Lesson 1.1 is here:
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/126517/1.ashx
For those of you who are wondering when I'm going to get to the subjects of how to ask her out, or how to approach a woman, they're coming, but we need to get your mind on the right track before any of that can happen.
Another poster just recently started a thread, asking what women wanted. This is where men seem to go wrong with women, and immediately kill any chance that they may have had with a woman. The truth is, women don't require anything from men (other than sperm to reproduce). Women don't need men to make them happy, but companionship is a nice thing to have.
Desperation:
First, there are some things that absolutely turn women off, and I'm not talking about spiders or a man with an erection. Desperate, unconfident men are a HUGE turn off to women. When a man shows up on a first date with flowers, a teddy bear, candy, and takes her out for a $100 meal, it doesn't impress her. In fact, she's probably thinking "not this shit again!" It's not men's fault, but society has taught them that they should be "different from the jerks" by putting women on a pedestal, showering her with gifts, money, and compliments. Because society has filled men's brains with this idea, MOST men display this kind of behavior. By bringing her gifts to show her how much you like her, you're just doing what every other guy does. You're not unique.
The effect:
Because men have gone out and spent all this money on women, they have spoiled the woman. Do you know how many women out there HATE flowers because of this behavior? Flowers remind them of men who are pathetically desperate. Just because you bring her gifts, it doesn't mean she's going to fall in love with you, kiss you, or jump your bones. There's a good chance you'll experience the opposite, and you'll again find yourself sitting at home spanking your monkey.
Second, women don't want to hear relationship talk (or even dating talk) before it happens. If you say "do you want to go out with me" or "I'm looking for a relationship", she'll back off because she doesn't even know you, let alone want a relationship with you! This is usually when she says, "Well, I'd rather take things slow". When men hear this, they stop any progression, remain at a standstill, and the "relationship" goes nowhere.
Another thing that women don't like is if they feel they're doing you a favor by going out with you. Women don't exist solely to make men happy (or to have a man make her happy). They're just human beings, that's all! So, if you get a positive response from a woman, don't think "I'm so lucky she said yes!" She's not doing you a favor. If anything, she's doing herself a favor by finding some companionship.
No matter what anybody else says, dating is an act of greed from both ends. He wants a woman to make out with, and she wants a man to make out with. He wants to feel good, and so does she. It's all selfish. Nobody's doing anybody a favor, they're just diving into their own pleasure. The good news is there's nothing wrong with that, and it even works better than trying to do the other person a favor.
Confidence:
It's not much of a secret anymore that women love men who are confident in themselves, and what they want. A man who knows what he wants, takes what he wants, and takes it whenever he wants makes a bold statement. If a woman should turn him down, it doesn't matter because there's plenty of other women out there.
If he should trip and fall on his face, he's not worried about what other people think about him. He just gets up, laughs his ass off along with everyone else, and continues to go about his business. He doesn't need other people to validate anything that he does, because their opinions aren't any of his concern.
If a woman tries to take advantage of his generousity by asking for a free drink, he will stand up for himself and give the woman nothing. If his best friend also tries to take advantage of his generousity, he will also recieve nothing. The confident man will not allow even those close to him to take advantage of him. He has the ability to stand up for himself, and he uses it when necessary.
Confident men also have high self esteems. He knows that the old saying is true: To have others love you, you must first love yourself.
Being a challenge:
A woman cannot fully appreciate a man who throws himself at her feet and begs for a date. She also cannot appreciate a man who sits on the sidelines waiting for her to make a move. If a man wants to give her a bit of a challenge, he should give her a tasted of what he's all about, and then pull back. Perhaps come back, give her another sweet taste, and then pull back again. It's like eating that one potato chip, and having a craving for more. Women love the craving more than the full bag of potato chips. A woman will crave you more in the time you spend apart than when she's satisfying that craving.
Being fun and interesting:
Any women you meet don't really give a shit about your life story. Face it, people's typical lives are boring. If she wanted to be bored, she'd read a grocery list. Women are more interested in men who are fun, exciting, and interesting (and there's a good chance that anything you find interesting will bore her). Save your life story for the fourth or fifth date, and don't tell it all at once. Give her a little bit at a time, and mix it in with other things that are more fun and interesting.
So now you're probably asking, "well, if I'm so goddam boring, what will we talk about?" Who says you have to talk about your boring lives? Create moments to ENJOY rather than worrying about the content. You can have more fun tossing little balls of paper at each other than telling her about formatting your computer. Then, take one of the balls of paper, put it in her hand, and tell her that it's a gift that she is to keep, and it will remind her forever of the moment that the two of you shared. And that's how you become fun and interesting.
Kinesthetics
Kino (abbreviation) is one of the things that I will absolutely STRESS to get a woman to feel comfortable around you. Kino is essentially non-sexual touch. Many cultures do NOT have this problem that most people in North America have. I've met people who are very touchy with anybody they meet, men and women. It's a way to break down barriers and help develope a deeper rapport with a person.
The same goes for men and women. If a man chats with a woman the whole night and doesn't make ANY kind of physical contact, there is a barrier, or a sexual tension that remains. It makes things uncomfortable for both parties, and the potential for progress is killed.
There are many way to initiate kino: Touch her in the middle of her back while she goes through a doorway ahead of you, take her hand to look at her rings, play with her earrings, pull a piece of (whatever) that's caught in her hair, brush away an eyelash on her cheek, tickling, and even poking. Sexual places like her breasts are off limits until she gives the green light to touch them (believe it or not, holding hands is included as a sexual action)
Initiating kino as early as possible in the first meeting is essential in achieving your first kiss. You have to establish rapport and break down the physical barriers before you're both comfortable enough to hold hands, to kiss, and to have sex.
These are the bare essentials to be more successful at dating women who are attracted to you. The real challenge is when you try to revert from doing the negative actions you're used to, and bringing out the best parts of your personality. Stay tuned.