Hi Crazyguy, You are in a no win situation. That sucks for you.
IMHO you need to be true to yourself, because no matter what you will be stuck with your decision(s). I would recommend that you tell your wife that you are a Christian and therefore when there is conflict between following the teachings and examples of Jesus Christ and the WTBTS, you will follow Jesus Christ. If your wife disagrees with you, ask her to prove with any Bible that Jesus Christ condons shunning and not associating with non-believers, conditional love, hypocrisy, etc.
MT 22:34-40 should be able to help your wife to interpret the scriptures. MT 22: 37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ [c] 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. Hopefully, your wife will notice that the greatest commandment does not say blindly follow the GB. It says with "ALL" your heart, soul, and mind.
Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,
Robert