I don't, at this point, but did drphil.com a year ago. I have to tell you: I love the orangatan pic you use for our user face. It cracks me up every time!
Posts by J-ex-W
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i'm wondering if this post card at post secret is from a jw.
by candidlynuts inhttp://postsecret.blogspot.com/#111428472597132074.
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is this pic from the old pink great teacher book?.
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J-ex-W
It's not from the Great Teacher book. I just checked. It looks like it's from that time period, though, whether or not it's a WTBTS illustration.
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Mad Apostate's Letter Worked, An Update
by Bstndance inwooo!!!
guess who called me today.
my mom!
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Wonderful!!!
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Why does it take so long for lurkers to join ?
by moomanchu inhow long did you lurk before joining ?and why?.
it took me about a year before joining and posting.. i can sum up my reason in one word,.
fear .
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J-ex-W
I wasn't a lurker so much as a periodic peeker at other sites, fewer than a handful of times, before just recently delving into this one. An apostate I know (who I learned last summer was apostate) told me about this one after I initiated contact a few weeks ago. I didn't like the other sites, because what I saw there was mostly doctrinal quibbling, and that's not where I'm at. Or, born-again claims, "I thought I had the truth, and now I REALLY have the truth!" Again, not where I'm at. This one fits more, somehow.
But fear, shame, self-doubt, paranoia, and still some residual deep-rooted beliefs that there is a definite WRONG WAY sign posted on the Apostate road. Now, I'm actually starting to--at least internally--embrace that title. Feels good, but I still know the s--- is going to hit the fan with family when I finally go public with all aspects. But it has to be done. Sitting on these truths is just too wrong.
Thanks, JWD, for providing this new network. I probably still wouldn't be progressing as much as I have done in just the last few weeks if your site, in particular, didn't exist. And thanks, friend--you know who you are--for introducing me.
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Inconsistency of 2 Witness rule
by wozadummy ini want to put this out for comment and also direct this to lurker jw's as something to think about.
witnesses have the 2 witness rule to prove whether a jw pedophile,molester,drunkard beater etc is guilty or not.
this protects the perpetrator by the perp simply saying to themself that they have sought gods forgiveness personally ,so they reason in their minds it's ok to lie about their guilt to the elders and therefore they get off the hook.
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>wozadummy< YIKES!!! Can you imagine if the POLICE let all investigations drop after questioning just one person? But then, in some lands, that's what they do--and they are known for being corrupt in their practices in doing so! And even if they're doing that, it's at least acknowledged as being against department policy. Here, what the WT doesis a matter of policy, and so it denies any wrong or corrupt action on their part in their handling the cases. Maddening!!!
So sorry to hear of your/ your wife's circumstances. Hope something better comes of it than heretofore.
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I just emailed the Dr. Phil show
by J-ex-W ini just emailed the dr. phil show with significant aspects of my story--not just the jw stuff but with being a large part of the complicated picture and said i would be willing to air my issues on their show.
the hidden horrors of marital sex abuse and of sleep-rape, specifically, must be exposed to the general public.
too many believe that it's not even possible to rape a sleeping woman...and they are soooo wrong, as my firsthand experience attests!!!
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>sf< --Really? Why do you say Dr. Phil ignores pleas/ show ideas regarding JW's? I've never written in before now. I know they have a roster of upcoming show topics that they want to feature, and I'm sure they want to stick with that--you know, to run things in an orderly fashion. Do the emails and calls you've known of get sent in response to what's on that roster? (On the website, click Upcoming Shows, then click Be on the Show to see what kinds of stuff they're looking for at present. The one I'm responding to is, Do You Need Help Resolving an Ethical Dilemma?
I'm quite sure this whole thing presents one GIANT ethical dilemma for all involved! Especially for the honest-hearted ones, who WANT the truth and justice to prevail in these situations. [Which is ironic, since the organisation says you're honest-hearted only if you go along/ agree with their--even overtly asinine!--decisions. Yeesh.]
Maybe people searching this site can agree to keep an eye on the Upcoming Shows list and watch for upcoming topics that our situation could fall neatly--or even loosely--under...and then A WHOLE BUNCH OF US can deluge them with emails and offers to appear on the program. Even just 3 or 4 guests agreeing should be strongly persuavive to the producers, wouldn't you think?
FOR EVERYONE OUT THERE: If you have a story to contribute but want to remain anonymous, then that can be arranged, too...either by appearing as an 'identity well-protected' guest or by allowing a letter to be read that omits name-and-location identifiers.
LET'S DO THIS, PEOPLE!!!
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In-laws from planet INSANE!
by free2beme inoh, i know it is so common to not get along with your in-laws, and comedians pull off this issue all the time.
i just think i have two of the most insane in-laws in my life and want to share some crazy in-law stories and wondered if others had some good ones too, funny or not.
mine are a limitless bunch to pull from, as they always do something daily to add to the pile.. their home, and trying to make it better.. my in-laws live in a 30 year old single-wide trailer with tip out.
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I can thoroughly understand your frustration with them. You're right. The decisions don't make sense. I feel for you--I hope it's not like that in all her other decision-making moments, little ones as well as big. That would have to drive everyone around her crazy!
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An Abortion question, a Christian paradox?
by free2beme ini have expressed this question to many of my christian friends and heard a mix of answers.
each time, they come from the central feeling they have about christianity, and few come from the bible's view.
here is the question, in regards to abortion.. as it is taught in traditional christianity, to kill a life is to mean you are worthy of death yourself.
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My view is: Don't make decisions about things such as abortion based on far-fetched religious reasonings and intellectual loopholes. --Not saying that that's what you're doing; simply saying that some people are, sincerely, trying to navigate such weighty moral questions based on false doctrines and the false reasonings contrived therefrom. Those kinds of quandaries never do get satisfactorily resolved. It's a shame that they wind up focusing on this instead of the real world ramifications and considerations of such a dilemma.
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Oops.... I Did It Again!
by evetteto inwell i'm really feeling down about jumping all over my husband with all this new info i find here.
i'm really upset with myself because i dont want to use this info in a negative way ( as to say aha!...told you so ), but as a means to enlighten him, because of my love for him i had the hoove in mouth disease.
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Honestly, I think the best thing would be to go back and apologize for getting heated up and behaving in a manner that you're not proud of. Tell him that you love him and respect his feelings and opinions and want to be able to have a peaceable relationship. Tell him you will work on it to the best of your ability...will do your best to not let your feelings for the subject override your concern for his feelings. And if it gets heated up again, repeat all of the above, only sooner this time. The more you practice this, the better you will get at de-escalating a potentially explosive moment. And the more he will appreciate and respect your efforts to do so. [And gee--you didn't even need a WT or Awake! article from the holy org. to help you build a harmonious relationship with your husband.] Good luck!
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Fluff - Men: What do you think about women ...
by serendipity inok guys, time to weigh in.. what do you think about a woman asking a man out on a date, especially a first date?.
good idea?
bad idea?
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>flyinghighnow< ----I think what you're saying speaks more to personality type than to male-female interaction. There are men who need your approach in order to feel masculine (because it fits their personal makeup and beliefs about social norms) and there are men who are very positively responsive to a straightforward, proactive female. And a lot has to do with age, as you mentioned (not getting older, but coming of age during a certain time period when certain 'norms' are expected). Right now, a proactive female IS the expected norm; at least, I would think so.
And I personally have much better results when I simply initiate contact rather than sit back and wait. Often the man is just too shy or imagines you could never be interested in him, even when from the feminine standpoint, all systems are go.