Posts by earthtone

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Have You Been Divorced, Or Getting A Divorce?

by Outaservice in

jw
friends

divorce is much more common in the jehovah's witness community than they would like to admit.

probably more so than the population in general in my opinion.. if you have been divorced, do you think that the watchtower society contributed to the divorce, or caused it, or is it just possible you married some jerk or abuser and divorce would have occured no matter what religion you were, or even if you had no religion?.

possibly you got married way too young as the end was coming and there is no marriage in the resurrection if you died.

earthtone

4 times? I'm waiting....

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Letter to my family. Retyped

by monkeyshine in

i have not made the best decisions most of the time.

no good reason anyway.

it is beyond restriction.. this is the most important point.

earthtone

This is from your first post. I don't know if you read it.

Okay I read it and it sounds logical to me and I'm sure to others on this site, but we are xJW's. They are probably going to see the stance they are taking as "doing God's Will". They think they are suppose to shun you. From what you have told me your sisters are pretty cold-hearted. I don't think they will understand what you are saying, About putting families first, because they are taught to put God first, always.

Overall I think it's nicely done. You made a good point about the elders stepping down for their family, but the elder is still attending the meetings. Big difference from you, who doesn't go.

I wish I was more helpful. I just wanted you to be aware of what the reaction will most likely be.

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Have You Been Divorced, Or Getting A Divorce?

by Outaservice in

jw
friends

divorce is much more common in the jehovah's witness community than they would like to admit.

probably more so than the population in general in my opinion.. if you have been divorced, do you think that the watchtower society contributed to the divorce, or caused it, or is it just possible you married some jerk or abuser and divorce would have occured no matter what religion you were, or even if you had no religion?.

possibly you got married way too young as the end was coming and there is no marriage in the resurrection if you died.

earthtone

I'm divorced. I think we got married way to young. I never would have married him if I hadn't been given an ultimatum from him and guilted into marry him because we had committed fornication. We were 19, Df'd and I thought that we could make things right by getting married and serving Jehovah together. Instead. As soon as we got reinstated. He stop going to all the meetings. At the time I wanted a spirtual minded brother. When I told him that this bothered me (him not attending meeting) he promised he would go and never did. He started lying about how much he made at his job and our finances in general. Spent half his check on computer equipment while I worked almost 30 hours a week and went to school fulltime 40hrs.

Then because he lied about how much he made ( I think 6.50 an hour) he had to work crazy overtime. We just grew apart from not seeing each other and we barely had sex ( maybe once a month, then every couple months, then 4, 5 months) I was just sick of him. We didn't even have Jehovah to keep us together and I was never really in love with him. Then a year into things he tries to flip the script and become "the man" in the house and tell me what to do. Cook this, clean that. WTF!. And on top of all that he had horrible hygiene problems. Can you sh*tty drawers? I didn't even want him to touch me.

So yeah the WTS contributed to this travesty of a marriage. I never would have gotten married that young if it wasn't for me thinking this was the best thing to do, so I wouldn't to be committing fornication. And in the end I committed adultry( but we were way past over with but not legally seperated).

EDITED: To say I don't regret it at all. I probably could have worked harder to make it work, but I didn't. The best thing that every happened to me was when I woke up and said I can't do it anymore. And didn't. Not saying it was all his fault either. I really justed didn't want him anymore and I don't think I ever really did. I was young and stupid and thought his love for me would be enough (low self-esteem) .

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I've been invited to the convention

by 2112 in

ok, i've been out for 15 yrs.

my wife is still in and very zelous.

she is really begging me to go with her this sunday.

earthtone

Alternatively, you can use the opportunity to point out to her all of the things wrong with what they're saying there.

Yeah this is true. Especially on Sunday when they give those damn resolutions. They sound so wacky and controlling. Point out to her how they keep harping on internet usage. It's because they don't want people to see all these apostate sites and become apostates themselves (word it alittle better though). I'm not sure when but they give a talk at the convention about Jah not forgeting the elderly. That's a great time to point how many elderly one's don't have money in their retirement accounts because they thought the world would end by now. And look! They are still here. There are so many good times to point out how asinine the WTS really is. Have fun laughing at them if u go. Because the whole thing is pure comic relief.

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A letter to my family

by monkeyshine in

please see the following thread with the updated letter (personal details removed).

letter to my family.

retyped

earthtone

Okay I read it and it sounds logical to me and I'm sure to others on this site, but we are xJW's. They are probably going to see the stance they are taking as "doing God's Will". They think they are suppose to shun you. From what you have told me your sisters are pretty cold-hearted. I don't think they will understand what you are saying, About putting families first, because they are taught to put God first, always.

Overall I think it's nicely done. You made a good point about the elders stepping down for their family, but the elder is still attending the meetings. Big difference from you, who doesn't go.

I wish I was more helpful. I just wanted you to be aware of what the reaction will most likely be.

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A letter to my family

by monkeyshine in

please see the following thread with the updated letter (personal details removed).

letter to my family.

retyped

earthtone

shine, it's so small. I can barely read it.

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Need marital advice

by lost_light06 in

jw
friends

i need some serious advice.

i just found out my wife has been emailing some guy she met at her work.

she gave him her cell # and said she wanted to get together and connect.

earthtone

If it is true, find out if she wants to resolve the marriage or divorce. It is not worth the time, money, or effort to go to counseling if she wants out

This is so true. When I was done with my first marriage, I was done. There was nothing he could say that would have made me stay. And I still don't regret it. So let her know, that the gig is up and if she want's to work it out, that's great but don't keep hanging around like a lost little boy if she doesn't. You'll only hurt yourself more.

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