Posts by megsmomma

military, college or a fulltime job which meant more than 40 and you were expected to grow up, today kids are seen as postponing this for years, it reminds me of the proverbs 29:21 kjv says .

21 he that delicately bringeth up his servant from a child shall have him become his son at the length.. when is it time to push the little birds from the nest and tell them to flap real hard?.

ABR.....It is time for tough love. It sounds like your parenting has been coming from "guilt" love. (ie....you feel bad for making him leave so you clean his new place that you paid for, when you know darn well he won't care or appreciate it) You really are not doing him any favors. He (as any person) is capable of getting up for a full time job and if he doesn't want to clean....he can live in his mess at his own place. (It is embarassing when you want to have friends over and your place is gross) He could even get a roomate if he needs to. If I were you I would STOP helping this momnent...and DO NOT FEEL GUILTY...or he will still have you in his (dirty, smelly) back pocket!

(All this applies unless you think he has a mental issue...then get him help before you get out of his back pocket)

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trying to understand

by endlosung in

i do not have any formal education in this area, and so do not know all the terms that go along with my situation, but will do the best i can to describe the confusion i am having.i was raised a jehovah's witness, yes i now realize it is a cult with c.for 39 years i was held captive in this destructive mind control destructive cult.i left and several years ago and so did my wife, she left with me even though many in the cult will let it split up their relationship rather than leave the deluded comfort of their fantasy world.both our parents were raised in this so called religion, as is the norm, once in you are not allowed to date any one outside of the cult, once in you will be excommunicated or as they call it disfellowshiped for any number of infractions, including celebrating any holiday,voting,smoking a cigarette,saying outloud you do not think jehovah's witness are gods sole channel of communication on earth.

once a jw you can be disfellowshiped for talking to,having dinner with, or in any way socializing with any former member who is now disfelowshipped including your family member,i.e.

brother,mother,sister,father, uncle ect.my wife's parents live apx.

megsmomma

I don't have any help to offer....It sounds like a really tough situation.....but, I have seen things similar on Oprah (OK, no one throw things at me!) It is a real disorder, and very hard to help with. From the stories I saw, the only way for the person to get better is to seek out help them selves.

I wish I knew more to tell you. The part about him having nothing to do with his kids and grandkids...but taking in others could be a part of the Cult mentality. My mom (who is an active JW) is like that. I guess if your dad never faced why he isn't a JW, he could still have it all still in his head and in a way has disconnected from his family....and maybe preparing for the big "A" by storing things up(In a very unreasonable way)

I am sorry for your situation. I wish you all the best in your family life!

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Great Just Great

by unique1 in

well, since i da'd my parents have shunned me.

they have however replied to my emails inquiring as to their health and such.

every few months i send them an email telling them how i am and asking them how they are.

megsmomma

(((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))) That is just plain shit*y of them. It is not fair at all....and I wish there was something we could do about it.

BTW......My hubby was about in tears last night after the game. He loves the Tar Heals, and that game was hard to watch. He had to be alone a while after that one.

My heart goes out to you!

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My memorial invite and response to dad

by megsmomma in

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children, the memorial is on monday, april 2, 2007 at sundown.

please find a kingdom hall and attend.

love ya, gary here is my step dads invitation to the memorial.

megsmomma

Thank you for the invite dad. I know you love us and are trying to encourage us all. I will not be going to that memorial though....and it is because of my research on the Bible. Here is why: The Bible speaks of Jesus as our mediator. The society says that he is ONLY the mediator for the 144,000. I have chosen to believe the Bible over the society of imperfect men. Here is what the Bible says...(From the New World Translation) 1 I therefore exhort, first of all, that supplications, prayers, intercessions, offerings of thanks, be made concerning all sorts of men, 2 concerning kings and all those who are in high station; in order that we may go on leading a calm and quiet life with full godly devotion and seriousness. 3 This is fine and acceptable in the sight of our Savior, God, 4 whose will is that all sorts of men should be saved and come to an accurate knowledge of truth. 5 For there isone God, and one mediator between God and men, a man, Christ Jesus, 6 who gave himself a corresponding ransom for all The society puts it differently... "So in this strict Biblical sense Jesus is the mediator only for anointed Christians The great crowd of other sheep that is forming today is not in that new covenant. However by associating with the little flock of those yet in that covenant they come under the benefits that flow from that new covenant." WT 4/1/7

"They recognize that they are not spiritual Israelites in the new covenant mediated by Jesus Christ." WT 11/15/79 "To keep in relationship with Our Savior, God, the great crowd needs to remain united with the remnant of spiritual Israelites." WT 11/15/79 Love you, Lyndi

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My memorial invite and response to dad

by megsmomma in

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children, the memorial is on monday, april 2, 2007 at sundown.

please find a kingdom hall and attend.

love ya, gary here is my step dads invitation to the memorial.

megsmomma

Children, the Memorial is on Monday, April 2, 2007 at sundown. Please find a Kingdom Hall and attend. Love ya, Gary Here is my step dads invitation to the memorial. He sent it to me, my siblings (copied in my du(M)b mom) and some of my youngest sisters friends. Can't you feel the heart felt love?? LOL! Here is my response: (I wanted to say been there, done that....got the t-shirt, but I decieded to try to be respectfull....It isn't as fun!) I sent the response to all that he invited. (Next page down)

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moving away

by endlosung in

i am new here so hi to all.. i was raised in the cult, i call it a cult because it fits.. i am selling my home and moving away because they keep coming to my home to try to get me to say i do not agree with the society, by doing this they will have all they need to df me.. my wife wants me to just send a letter of disassociation, i see her point but i do not want them to be able to say what they want to so bad, [we had a bad person in our midst and we took action to get rid of him].

i would rather be left in good standing and keep the thorn in their side.. my wife and my self have not gone to meetings for 10 years now.

both our families are witnesses,and they do not have anything to do with us for the most part, her mother and father will talk to her if she comes around but it all has to be on their terms.

megsmomma

Hello, and welcome!

I have moved several times since leaving the JW's. I am so glad I do nat have to worry about seeing anyone I knew before....and stress about running into someone at the store at any given time. I think you will find relief!

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Introduction

by White Dove in

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i might have posted an intro in the wrong place so i will try again.

i have two kids, a girl and a boy, and am in college full time studying sociology (at least that is what i'm supposed to be doing instead of talking to you.

i prefer talking to you).

megsmomma

Welcome!!! Be VERY carefull...this board is addictive!! (no wonder the society warns against the internet! LOL)

We love seeing new people here...because it is a road to healing.

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Well, tomarrow is the big day..........

by ButtLight in

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the ghost hunters are coming to set up their cams, and voice recorders and such.

they pretty much rule out as much as they can before even considering it paranormal........which is good.

they already commented on two of my videos......ruling them out lol.

megsmomma

Oh thank you for the update!! Whatever is going on.....I believe you totally and it would frreak me out too!