Dear AGuest said:
Prior to entering into the WTBTS, my friends (bohemian/hippie-types) and I would discuss... well, everything. From religion to politics to families to work to current events (local, national, global)... and more. But once inside the WTBTS I found my conversation virtually limited to, well, "theocratic" lingo. No matter WHAT the subject was. Sooner or later the words "Society", "FDS," "meetings", "field service," and... well, you know... the usual words... came up. Every conversation either reached that vocabulary... circled around to that vocabularly... referred to something in that vocabulary... or had to consist only OF that vocabulary.
And then... my Lord set me FREE. To love anyone I wanted... and to discuss anything I wanted... with anyone I wanted. I did not know that freedom while I was touching the Borg. But I know it now. Yet... I find that even though I am out of the Borg... and no longer touching her... there are some HERE... who want to bind me, again... to restrict my FREEDOM... and my BOLDNESS... of speech... even though such freedom is written... IN THE BIBLE.
I LOVE those paragraphs. It is so true (and terrifying and wonderful, that now we are free.)
Several things came to my mind reading this. One, the only thing I can think of that would really bring on a huge and potentially nasty knee-jerk reaction was talking about anything JW related (once I left, and BEFORE I found this site and started HEALING after all those years of being in denial and feeling so alone!) When anyone asked me what it was like to grow up a Witness, or why JW's do this or that, I would cringe, and literally have a bit of a panic attack. Short breath, tense neck, and rude retort! I guess in those cases, it wasn't so much something I didn't know about, but it was certainly something that brought up pain and panic.
The similarity is in the FEAR, I suppose. Fear (not money) is the root of all evil. I feared the memories of my life inside the org, and the threats it still posed to myself and my loved ones, and your old friends perhaps feared that which they did not know. Which came first, the feeling of fear or the insecurity? Who knows, but the reaction is the same.
The other thing is that part of the ongoing wonder of this site is being able to interact with so many who are FRESH OUT!!! They have a lot of un-conditioning to do. Some, like myself, wandered around in denial for years before facing the fear and the TRUTH about the "Truth". Some folks, no matter what their background, never cope with their fears and insecurities. Ever. It's probably a bit sad, but it is much sadder for them than for those of us who attempt to interact with them.
One more thought. I am afraid that many people have a knee-jerk reaction to anything with the words "god", "bible", or "jesus" in them. I still have a bit of a reaction to the word "church". Perhaps after their (our) experience, they react to all of it the same way that I reacted to anything JW, having thrown the baby out with the proverbial bath water. I even referred to myself as "the anti-religion poster child."
There are many on here who see your love and brilliant light, Shelby, no matter who or what you want to attribute it to. Personally, I do not believe the bible is the verbatim word of god for many reasons, but I do believe it was written by those who yearned for god, and that (to me) makes it beautiful.
When it comes to words and light, the two do not often mix. Often we are thwarted by words, when if we just got past them, we would find we are talking about the same things. That reminds me of one of my favorite quotes: "All mystics speak the same language, for they come from the same country." ~Louis Claude de St Martin.
Love to you, Shelby.