Posts by Jadeen

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Ladies: How do I get her to stop flirting without being mean?

by Elsewhere in

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there is this girl at work who has been making it painfully obvious that she's interested, however i'm not interested in her.

so far i'm just acting as though i'm not seeing any of the "making of eyes", "any excuse to talk" or other general flirting.

ladies, how do i make her stop without being mean?

Jadeen

Sometimes you have to be mean- some people just do not get it otherwise.

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Celebrated my first Halloween

by LoriJis in

as you know i recently started my fade while my husband has been doing it for years.

well last weekend i decided we should celebrate halloween and bought tickets to this halloween cruise.

we dressed up and went.

Maybe instead of going gung-ho, you could start slowly. I like to decorate my house with winter- themed items, since I'm still not really comfortable with Christmas. I cut out snowflakes and hang then up, decorate with snowmen, penguins, and winter birds, and hang up holly type swags. I also like the rustic style Christmas decorations- most of them have a more winterish feel to them. I hang those from my swags, and around my kitchen, living room and dining room.

For Thanksgiving, maybe you could invite some non-JW friends or family over for dinner. You can also decorate your house in a fall theme. I love the colors for fall with the reds, oranges and yellows. Maybe place some pumpkins or Indian corn with fake leaves.

You could also concentrate on enjoying time with your family. Don't think about it as celebrating the holidays. It's one of the few times of the year that many people have off of work, so you should take advantage of it.

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wife took it pretty well i guess...it's over...

by oompa in

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i guess it only took three years, but they were hell in so many ways for both of us...she was not happy and lived in denial as much as possible...i was not happy and lived in a bottle as much as possible and glad that is over for me....but it was one of the saddest things i have ever experienced in my life....as was the visit to my parents before i told her....but yes...she said she kind of expected it...was thinking something was going to happen soon as she noticed i had more and more trouble saying i love you back to her when she said it on the phone at the end of goodbyes...and when i was leaving the house...i had noticed it for over a year and it was killing me..... i told her how sorry i was for changing so much again....and that she still walks on water...and is a great person and so pretty....and that she will be ok because she was happy single before me for many years and had all she needs for that again...her closeness to jehovah and her freinds in the congregation...she is very close to both and will be ok i hope...it was very surreal....very calm...very sad.

my bitterness and disdain for wt rules came through when talking to my parents and i was very open about how i feel as to their upcoming shunning of me, and how it feels to my son since he was just 17....and how the fear of losing them had kept me trying in my marriage for the past few years...dad was firm in his position of future action....mom said they will still always love me...and will still talk to me until i get dfd.....oh how this hurts.....dad said there is a name for people who only live for themselves and deny god but could not think of what it was....i told him i was not living just for myself...that i am a good person and there are values from him and the bible i hope i always have....i cry so hard as i type this and tell you just so you can know how painful this is....i told him i so loved the rule of treating others how you want to be treated and have always done that...even allowing myself to be wronged on so many occasions to keep peace....... he said that was a good rule....i agreed and said it was a big one too....and that while i could do it...treat him the way i would like to be treated...he would not be able to!.......left as i became emotional...big hug from mom, but i just barely put an arm on dad............oompa.

Jadeen

oompa

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My JW Best Friend

by OnTheWayOut in

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i have always said to those that had questions about fading that they should expect to lose their friends.

it seems that in the vast majority of cases, only family (and sometimes not even them) are willing to overlook jw-weakness and maintain relationships.

if you do keep a friend of a jw, then they are potentially deep into jw-weakness.

Jadeen

I'm sorry. My JW bestie and I were best friends from grade school. Last time I saw her I introduced her to my then fiance, and she totally snubbed us. That was over seven years ago now and it still hurts.

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I need answers to so MANY questions.....

by Confuzzled in

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Jadeen

Lol @ asilentone- you're awesome

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WHY am I the last to know?

by babygirl30 in

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about 2 mos ago...my parents decided that because i refused to continue my 'reinstatement' process and quit going to meetings - that they were now going to shun me after having regular contact for 10 mos!

i was upset, but accepted it.

although their method was harsh!

Jadeen

Oh, jamie, that's horrible! Dead for 8 years and then he finds out?!

And you're totally right about getting the parents at retirement time because they never bothered to save.

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I need answers to so MANY questions.....

by Confuzzled in

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Jadeen

Welcome to the board, Confuzzled! I would say that it's pretty obvious that you're not angel eyes- you capitalize letters and don't end every sentence with "LOL"

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WHY am I the last to know?

by babygirl30 in

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about 2 mos ago...my parents decided that because i refused to continue my 'reinstatement' process and quit going to meetings - that they were now going to shun me after having regular contact for 10 mos!

i was upset, but accepted it.

although their method was harsh!

Jadeen

Just look at the fine example that they're showing the rest of your family that aren't witnesses!

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Hi - new kid on th block

by nearlyfree in

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i have been looking at this website for about 2 months now and feel i am now ready to say hi and intoduce myself.i dont want to give out too much info at this point in time as i still am in the org, but have only been to 2 meetings since the district convention in august and last time i went out on service was in march.

i was basically raised in the truth as my parents became jw when i was 2. i was married in my late teens and after 21 years of being married to a total control freak he left me (yay).

anyway since me ex left, i had been doing a lot of thinking about being a witness, and i wasnt really going to a lot of meetings - just didnt feel like it.

Jadeen

Welcome to the board!

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This is a perfect religion!

by life is to short in

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this is perfect religion with imperfect people.

the elders are imperfect that is why there are problems.

we just need to endure because jehovah is allowing this as a test to see if we will still love him.

Jadeen

Brainwashed, I was under the impression that the first paragraph and next sentence was a recital of the lines that we all get fed; not necessarily what lits believes. Life is too short, feel free to correct me if I'm wrong!