I refused to show up. They kept setting up committee meetings and leaving me phone messages where and when to show up, and I absolutely did not show up. They sent me registered letters that I would never sign for. I heard it was turned over to three different committees over an eighteen month period. The last committee was made up of a young group of elders, one being someone that my husband and I had met in the door 2 door work and studied with. The 3rd committee decided to DF me in my absense. They sent me a registered letter to notify me of the decision (that I did not sign for). Eventually they notified some elders in a hall in another town that knew my father in still another town. They called him and asked him to notify me that I was DF'ed. Message received. It was very anti climatic - my father called me while I was sitting in traffic on my way to work on a Monday morning. He gave me the news and then we talked about his pet chckens and the weather.
I did not care what their decision was. But I did know that there was no way in hell I would EVER go sit before three men and talk my vagina. I was a dignified 40 something woman. NO REGRETS!