Posts by ruderedhead

He did warn you, but when you are dealing with a small child, things don't always register immediately, even though we respond. Then a couple hours later say "oh, crap!"

Since your immediate family is out and you do not wish to play by jw rules, look at your caller id before answering your phone, and if it's a witness, let it go to voice mail. Then don't return the call. Should they show up unannounced at your home and catch you by surprise, a quick "this is a bad time, please call first" should suffice. Some elders are good about giving people their space, others live for making trouble. Hopefully you are dealing with a good one who will go away & leave you in peace.

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GUILT TRIPS AND EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL!!!

by DATA-DOG in

all hell has broken loose at my house!

the wife is pissed [ i did not turn in the "voluntary tithe" slip .

if she doesn't go, then she cannot do x event tomorrow.

ruderedhead

You have to have your daughter's back, DD. What happened is messed up, your daughter may wind up with emotional issues if things continue to go this way, and she could place some blame on you later on for not protecting her from her Mom's emotional abuse.

Lovingly exert your headship from now on. There are times you will be able to compromise. Sometimes you may have to gently overrule yor wife. But don't allow her to abuse your child, understanding that she is doing what she has been taught by the wt idiots. Her intent isn't to hurt her child. Hopefully your daughter doesn't have too much time with Mom when you aren't there so Mom can't manipulate.

I'm sure you can find plenty of credible material online regarding guilt trips and manipulation, including ways to curb it.

You have your work cut out for you. Wishing you all the best.

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Update about my Daughter In Law

by troubled mind in

a few yrs ago i posted about my daughter in law ........ http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/202817/1/happy-and-nervous-for-my-daughter-in-law#.u2uf91fli-0.

she has been such an inspiration .

she has studied hard and next week will be recieving her associates of science degree with honors !

ruderedhead

Congratulations to your d-i-l! And what a wonderful m-i-l she has!

Thank you for sharing her story.

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As a parent, did you ever have a swimming pool and invite neighbor kids?

by 4thgen in

being 4th generation, i realize that am socially stunted, in regard to those that are not jws.

i am forging ahead and endeavoring to build a life outside of jw's.

i am trying as i can to socialize my child to make friends and be a normal kid.

ruderedhead

We have almost always had a pool. No more than a couple friends at a time unless another Mom/Dad is there to help watch. If you are diligent and never leave them alone, you should be fine. Eagle eyes at all times! It's a great way to get to know some parents of your child's friends as well. Invite them over with their child to swim, have some lunch or whatever you wish, and get to know them.

Just remember pools can be a lot of work!

Have fun!

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Convicted paedophile allowed to grill his victims at Jehovah's Witness meeting

by Sapphy in

http://www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/greater-manchester-news/convicted-paedophile-jonathan-rose-grilled-7151197.

oh my goodness, i'm so angry i can't even speak!

"women who complained that former jehovahs witness elder jonathan rose, 40, had molested them as children relived their nightmares in front of him after he was released from jail".

ruderedhead

That is sick & disgusting! I am amazed that these women didn't tell the elders to bleep off and leave this relegion!

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Hi Everyone

by DisArmed in

jw
friends

hi folks,.

i've been reading posts here off and on for years.

i decided to go ahead and join in with a post.

ruderedhead

Welcome!

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Strong, odd and weird opinions on my brothers anniversary

by usualusername in

today my brother a non witness gave me a phone call.. .

he spoke about this, that and the other.

he then said that my oldest brother (an elder) was having his 25th wedding anniversary.

ruderedhead

usualusername, your solution seems just right to me! Have a great time!

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I am sick and tired, I am proud, I am leaving

by never a jw in

jw
friends

for 2 years, soon after my daughter's baptism, i have been exchanging many emails with an elder of her congregation.

good man, but he is a jw and he just drove me to the brink of madness recently; that was the drop the spill the water.

it's a cult.

ruderedhead

Have a great life! Happy that you saved your son, and I hope that your daughter does indeed see the light.

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My Elderette is attempting to change the subject again

by Faithful Witness in

we were in the middle of discussing their use of god's personal name, and miss k was not able to find one place in the bible, where jesus actually said the name out loud (that wasn't a quote from the ot).

we had started out by talking about jesus being "the way, the truth and the life.

" then she stated that one of the purposes of jesus' coming to earth, was "to make god's name known.

ruderedhead

Faithful, bless your sweet heart for trying, but you're wasting your time and energy with this woman. It appears from your posts that she is not listening to what you are saying, and has her own agenda that she is going to stick to. She is obviously fully immersed in this cult and brainwashed. I hope you don't get too frustrated if you want to keep going with her. May I ask how long you're willing to keep trying to wake her up?

All the best to you. Who knows, amybe you actually do have her thinking.