RedhorseWoman

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  Suicidal fear of rejection.

  by seven006 in

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  the fear of rejection has once again controlled my life and my actions in an unintentional act of self destruction brought on by how i was raised to view life.

  i have come to the conclusion that i will probably be battling this psychological whirlpool of self sabotage for the rest of my life and i do not think i have the ability to completely eliminate it.

  talking about it here is a start.

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  RedhorseWoman

  Dave, ****HUGS****

  I am so sorry that things are really messed up right now. I know how special she is to you.

  You expressed your thoughts and feelings so well. Can you possibly do this with her? If she loves you (and I think she does) she may be able to help you through all of this. It's always better if the person you care about at least understands why certain things affect you in a certain way.

  Please don't give up. You have a lot to offer as a human being, and I'm sure she knows it. Trust her. Let her know what she means to you and why you're reacting as you have.

  Many, many ***HUGS**** You know we're all rooting for you.
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  I Seened it With My Own Eyes @o@

  by Funchback in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  things i saw as a jw:.

  * the "f" word spelled out on the information board in the back of the hall.

  the person used the tacks used for posting letters and talks and spelled out the expletive.

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  RedhorseWoman

  We had the pioneer sister who would go out and get drunk regularly. Frequently, she would be involved in hit-and-run accidents or would get picked up by the police for DUI. One of the elders would constantly be bailing her out of jail and hushing things up.

  This same sister would spend most of her time at get-togethers fawning all over the unbelieving husbands of sisters who were present. No one dared to say anything to her because of her "in" with the elders.

  The homosexual brother who married the ugliest sister to ever walk the planet (I swear she could have qualified as the missing link), and then promptly informed her that he found her repulsive and would never sleep with her.

  This same brother used to like to take young teenage brothers "camping". Any of the young brothers who went with him once were afraid to go again.

  And the topper......

  The ministerial servant married to the elder's daughter, well on his way to becoming an elder himself, who was arrested for murdering an elderly woman in order to get cash to support his cocaine habit. He also spent most of the time he was supposed to be working at his job in bars and with prostitutes.
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  One less bible study for them

  by caballoSentado in

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  dear friends,.

  my wife & i have some days ago talked to our maid, she had been studying the bible with a pioneer for almost a year & was beeing pressured into baptism.

  we informed her all about the wt-un scandal & other things... she has just cancelled her study.

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  RedhorseWoman

  Great work! It always helps if you can expose newbies to the truth about the "truth" before they become totally enmeshed in the cult. What a save!
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  Went to a meeting a few weeks ago.......

  by flower in

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  well actually it wasnt a meeting, it was my grandma's funeral but it may as well been the 'special talk' for the year with all the bullshit they were spewing.. the 'brother' giving the 'eulogy' (haha..) was an elder from my former congregation, my parents current congregation and to my knowledge (i'm 99% sure) has never met or seen my grandmother before that day.

  neither had any of the other jw's that were there 'supporting' my family...well the jw family anyway, the rest of us dont need support since we are df'd.. i hadnt been to a meeting for almost 2 years now and i cant tell you how hard it was sitting through the twisting of scriptures and arrogance know it all attitude coming from the speaker.

  my bf and i just looked at each other in disgust while scripture after scripture was read to prove the dead are just dead and their soul is dead and all we have to do is wait till the ressurection if we want to see them again.

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  RedhorseWoman

  I can certainly empathize with you on this, Flower. When my parents died, I was inactive, and after having been away for some time, I was appalled at what an "advertisement" the funeral services were. If I didn't know for sure why I was there, I would have thought it was just another meeting, and not a memorial service for my parents. They made it seem as if neither Mom nor Dad had ever existed except for their beliefs.
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  Watchtower Society Given Prestigious Medical Award

  by Derrick in

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  2. current

  many on this site focus on the society's negative aspects.

  it's as if many of you are afraid to mention anything positive just in case it might reveal that jehovah's witnesses are humans who keep trying, even after various human failings, to make a positive impact on this world.. don't you agree that it's fair to give them credit when due?

  then read on.

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  RedhorseWoman

  waiting made an excellent point. While it is true that doctors have been forced to develop alternatives to blood transfusions that are safer, the fact that JWs are not really given a choice in the matter tends to lessen the shine of their "contribution". Too many have died in sacrifice to a bogus doctrine. And those who valued the life God gave them most likely lost all of the associations in their lives.

  The "honor" has a dark side.
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  Freaky "ESP" Test

  by Scully in

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  RedhorseWoman

  Observe carefully, Grasshopper, and the unknown will become known.
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  oh christmas tree ;-)

  by zev in

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  today we put up our first christmas tree together.

  ahhhhh....life is so good!

  edited by - zev on 1 december 2002 17:20:55.

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  RedhorseWoman

  That's it, zev.....you are now doomed!! Ain't it great?
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  How did you feel about 'fake' witnesses?

  by Simon in

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  i'm sure you know the ones i mean ... they decided to have a family 'present day' on dec 26th each year so that the kids could announce what presents they got while the rest of us 'zealots' were getting the piss taken out of us.. at the time, i could not understand how or why they did it or got away with it - it seemed obvious to me that thwy were celebrating christmas and we were not supposed to.

  but hell, what did i know ... i was only a kid ... not an elder .

  now, i kind-a-think "yeah, do what's right for your kids" but also "you're not fooling anyone!

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  All right, I admit it....my mom was one of the guilty ones. We initially didn't have a Family Day, but after a couple of years, she took pity on my sister and I and would get us presents either a week or so before Christmas, or just after Christmas. Hey, I was always out in field service on Christmas Day, so this gave me a little something to look forward to. It stopped when I got a little older, but it was nice while it lasted.
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  Forbidden Pleasures ......

  by BobsGirl in

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  this morning on the way to work, i burst into song.

  not just any song ... but the heretofore forbidden "star spangled banner".

  i just felt like singing and i wanted to sing something challenging and it seemed like the perfect choice.

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  RedhorseWoman

  Handel's "Messiah". Singing Christmas Carols. Reading books by Stephen King, Anne Rice, et al. Displaying a flag. Saying "Happy Birthday" and "Merry Christmas" and "God Bless You" at the appropriate times.
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  X 'Hovahs Who Still Believe

  by TR in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  caught inbetween the wt doctrine and being "worldly", x 'hovahs live a strange life indeed.

  sampling what the world has to offer, yet remaing loyal to wt doctrine is the dichotomy that is the loyal x 'hovah.. my friend, let's call him "gomer", is such a person.

  undoubtedly bothered by this situation, gomer refuses to delve into the world of the truth about the "truth".

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  RedhorseWoman

  I lived in this netherworld for quite some time. Of course, when I became inactive, it was prior to the Internet, so I really had no means of checking anything out. Initially, however, I don't suppose that I would have tried....the indoctrination ran deep.

  Slowly, however, more and more things just didn't make sense. The ultimate "blow" came when I read the list of cult characteristics that is listed on the freedomofmind site. I felt as if someone had literally punched me, its impact was so great.

  Once I realized that the JWs qualified as a cult in almost 98 percent of the criteria listed, the rest, as they say, was history.

  Sometimes people need to cling to what they know. Eventually your friend may finally begin to acknowledge that the "truth" really isn't.