Me and my family left the cult last year and some of my jw family have not spoken to us in over 2.5 years. We were inactive for a year but that's all and still no contact from them!!! They judged me and my family as bad association so we have children that have cousins and uncles who they have never seen. What a nice bunch of people these jw's are!!!! My dad is a miserable serpent again now and since the special day assembly things have gone very frosty. I'm certain that he has been told to avoid us by the pupet masters.. My brother got married but they wouldn't attend.
My advise to you is to move on with your life and shun your jw family as they have made their mind up about you. You have some good other family that are going to be there for you, your mom won't. How dare she treat you like this!!! The sooner you tell your JW family to get lost the better. You are better off without them. I know thats going to hurt but it's your life and not the WTBTS. Make 2011 the year you move on.
And you are stronger than you think because it takes alot to up and leave these family behind. But you must and maybe soon the evil the WTBTS do to families will be there downfall . Amen to that !
Hugs from
HHG and family