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  Update & Moving on with life

  by Coffee House Girl in

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  hello all, just wanted to update you all on my further steps in the exiting process (a process that may never end in some respects).

  to set up a context for my update: my story in a nutshel-.

  did a quick fade in the fall of 2009 to start going to university and escape a very unhappy living situation.

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  whathappened

  Thanks for the update. I am glad things are slowly resolving themselves for you. You are young and will be just fine if you don't let the past control you. Keep moving forward and best wishes to you.
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  Has anyone Gone off WHEAT (I am thinking of it , too)

  by dreamgolfer in

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  let me know how you get your fiber?.

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  There are many holistic doctors who recommend getting off wheat to see if you feel better. Many people are sensitive to wheat and glutten. I notice when I don't eat wheat my skin is free of red splotches and my joints feel better. Wheat can be very inflamatory. People with fibromyalgia or fatigue should try going off wheat and corn for a while and see if that is the root problem.
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  University/Informing Elders/Elders Reactions/No longer pioneer

  by MsGrowingGirl20 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  university is going really good!

  i'm meeting alot of different people.

  friends are so much easier to make here with 'worldly ' people.

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  whathappened

  How relieved you must be to have this behind you. Glad to hear you didn't let the elders intimidate you. You have the control over your life now. Good news and we are all happy for you!
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  In praise of praise and compliments

  by exwhyzee in

  1. social
  2. humour

  i was thinking about how important praise and compliments are and how they can make all the difference to a person who may be feeling unsure, overwhelmed or sort of ordinary.

  i received 3 out of the blue compliments this past weekend that for some reason seem to have energized me when i was feeling sort of like just another starfish on the beach.

  one compliment gave me the reassurance that i am on the right track.

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  whathappened

  exwhyzee, I like your screenname, it's quite clever. That's another genuine compliment!!!

  Yes, some compliments you remember all your life. Sometimes it's not what they said, it's who said it. If it is from someone who you never thought would ever say a nice thing about you, or from someone who you hold in high esteem, it really, truly is something special.

  While growing up, I was always told I was pretty and funny. My sister was alway told she was smart. I grew up thinking I was dumb and my sister thought she wasn't pretty. Neither assumption is the case. It just goes to prove how powerful compliments are. Now, I always make sure to compliment all children present equally. I never compliment one without saying something special about the other one. A compliment can truly make someone's day.

  I was told that I was the salt of the earth, another time a true blue friend. Those were special comments for me. I appreciated being complimented on something other than my looks.
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  Those Wonderful Kingdom Songs

  by Quendi in

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  whathappened

  I remember the old green songbook from the 1950's. I loved those songs and sang them as a child. This newest songbook is whack. They changed the songs and not for the better. I don't ever want to hear the songs from those songbooks again.
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  jc meeting

  by Princess Ashe in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  this has been years ago but i was remembering one of my jc meetings, they told me to sit at the very front of the hall while they all sat in the room in the back of the hall to discuss.. and i heard 1 elder yelling from all the way accross the hall.

  has anyone every had this happen?

  its so crazy now looking back at it and how stupid everything was handled..

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  whathappened

  At my JC, I was left sobbing and crying hysterically in the library while the 3 goons went into the main auditorium to "pray" and discuss about me. They came back in very short order with the standard, "We don't want to do this but we have to disfellowship you" comeback. It's really crazy and if I had to do it all over again I would not dignify them with my presence.
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  My worst friend

  by fade_away in

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  2. experiences

  i need to vent a bit here.

  my wife is a social person who finds it very easy to find people she can connect with and have tons in common.

  i am the complete opposite.

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  whathappened

  I would suggest to you that you let your wife know that you miss being a twosome. Ask her to reserve at least one evening every weekend to spend with you. She may be totally unaware of how you feel. She would probably welcome the time alone with you and may even help you find a guy friend to hang out with. Always let your wife know how you are feeling. Women love it when our men make themselve vulnerable to us. She loves you. Tell her how you feel.
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  The Truth About Elder "G. A" Who Was Involved With The Candace Conti Case

  by God_Delusion in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  hi guys & gals!.

  earlier today, i came across balaamsass' topic which he/she titled "watchtower honors jehovah's witness elders responsible for candice conti and menlo park fiascos".. this post got me thinking.

  i read through all the comments, but noticed that no one knew who this "g.

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  whathappened

  I know of a certain former Circuit Overseer in St. Louis, MO USA who molested young boys in the 1970's, was disfellowshipped for it, got reinstated and is currently serving as an elder and has been for years. They are just as bad as the Catholic Church and denying it doesn't change a thing.
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  JW Mom killed in house

  by Wordly Andre in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  http://www.pe.com/localnews/murrieta/stories/pe_news_local_s_sdead29.4016de2.html

  murrieta - a 40-year-old mother of two was killed in her murrieta home monday morning, authorities said.

  coroner's officials identified the woman as isabelle jarka.

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  whathappened

  Lois, I went through the same thing. My JW husband was fishing buddies with all the elders. He hit me and threatened my life. He kept a gun on the night stand by our bed filled with hollow tip bullets, cop killers, is what he called them.

  The elders didn't beleve me that I was afraid for my life. I got a restraining order and moved out and the elders told me I was wrong for doing that and was bringing shame upon Jehovah's name. They told me I was vengefull and aggressive for taking my furniture and belongings that I had brought into the marriage with me when I left. They told me I should have called them instead of the police when he hit me. They questioned me about why, if I was so terrified of him, would I actually make my fears public? Like I must be lying, and if I was truly afraid, I would keep quiet and maybe he would never act on his threats. How ridiculous their reasonling was. (after all, they were his fishing buddies, they know him so much better than I do, being his wife and all.)

  Go get a restraining order or move as far away as possible. Make it widely known that he is purposely intimidating you. Your life and possibly your daughter's life is at stake. Do not sit and wait. Take action.
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  untitled

  by clarity in

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  2. friends

  guitarguy ... wow you are so wellcome on here along with your wife!.

  your offer to this dear person is heartwarming ... lovely to see!.

  so many have been damaged by the wt society, they should be sued .

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  whathappened

  Yes, Clairty, I just noticed there are ads inside posters reply boxes. This is new or I haven't noticed it before. I hope these poster's aren't putting ads in their posts. It is very distracting.