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  My experience with the "faithful and discreet slave"?

  by Blttex in

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  who really is the faithful and discreet slave........ .

  funeral experience.

  i attended my first "worldly" funeral last saturday.

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  Lozhasleft

  Welcome! Great intro post and so encouraging to hear about you waking up by not being afraid to listen to your girlfriend and follow her research.

  Loz x
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  shunning wrecks families

  by bigmac in

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  thread started to avoid going off topic elsewhere.. this matter of shunning---my story.. i made the decision to resign from the jw religion in my early twenties--i'm 65 now.

  i knew i would never deny any of mine a blood transfusion--just to appease this religion --and its deity.. my jw wife had just had our first child--a girl---and we went on over the next 7 years to have 2 more planned for kids---both boys.

  i like to think i was a good dad--they meant everything to me.. i hold up my hand and admit i caused the break up of that marriage---my wife stayed in the religion--and--apparently it was announced in the kh i couldnt be d/f'd---as i hadnt been a jw for years---so they said i was an apostate.. fast forward a few years--into the mid 80's---i had remarried--and led a relatively normal life.

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  Lozhasleft

  Sorry to hear this sad history Big Mac. So many of us are affected by this terrible cult that damages families.

  Loz x
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  Is this true? Do the elders really do it like this?

  by Julia Orwell in

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  2. friends

  i put this week's wt paragraph about disfellowshipping on my fb page and said how poor robert's family didn't even check to see whether he was dead or alive in 16 years and a friend of mine of the 'conscious class' commented about how unchristian she felt disfellowshipping to this degree is, and i agreed.. another friend, and uber-jw who has a host of illnesses and yet pioneers, who everytime she and her husband go to another congregation, if he's not appointed within three years they move to another and try for an appointment there - he used to be an elder and no one is willing to promote him again- replied to my thread.

  now keep in mind she has a dfd son and she doesn't even know whether he is dead or alive, because she follows the wt to the tee.

  she replied, among other things,with this:.

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  Lozhasleft

  I confessed a minor sin with sincere repentance and was disfellowshipped. When I asked them, in tears, how that could happen if I was sorry, one of them said and I quote "It's not quite that simple". So the uber JW doesn't know what she's talking about.

  Later, my shock at the events, and the destruction of my trust, led me to research the WTBS, and that set me free, so .... with hindsight I can say it was a good thing....but a devastating thing to live through with great losses.

  Loz x
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  Post cataract surgery Great News!

  by Lady Lee in

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  my vision before the surgery was 20/60 in the eye that has had the surgery.

  i saw my eye dr today and it has moved up to 20/30.

  this is way beyond what i expected.

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  Lozhasleft

  Brilliant news Lee! A whole new world for you.

  Loz x
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  Still in with kids

  by thinking_ability in

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  Lozhasleft

  Hello and welcome! I'd recommend Steve Hassan's books on Combatting Cult Control to help you to free other loved ones, there's a skill to this, and you can learn it. Based on my experience of losing my kids to the WTBS, I'd have to tell you to run fast and leave it behind them and you before it's tentacles ruin your family. But I do get that sometimes it's not so easy...so...I'd build strong family traditions and be sure to place the unity and love of your family above anything, and I mean anything JW related. Without traditional holidays etc it won't be so easy, cos those things are what cement family memories and bonds.

  I can't urge you strongly enough to escape and bring up your kids in freedom though. What about a strategic fade so that you keep some extended family, once of course you've managed to help your other half? Lots of good info and support here to help you.

  Loz x
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  TTATT Billboards?

  by Emery in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  has anyone ever thought about paying for a billboard close to either an assembly hall or a kingdom hall during memorial season?

  for instance i would probably pay for a billboard for a week or 2 displaying jwfacts.com on the highway or a nearby road that witnesses travel on heavily.

  has anyone ever tried something like this?.

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  This sounds like a good idea to me. Well done. Any idea that reaches people trapped in there, that doesn't harm those using it, can only be good, surely?

  Loz x
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  Just realized I hadn't posted my story here yet

  by Newly Enlightened in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i've been so busy on other subjects and other people's interesting stories that i had not noticed that i had not posted my story on this forum yet.

  kind of boring.

  the usual.

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  Lozhasleft

  Interesting story NE, sorry to hear about your health problems, and what you had to put up with at the KH. No room for much compassion in there, as ever!

  Loz x
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  Are we all bitter?

  by LouBelle in

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  i posted a link on fb that lead to a topic here.

  i then had one of my 'friends' start having a go about how bitter everyone is here....fact he said.

  (he used to be a jw elder but left a while back, not sure why he left or if he has even researched the faith since leaving) the more i tried to reason with him that actually it is a support forum, the more he lashed out that everyone here bad mouths the jw's and only attack the jw's.

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  Lozhasleft

  Good thread Loubelle, I was for a while, I could feel it, eating me up...it turned into anger, and then grief, and gradually an acceptance. I don't want any bitterness in my heart, it only destroys the person, it makes one ugly, so I fought the tendency towards it. I willingly forgive all those in the WTBS who personally brought me pain, understanding that they were simply instruments of a cult. As for the cult - I will leave them to my Heavenly Father since its not up to me.

  Loz x
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  My first post...Facebook discussion

  by mzmmom in

  1. jw
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  i have been visiting this site for almost a year, and i have found it very useful.

  there was a post on a facebook group last night about jw visits and to be nice when they call at your door.

  so, after about 100 posts, i posted a link to this website.

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  Lozhasleft

  Hello and welcome! You won't get deleted here, (good for you trying to help others stuck in there) well not unless you break some rules lol.

  Loz x
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  Not A Captive got Humbled

  by humbled in

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  2. friends

  i'm sure the more discerning of you thought that the silly, green, wooly-headed avatar called "humbled" that strolled on the scene here looked familiar....... it is i, nac, with a new given name come back for a visit since i have internet for a while.

  i have missed you these three years.

  i've been in a far away land--the ozark mountains of nw arkansas.. because i've been blessed with anal canal cancer (nothing so hum-drum as rectal cancer) circumstances allow me to share your company 'til my sad bum can get radiated more-or-less back into shape.. any quality potty-humor (no naughty bm's---oops!---.

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  Lozhasleft

  Yes, I am that friend! It's true that we are thankful for our years free from sickness. So, how has life been in those there mountains? Have you been enjoying the isolation?

  Loz x