sorry to hear of the loss ((((Jimbob & Ms Jimbob))))
I know you may be dreading it now, to set foot in a KH, but when I had to for my dad's and then my f-i-l's memorial, it was surreal. The JWs were more afraid of me and my family than I of them. (Of course a nice shot of rum in the parking lot helped calm me down )
Remember, you know more than the average JW and they are the ones under the influence of a "cult".
Let us know how it goes.
Hugs,
Joy