I don't blame the religion. You have to be a natural born asshole to do what they tell you.
There are natural born ass-holes. They have an authoritarian mindset. You can't change them.
There are also people who were raised by natural ass-holes. They might be be a little ass-holy because of their upbringing. They usually figure things out and become open-minded, tolerant, curious and fun in the second half of their life.