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  How far will they go???

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  Bummer, my post didn't work the firts time. So here goes. Two elders snuck in to my secured apartment building to reprimand me this week. I wondered how they got in. My land lord said they apparantly snuck in when someone was going out of the main entrance. He said they would take it up with management, because NO religious organizations are allowed on the property.

  I have many issues with this.

  1. I am in a secured building. You were not buzzed in. That is tantamount to breaking in.

  2. If you look for someone to come in or out of the building...and stick with me here...how long have you been driving by and watching my building?

  3. Why don't either of this 45 year old men have jobs? I know for a fact I do. I worked night shift. I was woke up. Thanks!!

  So how low can they go to intimidate people? Is it me, or are the above tactics tacky and unethical?
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  How far will they go???

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  How far will they go???

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  How do you replace a family?

  by YoursChelbie in

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  as a result of wanting to have a normal life, away from the dogma of the jw religion,.

  many have lost contact with parents, children and in many cases, their spouse.. my divorce was uncontested and i was fortunate enough to get out of from watchtower control with my children.

  my parents were never involved with the religion,.

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  This has been really hard since my Dad is 69 and still an elder in the cong. Both my parents are so involved as JW's...it's almost maddening. They have known where my path is leading. I am 33, but have tried to leave the org. a few times. The guilt of being told that "This is the ONLY RELIGION" or "Armageddon is almost here, don't let your kids die because of your choice" has kept me a prisoner. There is never a true replacement for family, but I have watched my family stray away from me. That has hurt, but it forces one to make choices. To me, I am thankful for the family that calls me their "surrogate daughter". They are better than my parents. She is an ex-Jw as well. They call me every day. I am so blessed. The key is to make the first step and look for people. It has kept my life very full of new family.
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  does anybody remember "marking?"

  by stillin in

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  for a while there was this arrangement, based on 2thess:3:14, wherby a talk was given on the service meeting describing a dangerous influence in the congregation, and reference was made to that scripture, thereby indicating to the congregation that this threat exists here, and that you should distance yourselves from anybody fitting that description.

  frankly, it bothered me because even if somebody didn't know who was really being referred to, they felt like they might, so the congregation formed little fractures of suspicion.

  i wrote to the society because of this divisive effect (that i'm sure wasn't the intended effect; creating a phantom "marked man," breaking up the unity in the cong...etc.).

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  About a year ago they had given a marking talk, when I was starting to stray away. I was so hurt because the info that they were giving sounded like what had been MY situation. I was so disheartened because I had been dealt with privately. It felt like they were airing my dirty laundry from the stage. I ran to the Mother's room and cried. Later someone came back and told me that it was not me that they were referring to, but someone else. I didn't feel any better, because I realized how unloving marking someone is.
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  What UNUSUAL MARRIAGES have you seen among JW's?

  by BonaFide in

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  these are couples that i know personally.. a brother i know married a sister 36 years older than him.

  he was 35, she was 71. they are still married 5 years later.

  they do not get along, and they make that known to the entire hall.. a brother that has been married twice and is 50 years old recently married a 19-year old.

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  My cousin was 23 and married a 47 year old widow whose husband and two sons died in a freak accident. That was about 20 years ago. She died a few years ago of cancer, and he remarried a woman about 20 years younger than him. These people reek of bad luck!

  BTW, JW's are some of the only people I know that do not feel uncomfortable hitting on a relative. I think it beats the alternative of marrying a *gasp* "worldly person".
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  Sending Out a Letter to My JW Daughter - Give Me Your Thoughts Please

  by flipper in

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  some of you probably read my jw daughter's letter to mrs. flipper and me a few weeks ago where she tried explaining to mrs. flipper why she doesn't have anything to do with me ( says i talk negative towards the organization ) .

  in that letter though she showed some flashes of her authentic, kind personality and told us she loves us.

  but much of the letter was proselytizing to us about how bad the system is and how jeovah will bring a paradise, etc.

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  First of all, I think the letter was wonderful. It helps to show that you are more than another "householder" to be preached at, and the example to be used for their fantastic "demonstrations" at future conventions. It shows parental love, unconditional and untarnished. It is wonderful.

  I go through this with my parents frequently. They believe if they preach at me long enough, or keep me updated, that I will feel that I have a huge void in my life that can ony be replaced by their religious doctrines. But the void is not religious. I am a Christian. I do not need to be recruited. What I need are parents. Loving and unconditional parents, such as yourselves.
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  What Has Hurt You Most About Being A Witness?

  by minimus in

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  for me, it's not having a "normal" childhood.

  being raised a jw will make you miss out on ordainary kid things.

  you can't have any friends except witnesses---and only jws that measure up.

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  I concur. I would call it 33 years of lost time. I didn't have a normal childhood. The same people that I had to ditch on the playground at school because they were "Bad associates", I had to preach to on Saturday mornings. I married young because dating=marriage. I was not ready. It was someone my parents chose, and he hurt me and my kids.

  In a nutshell, lost time, and ability to make own decisions.
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  You know what I really miss?

  by journey-on in

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  this sounds silly.

  but what i miss about being a part of a close knit congregation is the showers.

  i loved going to the bridal showers, baby showers, wedding showers.

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  Okay, I am going to tell you what I did. I had a very horrible situation, and walked away from the cong. I am a forth generation JW..or was. My dad has been an elder since the elder arrangement was adopted in the 60's or 70's. It hurt my family to see me take my two children and walk away. My Mom said "If you leave, you will NEVER be happy." I thought about that a moment. Then I thought about a woman that I knew that disassociated herself. My dad even served on her commitee. She epitomized happiness. Within 5 minutes of my mom saying that, I went over to this woman that I barely knew (I moved to this cong. a year after she was df'd) and said "My name is... are you happy?". We talked for over an hour, although she was at work. She invited me over to her place, took me to church with her, and introduced me to a new network of friends. I am never lonely. Many of them were former JW's. None of us are bitter. But we have a connection. Last year I served at the church for a Thanksgiving meal for the needy. I volunteer to bake for funerals and other events. The closeness of women is replaced with another closeness. Not only that, but I feel needed and wanted. It's the best feeling that I have ever known.
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  The View talks about JWs and Armageddon

  by Lady Lee in

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  whoopie specifically asked sherry about jws and their prediction of the end of the world.

  she said that the jws were having public meetings to tell people how to survive the end.. sherry answered that the predictions came from the bible and that the jws predicted the end in 1975 and they were still waiting.. the others chimed in with a lot of jokes so not much more was said but i was glad sherry got to say something and that the end was predicted in 1975..

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  I, for one, am happy that Sherry is educating the public about what really happens within that organization. She does it with such grace that it does not appear too much like a "Jerry Springer" episode.