As you found out that the cultish way of life is not yours you will have to stay loyal to your inner person, your family gifted you with love and good education in the past. But now you are ready to live your life at your conditions.
Dont let yourself get forced to have contact with the club, the society, dont let yourself allowed be treated according their condition but to your conditions. Never go to the meetings again, that is my tip.
How could you live a pretending witness-life with going house to house with joy in your heart ever again?
Dont go to the meetings if you know that it is nonsense. Better contact a catolic community and speak with a priest about your situation, and then simply find new friends in a new community.
If your family misses you they will find inofficial occassions to see you. Would nt it be allowed for them to have family contact to you and your prospective children ...except of situations concerning spiritual religious matters?.. situation like praying together, birthday parties...tell them that they are mishandling the loving DFSHIPMENT pratice, if they not have family contact.. cause family ties are not to be cut, not to be given up. According to watchtower.
Tell them how they make guilty if they misuse the loving DF arrangement to shun you completely, print out the watchtower article for them that shows that family ties are not to be cut.. and tell them that you need time to think over this arrangement, you dont like to write written reinstatement application yet, but ask for family help in school and daily life.
Your friend your partner could be new family. Trust in your self, thewonderofyou, and you will see that each month you will be more and more independent and happy.
Can you speak german, because german is my mother language.