i really love this web site and yes i'm a jw still, have been for 8 years now, i'm 35 and am married to a jw and have two boys one is 1-1/2 and the other 5. for about 2 to 3 years now i'm starting to see that its not really the truth.
the brothers, sisters and elders dont really care about anyone, the watchtower is ruining my life, i have been depressed for awhile now and i'm on anti depressants as i started feeling suicidal as i'll never be good enough as i hate meetings, i hate going door to door, and it doesn't make any sense that jehovah will destroy good people just because they don't follow its doctrins.
its like saving to your son if you don't do what i tell you i will kill you.
I am also new and have been overwhelmed with how friendly everyone is. Please remember that most Jay Dubbs are depressed but just don't know why. This site has really cheered me up no end because we are not alone.
I would love to email you but can't so if you want a chat please email me, I'm in the UK and know no witnesses in Canada (except you ExPat) so can't get you into trouble.
I am 32 and have 2 children aged 5 and 8 and know what it is like trying to be a good little sister, but if you are not pioneering then you are nothing to the rest of the cong!
when i was a jw - many moons ago, i hung around the 'sound department' at assemblies.. they finally put me to work - and let me do things like string wire for speakers, install speakers, etc.. i eventually learned how to adjust the amplifiers for proper volume, too.. good experience and training, that i don't use to this day.. anyway - i also was allowed to adjust the microphones for the 'speaker' who would be giving the next talk.. this usually involved following the feller out to the podium, and raising, or lowering the microphone to the proper height fer picking up the words from the fellers' mouth.. some required very little adjustment, whilst others required major raising - or lowering.. this one time, i recall going out there, and they had used a new microphone stand - one that had a ring, or collar arrangement that you just squeezed, or rotated and lifted, to move the microphone up or down, as opposed to the older type that required one to unscrew a locking collar, and then raise or lower the microphone.. i had not tested this previously - and only seen others work it, but it looked easy enough.. so, i follow this 'big-wig' out there, stand there, grab the upper section of the microphone stand with one hand, and then with the other i am attempting to <grunt> <grunt> get it... to ... release.. it wouldn't budge!!!
i was there, for what seemed like an eternity, trying to work this thing, then finally reached up and adjusted the horizontal arm - in a vain attempt to adjust the mic (it also refused to cooperate, and i think i only adjusted the microphone a total of 1/8").. the 'big-wig' speaker musta noticed my total and complete embarrassment (i usually turned beet-red in the face), and nodded that it was adjusted properly - so he could git on with his part.. i skeedadled off that stage - and made a mental note to figure out how to adjust that new type of microphone stand - later..
You all sound like very naughty little boyz, I'm just jealous that I was never allowed privledges as I was deemed to only have 1 brain cell as I had an illness called being FEMALE!!
But as I am now out I can reveal that that certain brothers in Peterborough called Jason, Peter and Martin (yes you know who you are and you are all now elders!) if you are naughty enough to look at these kind of sites, used to spend all the time at Dudley assembly hall zooming in with the cameras, checking out all the girlies and who had fallen asleep (that's everyone!). Well one day we knew what they were upto, so whilst taking notes (as I was very studious, or playing hangman) I wrote them a note that they read and apparently they were laughing so loud they got in trouble with the chairman.
i was d'fd 18 months ago, i was prepared for the shunning within my family and the borg of all my friends (as i never associated with "worldly people") but i have been totally blown away with how nobody cares about my 2 young children!!.
my kids have not heard from their aunties and uncle since i was thrown out in feb '01.
I was D'Fd 18 months ago, I was prepared for the shunning within my family and the Borg of all my friends (as I never associated with "Worldly People") but I have been totally blown away with how nobody cares about my 2 young children!!
My kids have not heard from their Aunties and Uncle since I was thrown out in Feb '01. My D'Fshipping was not popular in the cong, as many brothers knew my situation and pleaded with me to appeal my case, as they felt I should not be disfellowshipped. My friends and family pleaded with me for reinstatement which I was assured of after 6 months if I was a good girl!
Those elders who lied and cheated on my committee, threatened me if I appealed. In the middle of this was a 6 yr old and a 3 year old. My oldest son wants to go back to the meetings, so he can see his old friends and my youngest daughter doesn't even know her aunts and uncles any more!!
Surely this is not in line with the Borgs guidelines. I have a lot to be thankful of by being disfellowshipped as unless this happened I would have never listened to those rascals called "Apostates" - even though they still believe in the Bible, God/Christ!!
Life sucks, is she an active witness. I think it is worse when you get family members who are inactive etc, yet when they find it convient they then decide not to associate with you. At least if she is living as a JayDub properly she isn't being 2 faced, like some of my family.
When I was 18 in my first house, I got in from work and was making a cuppa tea, as you do, when my stereo switched on playing really scary organ music, this was the beginning of the Faith Track by George Michael, just as the song was about to start, the stereo switched off completely!! In my panic I grabbed my cuppa and sat on the step of my front door awaiting my macho hubbie to come home from work.
When I told him he burst out laughing, as the stereo was new, he had been trying to program it to wake us up in the morning by getting it to play for a minute in the morning, but had set the time to 6pm instead of 6am!!!
I think that most JWs are a little paranoid, to things and there is usually a perfectly good explanation. When you hear these stories it is usually a friend of a friend.
For those who have had bizzare experiences, I am not calling you paranoid, I'm too new to this site to make enemies!!!
this is my first attempt to make contact with ex jws, i would love to make contact with ex jws in cambridgeshire/northamptonshire but would luv to hear from anyone else who wishes to share their wit/humour or just chat.
i have been out of "big mother" for 18 months after spending my whole life very actively associating with jws (all of my 32 years).
