I went to a neighbor's son's first communion. I appreciated the way the priest interacted with the children (walked up and spoke with them). I liked the "peace greeting". Then the priest said something that really set me back. He said that the most important thing that a priest can do- the main reason a person becomes a priest- is to change the host into the literal body and blood of Christ.
I was floored. Not building hospitals, not feeding the poor, not serving as a sanctuary for those who have none, not defending the sanctity of life- nothing real. Changing bread and wine into the literal body and blood of Christ!! The pretend stuff is the most important!!
That did it for me. I enjoy the ancient ritual, but ignoring the real in favor of the imaginary was just too much!