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  How to tell my mom im moving out?? Need advice please

  by cia112 in

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  well i'm 22 years old, still in college, i live with my mom but she is driving me crazy with her jw nonsense, ive been dealing with it all my life and i really cant take anymore of this, i have a boyfriend, non jw (which my mom hates) and i could barely see him because she doesnt let me go out!

  we have 4 years together and i really dont want to keep on like this, im not baptized but i am a publisher.... .

  so the thing is, i want to move out with my boyfriend but i have no idea how to break the news to her, she drives me nuts but shes my mother and i love her, i dont want to hurt her but enough is enough...she's probably going to disown me, but i really just want to be happy already...so does anybody have any ideas what i can do?.

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  Well, having been in similar circumstance at your age, I would first do more than decide that you are going to live together.

  How are you going to pay your bills?

  Who is signing the lease? Both? One of you? If you (or he) decides that the living arrangement doesen't work out to either of your satisfations, what will you do? Move back in with Mummy?

  Believe me, that would be the worst.

  Is she supporting you in any way, shape or form? How will you support yourself if you lose your Mom or your boyfriend?

  Do you have student loans? How will you pay those after graduation?

  I know I sound like a kill-joy, however, I got zero advice and had to move into the worst dive because I absolutely would not move in with my JW Mom. I lived in a literal ghetto hovel with revolving roommates due to my money issues.

  However, it was better than living with a rabid JW. And, I paid all my bills. Then I moved in with my boyfriend. 2 years later. When I knew I could do it on my own. That was the key.

  Can you? Can you survive without anyone helping you?
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  Who Is The WORST Politician That You Can Recall?

  by minimus in

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  past or present.

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  Chicago? Seriously? Who are you talking about?

  Hmmm, let me guess.

  We had Mayor Richard J. Daley

  Mayor Jane Byrne

  Mayor Harold Washington

  Senator Barak Obama

  Representative Rahm Emmanuel

  Mayor Richard M. Daley

  Take your pick. Latest Richie Daley did some good for the city. He tried to get the Olympics. They blame Obama for that.

  So, which off that list is your pick?
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  Do elders who get disfellowshipped blab about judicial committee's they served on?

  by donnye in

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  has anyone ever worried about confessing something to the elders, only to find that they spend the next 25 years worrying that if those elders in 'the know' leave the organisation or get disfellowshipped, maybe they couldn't care less about making your misdemeanor public knowledge.

  "if i'm going down, i'll take everyone i can with me".. i still worry about this scenario, and even though two of the elders in my case have died of old age, i will only feel really relieved once the last one does.. maybe current elders blab about the congregation members too.

  i sincerely hope they would be too scared to do this in case there is an official complaint made against them for defamation of character and breaking a fellow believers confidence..

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  Think about all the stuff that has been *blabbed* about on this board by the Ex-Elders. If they are willing to spill the beans on their fellow Ex-JWs, why not spill the beans to their spouse on a DFd JW?

  My point? Yeah, they talk. My Mom tells me stuff, now. She will hear a story about Brother or Sister X and can't wait to tell me what they did. How does she know? She heard it from Sister Y who is married to the Elder who held the JC.

  They should all be Sued.

  Think about it. Privacy. Reputation. Etc. What happened to confidentiality? They are allowed to marry people and advise them like a minister, they should be held to the same standard.

  BTW, OP, what did you do? Can't be that bad. Do tell. We are all friends here.
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  My Story Part I - My Parents

  by Farkel in

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  part 1 - my parents.

  it's a funny thing, time.

  notwithstanding einstein's relativity, time means vastly different things throughout life.

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  What Undercover said: +1

  What Sylvia said about Undercover: +2

  Sylvia is also a very good writer.
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  I thought it wasnt bothering me. But it is.

  by mamalove in

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  do you ever feel that way about your jw past?

  maybe i need more time?

  i know that it is a lie.

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  So sorry for your situation and, as many have noted, it never truly goes away. Not as long as you have family in.

  I have learned to make new friends, find other interests, more school, etc. If the JWs know it hurts or bothers you, they will keep trying to get you back. Don't let them. It is not worth it. Also as noted above: it's a cult.
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  Name 3 Movies You Always Watch on TV

  by Think About It in

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  you are flipping the channels......name 3 movies you can't help but watch again even though you seen it dozens of times.. 1. shawshank redemption.

  2. my cousin vinny.

  3. happy gilmore.

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  Animal House

  Airplane!

  It's a Wonderful Life
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  My Story Part I - My Parents

  by Farkel in

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  part 1 - my parents.

  it's a funny thing, time.

  notwithstanding einstein's relativity, time means vastly different things throughout life.

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  VIII

  Very interesting Farkel.

  Your Mom sounds just like mine. From her personality to the vitamins (Adell Davis is one of my Mom's favorite reads outside the WTS) to the illnesses (her self diagnosing Lupus was one of my favorites). To the enemas. To the dad's drinking and her saying he ruined her life, etc. Weird.

  I look forward to more.
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  Lying about divorce reason to be allowed to re-marry

  by Big Softie in

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  i know my view on this but would be interested to see what anyone else thinks.. .

  at a court hearing recently my estranged wife, who left me (i'm not jw) asked me if i would be prepared to lie to her elders and state that i had committed adultery (i didn't) so that she would be allowed to "get on in her faith".

  this from a woman who before she left got intimate (emotionally, i'm not sure about physically) with two "sisters", one of whom took to buying her large bunches of red roses and basicaly furnished her new house for her.. now my view is that she has clearly stated and put in writing that the marriage ended because of my unreasonable behaviour (i.e.

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  Is this simply yet another clear demonstration of the JW Cult members willingness to lie and bend / break their own rules to get what they want and have the elders once again put her up to it?

  Yes. They are hypocrites. Liars when they need to be.

  How do I know? My Mom pretty much did the same to my Dad. She did it on her own because she knew she needed to be "Spripturally" Divorced in order to get remarried to any potential JW and have good standing in the KH.

  This is pretty much SOP on any number of JW behaviors.
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  Florida Holding No Refusal DUI Checkpoints. If You Refuse They Stick A Needle...

  by minimus in

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  in your arm by judge's order.

  (a judge will be there at the checkpoint) and of course, if you are legally drunk, you'll be arrested on the spot.. so this weekend in tampa, they'll be sticking needles in your arms if you refuse their demands.

  they say they'll be heavily advertising the area that they'll be at over the holiday..

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  Rights? Who needs rights?

  ETA: This is the USA, not Russia or China, right? I didn't suddenly wake up in The People's Republic did I?

  I have never been through one of these and don't plan to. I am home by 9 PM and in bed by 10. Sober.
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  Conservative commentator Tucker Carlson: Michael Vick deserved to be executed

  by keyser soze in

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  filling in for sean hannity, tucker carlson stated that michael vick deserved the death penalty for killing dogs:.

  http://msn.foxsports.com/nfl/story/tucker-carlson-says-philadelphia-eagles-michael-vick-should-have-been-executed-for-killing-dogs-122910.

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  Obama and Tucker should have stayed out of it.