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  For those raised as a JW...

  by DisconnectingDrone in

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  like many i was about 7 or 8 when my parents were baptized.

  being a child you naturally trust that your parents are doing the right thing and follow them.

  i was baptized at 15-how often i wish i could turn back the clock!

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  lilyflor

  I was raised a JW since the age of 10. My dad is not a JW.

  I am angry at my dad for not caring. He never believed in the JWs, but he did not care enough about his kids to stand up for them or investigate or spend any time with them. I know how hard it is to have a wife that is more loyal to the JWs that her husband, it can be overwhelming, but he never cared either way about anything in his children's lives. But this is a theme in his life, as even today he does not give a sh** about anything other than soccer/hockey.

  I am angrier still at my mom. I understand that my mom was a victim of this cult. She however is no longer a victim, she now chooses to follow the GB. I have told her every little thing I have found out about thier abuses, lies and munipulation, and she does not care. She makes an informed choice to choose the GB over her children and grandchildren and she does not regret any past choices. I don't remember ever loving her as a mom, it is hard to when there is no relationship. The only time she ever spent with us was at meeting or on service, that was it. As a mother myself now, I don't understand her choices.

  For me being a JW was a very lonely time in my life.

  lily.
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  What was your first time like?

  by searchingforfriends in

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  were you scared or nervous?

  did you feel like you were doing something wrong?

  did it feel liberating?

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  lilyflor

  i was scared sh**less

  after it was done it was the best thing ever, so i kept doing it.....
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  Today's public talk - emotional manipulation

  by mac n cheese in

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  so i'm sitting in the kh today, and the speaker is really pretty good.

  he's one of those really kind, in-it-for-others type of guys and it really comes through in his talk.

  he starts reading scriptures about how j is near to those crushed in spirit, and how j will hear our cries for help.. and because we've been through the wringer with elders in the past, all the hurt that i thought i put behind me comes roaring back with a vengeance.

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  lilyflor

  It is so unfortunate that all they can do is wait around for Jehovah to rescue them, from Satan, who Jehovah let loose on them in the first place. They have given away all their power to the the men of the GB.
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  What positive aspects do you find about being a JW in the past?

  by tooktheredpill in

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  a couple of days ago, i posted a comment for a newbie like me (http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/145459/2623555/post.ashx#2623555), and i told him this:.

  i try to focus in the few positive aspects of being a jw, and how that can help me to improve myself.

  i like to help people too, and that is something that i really enjoy.

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  lilyflor

  Question authority. Don't judge others. Celebrate and love yourself. Stop waiting for tomorrow and live NOW. Teach your children how to think, not what to think.

  Thank you Watchtower.
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  Do you have pets? What kind? Names?

  by White Dove in

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  i do believe that introductions are in order.. ok, me first.

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  waaaaa!!

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  lilyflor

  1 dog. Cody. he's a 5 month old cook-a-poo.

  Can't wait for him to stop teething.
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  ???Do you spank your kids???

  by Princess Daisy Boo in

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  tell me how you feel about spanking your kids - be honest now!!!

  have you ever, and under what circumstances?.

  what other methods of discipline do you use?

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  lilyflor

  I have 3 children. I definitely believe in spanking, but only from the ages of 3 to 6/7.

  Spanking a child under 2 is abuse, spanking a child over 8 is uncalled for IMO.

  But between the ages of 3 and 7, it can be hard or impossible to reason with a child and a few smacks lets them know you mean business. After that spanking becomes unnecessary as you have established your expectations.

  At the age of 8 and up if they cross the line a good time out or taking away a privilege usually does the trick, but of course you have to mean it otherwise you start to lose credibility.
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  What were the things that troubled you as a JW?

  by Mickey mouse in

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  i'm not necessarily asking for the big stumbling blocks here or things you discovered once you started doing your own research outside the borg.

  i'm talking about the smaller things.. for me one thing was the talk of no one being able to become a witness unless "jehovahs drew them to him".

  as a born-in this never jived with me.

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  lilyflor

  why should I tell a strange man my "sin" and exactly how was he going to forgive/absolve me. sounded to much like confession
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  What should I do with all of these books?

  by Confession in

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  while growing up, my dad maintained a rather huge wts library.

  i liked the idea of being able to pick out one of those old books from the1940s or earlier and read what they were saying back then.

  well for the first time, in september of 2006 at the age of 40, i finally became a home-owner.

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  lilyflor

  Got rid of my collection just last week. Finally!

  I had a whole bookcase full. i boxed everything up 2 years ago - I could no longer stand to look at it, but I still couldn't throw it out, you know just in case I put the boxes in the garage.

  Last week, I finally got fed up. I already wasted 25 years, i am not wasting another day. If someone is going to believe what I have to say about the watchtower or the bible they can most certainly look it up in their own literature, if they are so inclined.

  Of course I kept the 2004 CD, just in case.

  lilyflor
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  I'm new too!

  by Annointeds Daughter in

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  i'm new to the forum.

  i've been lurking for some time, since i was "disconnected" by my husband, "tooktheredpill".

  i'm a 3rd generation witness, and still inside of the borg, because all my family is inside.

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  lilyflor

  Welcome, it is so wonderful that you have seen the light as a couple. You are truly blessed!
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  I would prefer my children to die than to have them Df'd

  by lilyflor in

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  i was still in the "troof" a couple of years ago when my mom said that to my face, in front of my husband no less.. he was a jw as well, he couldn't believe it.

  my reply was "well i will give my life to save my children and if god sees fit to punish me for that - that's his choice".

  lily.

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  lilyflor

  Galileo, your absolutely right... now I feel even worse.

  Just kidding, as a JW kid you get used to coming in second place after Jehobah.

  lily