Over the years I've met loads of different circus over-sneers and their wives. Some were lovely people, some were not, with all variations in between.
Funny to think that my ex was an elder's wife when I was an elder.....gawd, those weren't the days
At the end of the day, (even at the beginning and middle), we're dealing with individual humans.
to me, at least, it's a given that humans are ultimately selfish, whether we know it or not, what's the bloody point in bothering? We'll all be dead soon anyway. Y'know, just to keep it positive.