' they claim to be. It will hurt now, but in the long run you will be happier if you stay as far away from this religion as you possibly can.
When we ended our tumultuous relationship I thought I had given up my only chance at true love. I was sooooo wrong! This August my husband and I celebrated our 11th wedding aniversary. We have two great kids and I thank my lucky stars every day I didn't make the necesasry compromises to keep my JW-ex. I would probably be miserable and bitter today. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, twizzle. Let him put Jehovah first, and you put yourself first - you will have a better life in the end and trust me, you won't regret the decision.