Over the last week many things have come to light about violence directed toward my children my their mother and stepfather.
For many years i have been concerned and have attempted to rectify the problem by approaching my x herself. She always denies it.
This weekend my youngest son, aged 7, told me that his mom had tried to choke him, yelling, 'i'm going to fucking murder you'. His stepfather pulled her off him. Although previously he had thrown him up the stairs, banged his head against the wall and told him 'i fucking hate you'. They are on the verge of divorce and blaming the children for it.
I have reported the incident to social services and was told not to return my children until an investigation had taken place.
To cut a long story short, they were interviewed by police yesterday, the mom and stepfather have denied it, although admit they lost their temper. There were no marks. Two of my children told the police she had her hands around his throat, the mom has said she had her hands on his shoulders.
Social Services have decided to return the children to the mom, due to the fact i only have a two bedroomed house. The children were staying at my moms over this period, which they have said is unsuitable because i don't stay there.
I feel as though i have been blamed for causing undue stress to the children, my mom is seen as an interfering grandmother. They see this incident as a one off, because i have never reported previous incidents.
The mom yesterday refuses to now let me have them over the weekend, because social services have told her i do not have the room to keep them overnight. But only allowing access Saturday's 10-5. It would appear that social services have agreed with her.
I wondered if anyone knows how the social service system (uk) works to allow this to happen. I have searched the net and cannot really find anything.
Yours Dig