diana netherton, your ex boyfriend simply was not worthy of you. Once your heart heals, your will realize that. Just as the witnesses fooled you once, so did he. Better to find out now than in 10 years. Your life will be much richer in the long run. All the best to you, lovely lady.
ruderedhead
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Cheers! Here's to lost opportunities and forgotten memories.
by pronomono init's 1am and i'm halfway through a glass of brandy.
i've been cleaning out the closet (literally), and reminiscing about old times and decisions i didn't make.
it's times like these i regret being brought up as a witness the most.
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Cheers! Here's to lost opportunities and forgotten memories.
by pronomono init's 1am and i'm halfway through a glass of brandy.
i've been cleaning out the closet (literally), and reminiscing about old times and decisions i didn't make.
it's times like these i regret being brought up as a witness the most.
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ruderedhead
LOVE the poem, Simon. Thank you for sharing it, I think it is something most of us ex-witnesses need to hear from time to time.. Prono, hope you are feeling less melancholy today. When it comes to thoughts about your old girlfriend, remember, things always seem greener on the other side. She may actually be a real biotch to live with, you just never know. Try to find your passion in the life you have now, so you have no future regrets.
LoisLane, I hope you are doing better after the blow you got from your sisters death.
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Just when I thought it was over I get a phone call
by label licker inone of the families in the hall called me last night and let another piece of the puzzle out.
apparently there was another family that we don't even know who had gotton a phone call from these jerk off elders down here questioning them about us and what they knew.
(anything negative).
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If you really want to speak to the guy at bethel, I would consider writing down what you want to say in case you get angry and start to forget. Just the highlights to help you, and make sure to name names, dates, places. Tell him these ones have stumbled you with their unchristian, unscriptural behavior, and you can't see yourself going back because of them. Relay the story of the bully handshake. Try to stay calm & matter of fact. This might sound mean, but those with power who use it for evil & to hurt others, deserve to be outed.
When it is all over & done with, you can call each of these and tell them to go sit on their thumbs & rotate. Just say it directly to them so there is no trail.
All the best to you!
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See Kathleen (Candace's mother) Conti's appearance on CBS Sacramento TV this evening - (Program about Calif. Bill SB131) - JW abused her too
by AndersonsInfo in.
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http://sacramento.cbslocal.com/video/9288079-church-sex-abuse-victims-cheer-bill-heading-to-gov-browns-desk/ reporter's transcript: http://sacramento.cbslocal.com/2013/09/09/church-sex-abuse-victims-cheer-bill-heading-to-gov-browns-desk/
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ruderedhead
I doubt that this will cripple them. They are going to instruct all jw's not to watch/listen to this apostate stuff, it's satan working against the org., blah, blah, blah, p.s., please consider giving more $$ to help in the world wide work. And most jw's will do as they are told.However, It will help to keep some out, i believe.
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Has anyone else observed how the elderly JWs are neglected?
by Joepublisher1 ini know there are exceptions to this (by good-hearted jws), but has anyone else noticed how some jws (even those who are pios, elders, etc.
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(what i have seen is some jws hiding behind the fact that they are very busy in spiritual matters, too busy, to help their elderly parents with chores around their house, yet they find plenty of time for their own selfish pursuits.
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I don't know, Joepub, I've seen it both ways. In the first cong. I was in, there was a group of men who helped regularly with the physical needs of a brother with advanced ms, and his Mom was quite a handful to deal with, kind of unappreciative. I have seen in both congs I attended those that would assist the elderly, and those that were jerks, inc. elders wives. One incident stands out in my mind from the last hall. We were cleaning for the Memorial, and when I went to the ladies room to see what I could help with, there was an 80 something sister on her hands & knees cleaning the floor. 2 middle aged women, I know for certain at least one was an elders wife, can't remember if the second one was, it wasn't the warmest most welcoming cong., standing there talking. When I called those snots out on it, they brushed me off, saying that she did that for a living & was used to it. I was livid. Yes, I helped in that restroom.
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talking to jw's on Labor day
by JunkYardDog in2 sister are working a 6 family house near me and i know no one is home on holiday.
i tell the 19 yr old jw they are all on holiday.
she keeps running around the house hiding at all the doors.
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steve, he calls himself junk yard dog! Of course he's going to be aggressive! LOL!
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Letter to BOE re: baptism of my minor children
by Michelle365 inok i posted about a month ago asking for advice on writing a letter to my former congregation regarding my children.
my ex husband still goes to our old hall and although we have joint custody he is raising them to be good little jws on his time.
i understand that in your organization age is not a determining factor in whether or not a person can get baptized, however as the young people ask book points out:
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ruderedhead
Sounds like a well thought out, intelligent letter. No threats, just the facts.
Are you taking your children to another church so they can be exposed to the real truth of the Bible? Most churches have Bible study groups you and they could join to help them see the light. Or if that is too much, a pastor may be willing to work with them on pointing out some of the "misunderstandings" the witnesses have about the Bible. You don't want your ex, however well intentioned he may be, to bring them into this cult
. It sounds like you are a great Mom! All the best to you!
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Am I wasting my time?
by mrhhome ini am the husband of an ex-jw.
she left when she was 18, because she was dating a non-jw.
they got married, and he began openly cheating on her.
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I don't think you should regret becoming angry and calling them out on their bs. It's done, and from what you tell us of your wifes history, they had it coming. You had your wifes back, and that is what a loving, Christian husband does. Kudos.
I don't know what your mother in law said to make you think that she was coming close to blaming your wife for the sexual abuse, but perhaps you should be shunning HER! Her placing the blame on the victim is not scriptural, and certainly not what a loving mother would do. And why has it been kept from the Father? Does he have a violent temper? I'm sure the family has good reason.
It sounds like the brother may know what they did was wrong, but does not know what else to do.
I see no harm in the occassional scriptural discussion, but perhaps just keeping it cordial and keeping your distance right now would be the best route. I think your wife has been through quite a lot, and is blessed with a great husband.
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Special Local Needs talk this week
by rosesinbloom init was announed at the sunday meeting 9/1/13 that all congregationswill be hearing the same local needs talk this week as sent by the wbts.. i would like to know if anyone has had their service meeting yet and what it was about..
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I am wondering how the U.S. one is a "local need"?
And the U.K. just sounds strange!
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tell me not to cry...
by losingit inafter more than a month of not attending the meetings, my girls will be returning to the meeting tomorrow.
their father is taking them.
i was so happy because my girls were free from the boredom, drudgery and mind control inflicted upon those that attend.
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ruderedhead
I am assuming you still believe in God. You have been given some great advice here, and I'd like to suggest something as well. Find a church that you like, ask to meet with the clergy there, and explain the situation as best as you can, including what your beliefs are now. Ask them to help you with perhaps some Bible study for your children to debunk the watchtower falsehoods? They should be able to guide you. You will get through this, but I'm so sorry for the heartache you are going through now.