Welcome! Thanks for sharing a bit of your story.
Do you think that maybe one of the elders has/had a thing for your wife and was keeping you down in effort to cause trouble with your marriage and make himself look better.
Sorry that came out cynical. But I've things like that happen in business. And the WTS is like a big business corp.
Regardless. Welcome! We're glad you found us. You'll fit right in.
-Aude Sapere (meaning: Dare to Know; Dare to Have Wisdom/Understanding; Dare to Think for Yourself)