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  Nosferatu's School of Dating - Lesson 1.2 - Attraction

  by Nosferatu in

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  lesson 1.1 is here:.

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/126517/1.ashx.

  for those of you who are wondering when i'm going to get to the subjects of how to ask her out, or how to approach a woman, they're coming, but we need to get your mind on the right track before any of that can happen.. another poster just recently started a thread, asking what women wanted.

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  Nos--- Good of you to concede that you 'forgot to mention that you need to develop a rapport before the paper ball war.' Yes, developing that rapport is definitely a step that comes before the shennanigans you were recommending. Fun is great and highly recommended--but a precious few can jump in unbidden at the outset. The rapport needs to be established first. And actually, I am used to being an initiator of fun...and can respond in kind if I get a good vibe from a guy who initiates. Creating that initial 'good vibe' is where your approach/ methods leave me cold as yet. But some of the stuff is good. Just be sure to pay attention to all the little half-steps that lead the way in natural progression toward the next full step. Those half-steps can be subtle, but they can make or break. You don't want your guys' egos constantly breaking their stride over a half-step slip-up.
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  Most controversial?

  by joe_black in

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  i know that most of what the wbts says and does is viewed by many of us as hogwash, but what do you think was the most controversial thing that happened or was said by the watchtower in 2006?...............i mean something so obviously off the wall or sinister that it would make even the most hardcore jw pause and say, "hey, what the f*ck?!!

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  Guess we'd better start looking for that "earthly part of Jehovah's universal organization." Process of elimination already says, One down (WTS is not it). Must be out there somewhere...keep looking...!
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  What I Learned at the at the 2 Day Assembly...

  by becca1 in

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  1- "jehovah does not want us to be rich".

  other religions teach that god helps us to become prosperous.

  jehovah does not do that.

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  drew sagan---- "Jehovah really hates those elements, especially carbon."

  No--you've got it all wrong!! Jehovah LOVES carbon! CARBON COPIES are all he's really after.....
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  Nosferatu's School of Dating - Lesson 1.4 - Happiness

  by Nosferatu in

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  lesson 1.3 is here:.

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/126614/1.ashx.

  i've seen countless men who seem to posess the mindset of "i need a woman to be happy".

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  Now here is advice I can get on board with. And add, It applies equally well to males and females. And intersexed. (You know who you are.) :^)
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  Nosferatu's School of Dating - Lesson 1.3 - Romance

  by Nosferatu in

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  lesson 1.2 is here:.

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/126529/1.ashx.

  i was going to save this subject for the subject of long term relationships, but it seems that it needs to be addressed before dating starts.

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  We don't cook the meat and then pepper spices on at the end, with the exception of a very few specific herbs. To me, the romance is to be peppered in minute amounts--deliberate but minute--from the very beginning. This is what lets the flavor of the romance whet the appetite, please the palate.

  Thoughtful gifts absolutely DO belong at the beginning. The thoughtful gift can be a chocolate mint candy 'cause he knows she loves these. [note: single candy, not whole bar or box---a wrapped York, not a melting Jr. Mint] Or recommending a movie choice based on what he knows she likes--volunteering to participate in entertainment on her terms. [both knowing full well that, should the dating go on long enough, she would later need to reciprocate in kind] Or thinking more deeply on something that she has already shared/ said and adding a reflection of your own on a subsequent date. [People forget that simply treating another person's thoughts and ideas as a valued thing IS, in its simplest form, a gift.]

  These little things, from the very beginning, are what IMHO breeds romance...authenticity...presence...and yes...sex.
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  Nosferatu's School of Dating - Lesson 1.2 - Attraction

  by Nosferatu in

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  lesson 1.1 is here:.

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/126517/1.ashx.

  for those of you who are wondering when i'm going to get to the subjects of how to ask her out, or how to approach a woman, they're coming, but we need to get your mind on the right track before any of that can happen.. another poster just recently started a thread, asking what women wanted.

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  okay: You're talking about first dates and also how to get to meaningless make-out sessions. Got it. I see the maturity level we're cruisin' for here. Silly me...I assumed we were talking about wanting to get to KNOW someone. As someone who is acquainted with all levels of flirting--I am a natural flirt, as is my youngest son (though he isn't old enough to know it yet)--I find the advice on this page borders on pedantic if not moronic.

  I have, on three occasions in the last three years, been turned off by that "keep this piece of paper" approach you are recommending. I find game-players who cannot hold a serious, even mundane, conversation ridiculously juvenile and lacking in introspection. And who is HE to tell me what momentos to find worth cherishing--or what moments? Each of those papers has found its way to the trash. And won't be missed.

  Nos, I sincerely hope your subsequent tips get better than this. Sadly enough, I expect to read still more....
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  Nosferatu's School of Dating - Lesson 1.2 - Attraction

  by Nosferatu in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  lesson 1.1 is here:.

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/126517/1.ashx.

  for those of you who are wondering when i'm going to get to the subjects of how to ask her out, or how to approach a woman, they're coming, but we need to get your mind on the right track before any of that can happen.. another poster just recently started a thread, asking what women wanted.

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  Okay, Nos-- On this page you lost me. LMAO on the two paragraphs about doing a favor--that is SOOOO true!!!--but the rest of the stuff breeds 'superficial jerk' to me!

  And the touching thing...I would respond well to a light brush or tap on the arm as a gesture for emphasis while talking or to get my attention, but the other stuff is OFF LIMITS until, and only unless, I have initiated other such contact myself first. Better for the guy to be a little more 'hands off'-ish and the girl to be a little more 'hands on'-ish in the beginning. After all, it's the girl who has to worry about whether this guy might be a potential rapist. Too much touch from the guy early on can be interpreted as a red flag and scare her away.
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  Nosferatu's School of Dating (NSD) - Preface

  by Nosferatu in

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  i've recieved some feedback about doing dating tips here on jwd, and so i've decided to go ahead with it.. a lot of what i will be posting may appear to be a bit sexist, and it defeats a lot of what feminism stands for, but what i post is what i find works.

  i'm not going to post a bunch of re-hashed garbage that society thinks should be the standards for dating, because most of it doesn't get results.

  all of what i post is going to be from personal experience.

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  Abandoned--- DUDE! Whereya been all my life? LOL
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  Here's an idea....

  by LemzaLady in

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  greetings, people who know nothing about jws.

  i have a question.

  are you blogging this site because you are bored or want to feel special, because it certainly cannot be for anything positive you might have to share with others.. i have been associated with jws for 30+ years.

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  I just read this thread for the first time tonight (a month out from the previous postings), so I doubt the original poster is here anymore to read it. But I want to say that I was struck by how SAD it was: This person suffers serious depression by her own admission, and also by the evidence of her own words. True to that dreaded disease, depression, she cannot give herself permission tolove herself. But she must have a focus for all her loving energy--since she IS a loving creature. Since her depression prevents her from rightly keeping some of that love reserved for herself--for her own edification--she feels only entitled to heap extra bundles of that loving energy onto an external object (in this case, the irrationally revered WTS organisation). SHE is worthy of nothing...they are worthy of everything. SHE is worthy of none of her devotion...they are worthy of all of her devotion.

  I hope she learns the real meaning of balance in this regard. Even the WTS tries to tell its sheeple to strive for that.
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  Nosferatu's School of Dating - Lesson 1.1 - Rejection

  by Nosferatu in

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  it took a little time to figure out what to write about for my very first tip.

  i thought to myself, "well, what makes dating work?

  kino?

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  So far, pretty good, Nos. Even if I don't agree with all of the above, it's at least convincingly well put together.