I was disfellowshiped, So unqualified to offer advice on how to fade etc. But if i may I will add this. They only have as much controll and power over you as YOU give them.
You dont have to return thier calls.
You dont have to answer thier questions
You dont have to go to thier bullshit kangaroo court.
Once your out you will realise how insignificant,sad and pitiful they really are.
Well done this is a big moment and I for one am very happy to hear your finally breaking free.