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  I need some help with this......

  by freedomloverr in

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  well it's been almost a year since our move to a new area to begin our *offcial* fade.

  my issue of late has been my 8 year old daughter.

  this is a kid who has been an old soul since birth.

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  megsmomma

  I have an 8 yr old too. She lives with her JW dad and step-mom. I am having a hard time knowing what to say to her also, I can't really go to into things with her yet, but I am trying to plant little seeds that will hopefully pave the way for some big conversations when she is older. One thing I wish I could do with her now though is get out the Bible story book, or the new book for kids and go to the page depicting Armegeddon. It is a horrific scene. Then I would ask her "do you think Jehovah would kill all these people.....people like (name people you know who aren't JW's)?" Then say "well....I didn't think so either. Tell her you found that the bible teaches something different than what the JW's were teaching.....and that you believe the bible over what some religion teaches. John 3:16 says EVERYONE who believes in him will not perish....I think that may help get her thinking in a different direction.

  On a side note, when I was in therapy, I told my therapist that I wasn't sure what all to tell my daughter at only 8 years old, and she said it is the perfect time to be really straight up with them. So explain what you have learned about the organization and let her know that even though there are lots of people you love in the org still....you can't belong to a group that lies, and you can pary with her to help the people you love find their way out too.

  I feel for you!! ((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))
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  I want to call my mom...any advise???

  by megsmomma in

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  my mom has disowned me and subsequently, my 6 month old....and i am sick of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  i am so frusterated to let this stinkin cult ruin and affect my life so much.

  has anyone had success in talking to a relative and saying something to get them to think for themselves?

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  My mom has disowned me and subsequently, my 6 month old....and I AM SICK OF IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so frusterated to let this stinkin cult ruin and affect my life so much. Has anyone had success in talking to a relative and saying SOMETHING to get them to THINK for themselves? I was hinking of saying..."Ok mom, It is time for you to look into your religion and find out the facts....so you don't regret giving up your grandkids, and misleading those that listen to you." Would it work? I feel SO HELPLESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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  Mass? Maine?

  by Juniper in

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  anyone out there from massachusetts or maine?

  i'm looking for old friends that may have left!

  i'm not too keen on saying where i'm from yet (family doesn't realize i'm officially "not coming back").

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  megsmomma

  I already posted...but I am testing a pic
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  Confessions to Elders

  by megsmomma in

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  i was reading the masterbation thread and it reminded me of my experience....it is sooo embarrasing!

  when i was 13, my jw friend and i dicussed this topic.

  we both admitted that we had the "m" problem...and we tried to help eachother with it by checking up on eachother...."hi....how are you doing with your "m" problem?.......not so good....did it last night....me too....." so we decided we needed to talk to the elders about it and on a thurday night we both asked to meet with them.

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  You know Jeff....that is a very sick and realistic thought.......EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW
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  POLL: Do You Believe In The Bible or God At All???

  by minimus in

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  at this point in your life, do you believe in god or any parts of the bible as being god's word???.

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  megsmomma

  Wow...I guess since Jehovah didn't turn out to be real.....and the way the JW's taught us to follow the Bible was so off, so many just gave up on the whole concept. I didn't want to believe or think about it for a long time, but then I researched and realized that I do believe in both. The part of the Bible that I think matters most is what Jesus taught. It is not about rules and punishment, but about Personal relationships and Love....much more refreshing!
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  Mass? Maine?

  by Juniper in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  anyone out there from massachusetts or maine?

  i'm looking for old friends that may have left!

  i'm not too keen on saying where i'm from yet (family doesn't realize i'm officially "not coming back").

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  megsmomma

  I lived in Mass for about 4 years when I was younger. I went to the kingdom hall in Ware. I miss a-lot of people from there. You can message me if you want to compare people :)
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  Confessions to Elders

  by megsmomma in

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  i was reading the masterbation thread and it reminded me of my experience....it is sooo embarrasing!

  when i was 13, my jw friend and i dicussed this topic.

  we both admitted that we had the "m" problem...and we tried to help eachother with it by checking up on eachother...."hi....how are you doing with your "m" problem?.......not so good....did it last night....me too....." so we decided we needed to talk to the elders about it and on a thurday night we both asked to meet with them.

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  I was reading the masterbation thread and it reminded me of my experience....It is SOOO embarrasing! When I was 13, my JW friend and I dicussed this topic. We both admitted that we had the "M" problem...and we tried to help eachother with it by checking up on eachother...."Hi....how are you doing with your "M" problem?.......Not so good....did it last night....Me too....." So we decided we needed to talk to the elders about it and on a thurday night we both asked to meet with them. We wet into the back room and confessed to 2 elders who were very embarrased and just told us to pray about it...which we had done and it didn't work! It is so funny(sad) how much guilt the Borg puts on kids for being NORMAL!
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  How old did you expect to be when the New System would come?

  by JH in

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  i became a jw at age 28 and no way did i expect to ever get older than 40 years old in this system.. maybe at the extreme, i could have imagined being 45 years old, not more..

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  megsmomma

  I came into it when I was 10...and I remember knowing my great g-ma would still be alive when the end came....so I figured I had about 15 years at the most......then I got pregnant when I was 24 and I was so scared Armegedon would come when I was pregnent..."Woe to the pregnant woman"....and now that daughter is 8 and told me the end would come before she is 30. It sounds so familiar to hear her say that...How sad! It really makes me mad to think her dad will not be saving for retirement or for her to go to college. I am so glad to have married my husband now that lives in the real world, and is thinking about our future, including my daughters...so she can have a prosperous life.
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  Talking with my 8 yr old JW daughter

  by megsmomma in

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  i am so glad to have these boards so i can keep up with what they are teaching her.

  (she lives in ohio with her dad and step-mom....and is surrounded by dubs) i asked her if she had started the new tract campaign yet.

  she said .."no, not yet, but people aren't going to like it!

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  megsmomma

  Thank you everyone....I hope someday I can tell her about you all on here :) You know...I will love her no matter what, so making sure she knows that is a priority. I will hopefully set a good example of what a true christian acts...not perfect, but loving and sincere. Now, we will have holiday decor at my aunts and I never thought of asking her if she minded....but I will, and even though we can't take it all down for her, it is a good oppertunity for some discussions on what she thinks.

  One funny story.....I was reading her the Bible and I read that Jesus gives life water free....and asked her if I told her she could have something free, then made her run around the house for it, would it be free? She said "no"....so then I asked her what the scrip meant to her....and she thought a sec and then said "Well...it means if I want a drink of water, I just get it out of the faucet...and it is free!!" I said...."Very good!" If thats what it means to her...I like it! LOL
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  Talking with my 8 yr old JW daughter

  by megsmomma in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am so glad to have these boards so i can keep up with what they are teaching her.

  (she lives in ohio with her dad and step-mom....and is surrounded by dubs) i asked her if she had started the new tract campaign yet.

  she said .."no, not yet, but people aren't going to like it!

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  megsmomma

  That is the hardest thing to figure out how to handle. I remember when my mom became a JW and we visited my dad during my little sisters b-day. I would say we had only been in it for about 9 months....but I was already wanting to please Jah....and when my dad took us to a b-day party at my aunts house for my sister...We both cried and I locked us in the bathroom....Since we were being "persecuted". So, I don't know how far to go with her in "worldly" things because I don't want her to feel guilty. I will be going to Ohio for this x-mas....and we have a bunch of family that are going to my aunts for x-mas. I will get my daughter, but her dad will pick her up on x-mas eve....so we don't celebrate with her....but x-mas will be going on the whole time, really...and she will see we are not worshipping the tree...and we are just being a happy normal loving family....and I hope to show her those things in a subtle way......Does that seem like it makes sense?