Mad Irishman, I wonder if your family would have a different view than you do about their being 'hurt' or not?
My jw, the only jw any of us know on either side of the family and I can tell you the family is deeply hurt that he won't go to family events (holidays,birthdays) yet expects people to come to an event (get together) we may host or may have been his idea in the first place. I can't tell you how many times people joke with me (non jw) that they may not be able to come because it is 'against their religion' that day. Yes, they come, because that is what families do, they get together.
Only cults deny the natural family bond.