onacruse: I am not DF'd, but that is interesting.
blondie: My parents don't get involved in my business. People that know me know better than to tangle with me. I am not mean, in fact I try to be very nice as long as you are nice to me. But if you tread where you are not wanted I will make your life hell and take things well past the point where it is more trouble then it is worth. I am fortunat to have parents that even if I did get outed as an apostate they would still talk to me and I would be very very very suprised if they would out me. They may not agree with me but they think that it is between me and Jehovah. Additionally my mom is a firecracker and elders don't like to have idle conversation with elders. She is usually a thorn in their side, asking questions that make them think, something elders are usually not very good at.
timetochange: i know about the letter of intro as I am\was a MS until just recently. This is exactly why I needed a willing accomplice in the right position AND why I wanted to know if anything copies or otherwise were kept by the sending congregation.
good comments all
I doubt I personally will "need" to do this unless it is just to get my file as a matter of principle.
-r