Posts by RedhorseWoman

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New England Apostafest

by beckyboop in

last year on memorial day a group of about 14 east coast ex-jw's met together in providence ri.

i had the pleasure of being able to have most of them back to our apartment for dessert, and thoroughly enjoyed meeting local people with a similar background.

i was able to meet zev, somebody, red horse woman, scumrat, sister act, doc bob & his wife, as well as others whom i can't remember their online names.. this year, i would like to get another group together on memorial day again, and hopefully we'll get even more of a response this year.

RedhorseWoman

Did you get my email? I'm definitely planning on coming. Just let me know the details. It will be good to see everyone again.

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JW molester---pleeds guilty

by zev in

its not hit the papers yet.

but on a local news broadcast here in ri, "ralph herioux" 74 fomerly of attleboro ma, and (i believe) currently of seekonk ma has plead guilty in new bedford district court for molesting his step daughter and her cousin.

(their names i cannot remember, but he was with us on the silent lambs march in brooklyn).

RedhorseWoman

What? He marched in the Silentlambs march??

I think he means Kristi Hynes brother, who was also molested by Ralph. Weird thing is, he was in my congregation when I was growing up.

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I Need Help Waxing my Wood. Any Pointers?

by Robdar in

jw
friends

the house i live in is old and so the wood is true wood, not some sort of compressed plywood nonsense.

i have a loft that is all wood, the walls, floors, etc.

yesterday i cleaned the entire room from top to bottom with pledge wood cleaner.

RedhorseWoman

I'm no expert on this, but I do remember helping my mother wax her hardwood floors twice each year. She would usually clean the floors with Murphy's Oil Soap to remove dirt and excess wax, then she would use Butcher's Wax (which is a solid wax) and buff it out.

What we usually do now, is to put several coats of polyurethane on woodwork to protect it and give it a nice shine.

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How many of you have had panic/anxiety attacks at the KH or...

by berylblue in

...cried through a meeting and, if so, what were the reasons?.

i cried through a lot of meetings at my second congregation while i was still in good standing.

i couldn't stop myself; i'd just cry quietly.

RedhorseWoman

I can totally relate to this. ***HUGS*** I started having severe panic attacks during the period that I had become inactive. I kept trying to get myself back to the Hall, but most of the time, I would break down shaking and crying at the door as I tried to leave for the meetings.

Occasionally, I would force myself to go despite the attack, and I would generally sit through the meeting shaking and hyperventilating with my vision compressed into a black, tunnel-like effect. The only person who was even remotely friendly to me during this period eventually ending up leaving the JWs.....I wonder why.

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Newbie question about the NGO story

by gcc2k in

i've seen the reproductions of evidence in the ngo story.. let's say i was to discuss this matter with a local friendly elder.

i imagine that the following criticisms would ensue:.

1) that is not a real letter sent by the society (saying it was just for a library card, or as the version from portugal said, to gain favor in certain nations).. 2) the reply from the librarian at the un saying that becoming an ngo is not a requirement for a library pass is not real.. my main concern is with the latter.

RedhorseWoman

To a hard-core JW, this is a non-issue. Over on Beliefnet, several of us have repeatedly pointed out the hypocrisy of the Society's condemning other religious groups for joining the UN as NGOs when they did the same thing.

The JWs either refuse to answer or they come back with a statement such as, "Well, the Society didn't step over the line with regard to neutrality, so it's okay." Of course, they then refuse to define what they mean by "step over the line."

It's well-nigh impossible to get a JW to accept anything that makes the Society look bad. They will turn themselves inside out in an attempt to justify anything the Society does.

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New England or Better Yet Western Mass.

by FlowerPower in

hey out there in cyber world, are there any exjw's from my neck of the woods?

would love to chat with you about our different experiences with the borg.

maybe we know some of the same people, same elders.

RedhorseWoman

Bittersweet, I'm at work right now, so I can't do much with email, but I will contact you later....or you could email me at [email protected]

I don't remember anyone named Deanna offhand. I was probably in one of the earlier groups that visited in the 60s and early 70s. We were guy hunting primarily. I was pretty shy and never did too well in that area. LOL

J6, yes, I do remember the Ainsworths. They were in our congregation at that time....Margo, Donnie(?).....and I can't remember the rest of them.

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New England or Better Yet Western Mass.

by FlowerPower in

hey out there in cyber world, are there any exjw's from my neck of the woods?

would love to chat with you about our different experiences with the borg.

maybe we know some of the same people, same elders.

RedhorseWoman

Well, I'm not from Massachusetts any longer--I live in Rhode Island--but I used to belong to the Attleboro congregation, and occasionally visited congregations on the Cape--Falmouth included.

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I Adopted A Pet From The Humane Society

by RAYZORBLADE in

jw
friends

yessiree...i had an afternoon off last friday.

so i decided to venture down to the toronto humane society.

i was so surprised at the variety of animals: dogs, cats, rabbits, guinea pigs, ferrets, rats, mice and birds.

RedhorseWoman

I've adopted several over the years. Usually, though, we end up with those that others are planning to take to the shelter, or the ones that people have set "free" to live in the country.....almost surely a death sentence, btw.

I trapped, neutered, and kept several ferals that were starving and coming to our place for food. Then, last year, we lost several of our older cats (late teens), and I went to the shelter to look for "a" replacement cat. While there, I checked out a 15-year-old who had been neglected and abandoned, and who had spent a year at the shelter because everyone felt that she was too old. So....I adopted her as well as one other cat. Both of them are doing really well.

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Hi Everyone! I'm homeless now!

by Yizuman in

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friends

i just arrived there yesterday afternoon where my bro-in-law dropped me off.

my first night's sleep wasn't exactly eventful since there is no beds available and i have to sleep on the pews which my body doesn't exactly agree with hard wood and no cushion on it.

so i didn't sleep very well.

RedhorseWoman

I used the IP-Relay chat today to call my sister to catch up on the happenings and asked my sister if my little buddy Fiesty (my cat) got a home and she said no and she said she took him to my Grandmother's farm instead where all the farm cats are at in the barn.

I mentioned this elsewhere, Yiz, but I'll repeat it here. Speak to you father about living in your grandmother's house.

It's not wise to have an unoccupied house just sitting around deteriorating. You need a place to stay. Your grandmother's house is empty and could use a housekeeper/caretaker. You say that your father and brother go there every day to do farm work. Sounds to me as if that could work out beautifully for you.

You take care of the house, and get a place to stay. They come down every day to do farm work, so you could probably borrow the car to go job hunting.

Plus, taking an indoor cat and dumping it at a barn with an already established colony without following relocation protocols is pretty much a death sentence for that cat. If you were living in the house, your kitty could live with you.

I think you should investigate this possibility. Most people have nowhere near the resources you have available....all you need to do is take advantage of them.

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Got this letter

by Yesterdays Child in

throughout the years after having come to know through your marriage to my daughter you have been a very kind and thoughtful person, sometimes more than my own son.

i don't think that a mother-in-law could want a finer person for a son than you.

however, it is very unfortunate that i will have to change the way that i will relate to you now and in the future.

RedhorseWoman

I know that my attitude is probably very evil, but my thought is to just act as if she has made no change whatsoever to YOUR life.

If she should come to visit in your home, treat her as you would any other guest. Sit and talk with her....refuse to be intimidated. If she acts cold, ask her why. Invite her to dinner and force HER to turn down the invitation. When she does...ask her why.

If she stays for dinner but refuses to talk with you, make it a point to attempt conversation with her. Make HER squirm due to the results of her own decision. You shouldn't be forced to comply with her rudeness, nor should you have to be the bad guy.

If she wants the children to visit Grandma, make sure you go along and visit, too. Put the burden on her. It's not YOUR problem....don't make it yours. It's hers. Let HER deal with it.