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  (If you ever were) Was getting DF'ed a relief? Did you lose patience with 'the fade'?

  by Sapphy in

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  i was wondering about this.. i'm doing a slow fade, i don't want to lose friends and family - but it's frustrating.

  wasting time going to meetings etc when my heart and head isn't in it anymore.

  it feels like a game played by everyone elses rules but mine.

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  I was df'd several years ago, and then reinstated. (I committed adultery because I thought it was the only way to get out of a marriage that I was miserable in.) After a few months of being disfellowshipped, I was very relieved. I got reinstated because I loved my mom and I knew how much she wanted it for me. That was a mistake on my part. I don't think I was ready to face the fact that I had spent my life banging my head against a wall to be a "good girl", and all it had done was make me miserable.

  I got re-married to a "worldly" man. And of course I was publicly reproved for that. But it didn't matter anyway, even when I was reinstated, I was still treated like a leper. So, I tried the fade for a while, and let me tell you, that is exhausting! I finally just stopped going, and I haven't had any trouble from it so far. The elders have not tried to meet with me, and if they do, I will refuse. I don't care if they disfellowship me in absentia or whatever. You don't have to fade, just stop going. Thats what I did after a while, and I am so much happier now!
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  SD-7 Is In the House!

  by snowbird in

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  welcome back!.

  you were definitely missed.. syl.

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  SD-7----- Glad you are back, I haven't been on much lately. I have been swamped with classes. But when I am on here, I like to see your posts! Hope things will be looking up for you soon.
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  Beware of the Strawman argument!

  by Farkel in

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  years ago before i took the time and effort to study logic and argumentation, i went to a market and bought some toothpaste.

  it was a little-known brand and it touted "baking soda" as its magic ingredient.

  it was also cheaper than the name-brand toothpastes and that helped me in my decision.

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  Wow Farkel! You have stirred up quite a discussion here! Kudos on your explanation of the strawman argument. I have never heard it explained so clearly.

  Debator---I still can't understand, if you believe in the teachings of the Watchtower Society so completely, do you not know that you are endangering your relationship with Jehovah, and your eternal salvation by being on an apostate website? The very fact that you ignore the warnings of the Faithful and Discreet Slave proves to me that you really don't believe in it too much, or you would be pissing your pants with fear and guilt right now and running straight away to confess your sins to the elders and receive your "loving discipline." And if by chance you are an elder in the congregation, are you so haughty as to think that you are above Satan's machinations?
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  Have you ever deleted friends on facebook?

  by asilentone in

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  why did you do it?

  i have done it on several occasions.

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  I deleted twelve JWS a few weeks ago. I have one left on there that has been one of my best friends for years, and it is uncertain whether she will stay or not!!!! She has recently been reinstated, and now she is more zealous than she ever has been. I don't care if it hurts their feeelings. They would do it to me if I was Df'ed. Only one of them has sent me another request, we were childhood friends, and I really do love her too, but it is just a risk that I can't take right now!
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  Farting at the meetings

  by RR in

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  how about it, c'mon, confess!

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  Ha ha ha! This thread is great. One time a sister in my hall, (very prissy) bent down to pick something up off the floor, and she couldn't quite reach it, so she was rocking herself forward, and one slipped out. She actually got mad about it! It was HILARIOUS!
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  Profoundly Shock, Sadening and Traumatic Account of Mary Aguilar

  by Scott77 in

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  after reading this internet link below about the profoundly shocking, sadening and traumatic account of mary aguilar, an ex-jw woman's systematic treatment and abuse, what do you think regarding the action her jw abusive husband, the congregational elders, and finally, the wts attitude when she finally reported the accident to them?

  is there any related experienes that you might have come across?.

  http://www.lawenforcementtoday.com/blogs/view/306.

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  I know of other situations like that, mine for one. My husband was beating me very badly, and all the brothers were concerned with was the fact that I had smoked a cigarette. They offered absolutely no help, and they did NOT mention leaving him as an option. It was so sick, I could swear that at least one of them gained pleasure from knowing he was beating me. I think that all of them felt that he was well within his rights to do it.
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  I'm Alone

  by ~Jen~ in

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  i have 1 friend since leaving the borg.

  1 friend who lives an hour away.

  we talk through out the day, everyday but we only see each other about once a month.. i just found out my ex boyfriend who was trying to win me back and have me come back to him got a girl pregnant about a week or two after we broke up.

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  You have friends here in us, I know that we are on a computer, but depending on where you live, I am sure that there would be people that would be more than willing to get together for coffee and a chat.

  I am so sorry that you feel lonely, for me, it is one of the worst feelings, so I can understand why you have been considering going back to your past, but PLEASE resist the urge!!!! If you do, you will set yourself back even further, and I predict that eventually, you would have to do this all over again in the future. Push through the fear and loneliness, and I am confident that there is a bright life waiting for you on the other side!
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  SPECIAL for newbies! Osculate Hank's gluteus!

  by Nathan Natas in

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  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fdp7pkecjvq.

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  heh heh heh, gave me a little giggle.
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  What accusations do you have about us JWs? AND what group are YOU a part of?

  by theMadJW in

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  i'm one of the few jws that freely admit our faults and mistakes.. let's compare notes!.

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  MadJW--- I am asking this question with no malice intended. What are you doing here? Are you trying to convert us? If so, this is not going to work. Are you following Jesus' command to love your fellow man? If so, you may want to think of changing your definition of love.

  If you are active in the organization, then why do you think it is safe to be on here? You know that you could get disfellowshipped if it were discovered by the brothers that you were on this site. Which raises the question.... If you think that we are all so unintelligent, why are you wasting your time and risking your standing in the congregation just to engage us in some immature, malicious mudslinging?
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  If You Weren't In Rapt Attention What Did You Think About During The Meetings?

  by minimus in

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  i used to think of leaving early.

  at the end i started making excuses to leave (supposedly work related) so that i could just get out of there.

  i wanted a drink!.

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  When I was a little kid, I would try to be as perfect as possible so that hopefully my father would be in a good mood and not beat my siblings and I within an inch of our life when we got home. He would never take us to the library during the meeting because he couldn't beat us hard enough in there, everyone would hear. We usually knew that it was coming when we got home. He was such a good father. A real "spare the rod, spoil the child" kinda guy!!!!

  Then, as I got into my teens, he became inactive, (big relief) And then I would look around at other people, and wonder if they were paying attention or just as bored as I was!!!! I felt guilty, but I couldn't help it!!!! Same old S***, different day. I was so tired of hearing the same things over and over. The same counsel, same scriptures, same hypocrites on the platform.