i think all of us on this forum would like to welcome all the newbies that have joined in the last six months or so ,if i`m not mistaken there seems to be an influx lately.. elders , ms ,and sisters.
speak up and make a comment , are you happy you came here ?.
we`d love to here from you.. smiddy.
Thanks for the welcome. ..I've been awake for 7 months now thanks to my husband who helped me see ttatt. It was exactly a week after my 2nd baby was born that I woke up. We recently celebrated my husband's birthday and I can't wait to celebrate my baby boys's 2nd birthday coming up next month! He didn't have a first birthday but I will make up for it this year!
Welcome to everyone else! Enjoy life, every moment of every day! It's all yours now!
it's time for me to move on.
i would like my leave with a good reason why we should leave j.w.
organisation.. from my son a birthday card:-.
How sweet 😊
this is my first time posting on here so i’m not sure where to start.
i’m trying to keep it as short as possible since i could expand much more.
i’ve been in the process of waking up in the last year and a half.
Hi, I'm Sanchy's wife. Please read my post on how my husband woke me up here:
https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/5640149346025472/how-my-husband-helped-me-see-ttatt
It's so important to not criticize the organization or their teachings... Much easier said than done because i cannot follow my own advise but if you want to succeed in waking her up it's crucial because criticizing them is equivalent to criticizing Jehovah himself. Instead just go to her every once in a while with a "doubt" you have... hopefully she'll want to help you resolve it and therefore help you do research together...this worked for me...there was so much i didn't know and i began to have doubts about other sheep and great crowd being on earth (go to jwfacts.com), 144000 and little flock, 1914, this generation teaching (which has changed 4 times) etc. Get her with doctrine, find old articles and have her read it directly... don't just say certain book mentions this and that...its not the same as seeing the craziness with your own eyes. I woke up purely by researching and comparing bible with Watchtower articles..NO APOSTATE info. Good luck...be patient, be loving, and it just might pay off. Remember she is an indoctrinated robot who has been programmed to shut down whenever she hears anything against organization...if she get angry or emotional let it go and try again another day...i speak from experience 😉
this is the one thing that i have struggled with since leaving the organization.
i recognize the need and value of belonging somewhere, being a part of something, showing up weekly to a community where me and my husband and children are loved and utilized and incorporated and cared for.
a place where are my kids qualities are nurtured and encouraged , and then reigned in and developed when needed.
Lol i totally understand where your coming from and i feel the same way... Don't really have any advise but remember you only miss it because it's what you always did....we don't need to be part of a community to feel whole... Just fine a few good friends to get together with and enjoy life!
will i say " orlando, your hair is too long, and needs to be cut short" and never will i say " orlando, invites to birthday parties can't be accepted".
and i will buy my son books he wants to read, books that bring him happiness, and that he understands.
and by so doing, i hope he will acquire happy memories of his childhood, so that the sensitive and delicate, in him will be allowed to grow.
need advise.
i was in a relation with a jw girl for almost three years(im am not jw) and we are so inlove with each other until someone saw us from her congregation and she was disfellowed and that where the oddness happened.
her family and friends are not talking to her anymore, she wants me to stop seeing and talking to her anymore not until i became a baptized jw.
Obviously I agree with all these comments. And don't be fooled to thinking is all coming from a place of hate toward the Jehovah's witnesses. It's just that we've all been there and have come to know what is really like. ...the hard way. Most of us are being shunned by our entire families just because we decided to leave the organization. ...that's how much loyalty are among the jw's. I'm sure when you go into the meetings they all smoother you with love, unless your sitting with the disfellowshipped sister, they can't even make eye contact with her. But generally, this is how newbies in the kingdom hall are treated. And if your studying the bible with them you might be thinking that its all good and reasonable. Don't. Go to jwfacts.com! I was born in this organization and never realized our doctrine was so off from what the bible says. And regarding the girl, yeah not a good idea. She might love you but her love and loyalty for "jehovah " are stronger. I'm sure she feels very torn right now but at the end of the day, she just another indoctrinated person who's life choices and concience revolve around whatever 7 men in New York have to say.
so my wife and i have been in the process of fading for a few months now as per my original post here.
about a week ago, i was browsing some ex-jw facebook groups when i saw a post that linked to the crisis of conscience book.
i said "f@(k it" and hit share on it.. a few hours later, i get a long text letter from my mom (who was a fb friend of mine) telling me the typical "good luck finding friends in the world" and how we have "nothing in common anymore"; basically, it was a 'farewell' text.
All or Nothing: hi I'm Sanchy's wife. Yes he's put alot of personal information here... He even has his profile pic so it would be easy for anyone to catch him.... But we were going to a Spanish congregation and trust me, those elders are so lost when it comes to these matters. They are oblivious to the fact that these forums even exist. Most of them don't even know how to use a computer... Sadly.
Anyways we are fading but our entire family is already treating us like we're disfellowshipped.... Especially now. The only one who treats us the same is my mom (she even talks to her brother who was disfellowshipped on a fornication and homosexuality charge). So I'm pretty sure she'll keep taking to her daughter and coming to see her grandkids. And if it weren't for her we'd probably disassociate soon anyways.... At this point we just want to live our lives because if our family doesn't want anything to do with us than what's the point in fading.
I'm still very proud of my husband for taking back some control by telling them they can't just have a JC without taking certain steps. Why give everything to them on a silver platter? He stood up for what was right and tomorrow he'll stand up for what he believes.... Because if he's going to go down, he's going down with dignity... Not grovelling. At the end of the day I know that is what will give him peace of mind. I understand the advise given here to do so is to save a relationship with family but I'm afraid that point had passed. Anyways we'll see what happens tomorrow.
this is a true story.
it's about a sister named henriette venema.
she was a very loyal jw.
i posted a month or two ago about my recently disfellowshipped sister who was feeling massive amounts of shame and doubt.
i moved out of my home state 5 years ago so she has come to visit me twice since she has been df'd and she loves it here.
i am a recovered alcoholic (5 years clean and sober) and spend my days with the most amazing non judgmental people i've ever met.
Totally agree with Crazyguy! But it's easier said than done. That is how my husband woke me up, by pointing out jw doctrine doesn't agree with bible. It's so hard though when I talk to relatives because I find myself talking bad about the org and that's the worst thing you can do. They will automatically shut down and think your possessed or something....anyways feel free to vent anytime. Many people here know all too well what your going through and it's nice to know your not alone, and some have it worse unfortunately... just think positively and don't let it get you down. Sending lots of love😊
https://youtu.be/gzaspgvg6co.
1. Not having to worry about my babies becoming good spiritual jws, this worried me alot. I never even liked the idea of teaching them that certain cartoons and holidays r wrong. I dreaded when those days would come, "thank god" I woke up before they did! 😉
2. I can have goals that I actually WANT to have, not ones I'm pushed to want...even though my husband was a pioneerand we were in very good "spiritual stance"in the congregation, we never felt like pioneering was for us but we felt guilty because this was a natural goal every jw should want in life!
3. Not feeling guilty for every little thing or feeling like you're never good enough. ....you can always do more!
4. Appreciating the beauty of life a lot more and living in the moment! Enjoying truly every minute! Life's too short!
5. Knowing that I will give my kids the true best life ever and knowing that no matter WHAT they do, I will always love them and they will ALWAYS be in my life!
