She lost her husband last fall. I have been there for her this whole time. She IS thinking about me because she can tell something is wrong.My son died 11 months before her husband and he gave the memorial talk. She is the only reason that I wanted to fade, so as not to hurt her. I haven't been able to just fade away gracefully because my utter disgust at all of this newly acquired information has frozen me in time.I haven't been to a meeting in a month. I haven't been able to return her calls because I knew she would know something was wrong and I kept thinking "I'll call her tomorrow when I get ahold of myself." Now she knows something is wrong because I didn't call her. She has sent me text messages pleading with me to tell her what is wrong. At this point I don't know what else to do except be honest with her. Trust me, I am not trying to be selfish. I am only trying to handle this in the most loving way I can come up with.
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Advice? I am sharing my concerns with my best friend today. HELP
by AWAKE&WATCHING inso much for the fade i was going to attempt just so i didn't have to lose my best friend.
i haven't been to a meeting in a month, not since i've been checking out my concerns on the evil internet.
i've been avoiding my best friend, she knows something is terribly wrong.
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Which JW commandment did you break first ?
by JH ini always tried to my best as a jw, to observe what the watchtower and bible told us "not to do".
then i became inactive and lowered my guard, and didn't care as much.
i think that my first jw sin, was playing lotto, then talking to disfellowshipped ones in my congregation, then posting on apostate forums, and then giving blood.
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I'm going to go smoke a cigarette and think about it.
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Advice? I am sharing my concerns with my best friend today. HELP
by AWAKE&WATCHING inso much for the fade i was going to attempt just so i didn't have to lose my best friend.
i haven't been to a meeting in a month, not since i've been checking out my concerns on the evil internet.
i've been avoiding my best friend, she knows something is terribly wrong.
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Thanks- I know you are right, it's just so hard to let my best friend go.My husband goes to meetings but has never committed to baptism, I don't think it matters to him what I do. I've received 2 messages from my book study conductor in the 4 weeks I have missed meetings. NO one else has called me, not one person from my congregation,( my best friend is from my old congregation ).
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Favorite Singing Voice
by YoursChelbie ini really like this singer's voice and the song is nice too:.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=923hcwl5ehq&mode=related&search= .
who is your favorite singer(s)?.
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AWAKE&WATCHING
Sarah McLachlin and Adam Duritz from Counting Crows
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MEMO TO TED JARACZ: My rewarding apostate field activity this weekend
by sf ini shared in dannys torture thread about this, yet wanted a thread by itself so that headquarters see's it clearly.
i also 'chopped' it a bit.... i spent this weekend copying.
cutting.
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A) You are my hero. B) Who is Ted?
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Advice? I am sharing my concerns with my best friend today. HELP
by AWAKE&WATCHING inso much for the fade i was going to attempt just so i didn't have to lose my best friend.
i haven't been to a meeting in a month, not since i've been checking out my concerns on the evil internet.
i've been avoiding my best friend, she knows something is terribly wrong.
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So much for the fade I was going to attempt just so I didn't have to lose my best friend. I haven't been to a meeting in a month, not since I've been checking out my concerns on the evil internet. I've been avoiding my best friend, she knows something is terribly wrong. I kept thinking I would call her tomorrow, I just needed a little time to wrap my mind around all this and figure out how to fade.Now I've let it go for weeks and I have to tell her why I haven't been able to talk to her.Do I play it off and try not to say too much or tell her everything and tell her it's her call if she goes to the elders? Is that fair to her? She just lost her husband. I feel like such a jerk.
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poster from JWD on youtube
by purplesofa inlet's give tim hooper some support......... fantastic tim.
thanks for sharing and keep it up!!!!!.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mowdbiwqxq8.
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Very nice. I can't stop crying.
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Lurkers! How do you put up with it?
by PopeOfEruke ini just cannot understand how any one in their right mind can read the experiences here concerning the wachtower society's false claims, lies, trickery and deceit, and the example shown by the so-called "elders" in treating the flock with disdain and cruelty, and still stay a jehovah's witness.. lurkers, how can you do that?
do you simply dismiss all the evidence?
have any of you experienced such evil acts personally and still stay connected to the jw's?.
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I've only awakened recently. I believe all of the evil because I've experienced some myself and I"m sure there's more to come. I am truly a people lover so losing those in the congregation is not that big of a deal because I have plenty of people from all walks of life that I care about and they care about me. People in the "world" that even though I have limited contact with consider me a good friend. But... because of the Evil Empire I am going to lose my best friend of almost 30 years. I'm not sure what my game plan is at this point. I do know there is no turning back. I don't think it will have much effect on my marriage and thankfully I have no family in the cult. One day at a time.This forum is keeping me sane. Thanks to you all.
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Caught Wife Cheating
by roflcopter inso i posted a while back about my marriage problems.... whole new gambit thrown into the mix.
i've had suspicions all along that something like this might be happening... but only just not confirmed that she's been cheating on me... with another jw that she works with!
she could have been more discreet about it rather than leave all the text messages on her phone.
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YOU ARE ONLY 24! Really, 2.5 years is nothing,I don't mean to sound callous. Been there - done that. Cheaters never change. In another 2.5 years it'll be 5 years you've invested and it probably won't be any better. RUN LIKE THE WIND and don't look back. I wasted my 20's on a cheater. Now I've wasted my 30's and 40's on my second husband who has never really been able to commit to our relationship even though he doesn't appear to be cheating. And almost 30 years on the CULT. Don't waste anymore of your life.
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Recent E-mail Exchange with my Mother
by bavman indear greg: just a note to thank you for the card and for remembering us on our anniversary.
we had a very nice 45th anniversary.
the only thing that would have made it better is if you and ***(my sister) could have celebrated with us .
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Kind yet firm, I felt you were very loving. Is your sister out also ? Last week I did something I never thought I'd do. I thanked Jehovah that my children listened to their father and not to me, because they are not in the cult.I told them this and they were in total shock. My daughter kept mumbling "Hell froze over." As bad as this is going to get, at least I don't have that. I feel for all of you who have lost your families.