Sorry to hear how that turned out. I have to thank you though for taking one for the team! I was tempted to try something similar. At least we can learn from each others mistakes. Hang in there. I'm trying the: be less angry and more warm and helpful approach. My wife has enough other BS on her hands to deal with at the moment. The last thing she needs is me bitching and moaning about logic and truth.
I think the advice about not discussing doctrine is the best.