Posts by Chia

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Mates that trash the other parnter in front of the children

by frankiespeakin in

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friends

how do you feel about it when a formally together couple split up and one of them talks really bad about the other to the children just to get the kids on thier side and to turn them against the other in revenge to sooth hurt feeling?

Chia

Oh Crumpet, that is terrible.

I hate it when my Mom does it to me. It breaks my heart because I love my Dad.
I don't care I love my Dad!

Brooke, my thoughts exactly. My mom does the same thing. Well, she did when we were speaking. Including telling me that my father was "an agent of Satan" and that Satan was using my dad to get me to stop serving Jehovah. So she was on Jehovah's side and my dad was Satan's helper. But now I see the real truth. Not that my mom is totally evil, but she just made herself look bad, at least in my eyes, by being so bitter. It's hard to fathom having a relationship with her in the future. I remember the good times, I love her, but I don't want to be the kind of mother to my children that she was to me. I want to take her good qualities, but hopefully not her bad ones. Being a pawn in your parents' game is awful. The pain is with me to this day.

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What JW Things Did You Have A Hard Time To Let Go?

by minimus in

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i had a hard time accepting that jehovah's witnesses are a cult.

i would even agree that they might be "cult like" but i didn't want to accept that i indeed was part of a cult.....what about you?

Chia

Yeah, I still kinda feel like the Dubs aren't necessarily a cult, they're cult-like in a lot of aspects. But I just stopped going to meetings maybe a month ago, so maybe after a few more months or even years have passed, I'll view it differently. I also have nagging feelings that maybe sometimes they are right and I"m wrong. But it doesn't make me feel bad enough to go back there. I can't live that lie anymore.

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Saddest cartoon episode?

by Simon in

our kids love the simpsons and futurama but one episode of futurama is just soooo sad, i can barely watch it - it brings a lump to my throat every time!.

the one with seymour, fry's fossilised dog that the professor is going to bring back to life.

he decides not to do it because he thinks seymour lived a full life after he got frozen and will have forgotten him.. instead, the dog sat waiting for him all those years ... .

Chia

I remember when Stimpy lost his fart. I actually watched that episode with my father. He was laughing hysterically, and he said, "So this is the stuff you watch?" He remembers it to this day. He reminded me about it not long ago.

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Leviathan

by myelaine in

and in the morning the word of the lord came to me, saying, son of man, has not the house of israel, the rebellious house, said to you, what are you doing?

say to them, thus says the lord god: this burden concerns the prince in jerusalem and all the house of israel who are among them.

i will not conceal his limbs, his mighty power, or his graceful proportions.

Chia

Did someone say "shat"?

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JWs required to report medical information to elders

by Elsewhere in

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friends

there was an article, i believe in the awake!, that talks about a hypothetical medical worker who in a hypothetical situation comes to find out that a jw has accepted a medical procedure that is not accepted by the wts.

this hypothetical worker must decide where or not she will report the hypothetical violation to the elders.

does anyone recall where i can find this article?

Chia

Reading things like that makes me want to vomit. Even when I was a Dub I never stuck my nose in other people's business or informed on people.

12

What would you do?

by pratt1 in

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friends

let's say that a young relative of yours is a dub, 16 years old, and live with her dub parents.. she has come to you because she is pregant and needs you moral and financial support in this matter.. because she was in denial about her condition, if she has an abortion (which is what she wants) it would require a short hopital stay.

she is 11 weeks i think.. what do you do?.

1. tell her parents?.

Chia

I hope for the best for your young relative. What a terrible situation. I once thought I was pregnant. It turned out not to be so, but I was also a little older than her, and I was certain my mom would throw me out of the house and disown me and everything. She still did throw me out of the house, for a minor thing, so I know she would've had I been pregnant. I had made up in my mind if I was pregnant I was definitely going to get an abortion. No matter what decision is made, it's a difficult one, and it should be respected. But there's nothing wrong with you being there for her, to listen to her and comfort her.

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Are Jehovah's Witnesses Truly Honest?

by minimus in

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friends

jws pride themselves in being the "most honest people on earth".

could you refute that claim??

?

Chia

Yeah right. They say that but on the same token they do "theocratic warfare" which is basically lying. But they call it "not divulging the truth to those not entitled to it." This happened to both me and a friend. The elders told us they wanted to talk to us to encourage us, and then when they got the chance they pounced on us. In my case it was "faithful and discreet slave", in her case it was "morality", but either way, dishonesty. They couldn't have just said, "We heard some stuff, we want to talk to you"? But no!

So of course, not all Dubs are dishonest, but I definitely can't say the group as a whole is known for their honesty.

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What would you do?

by pratt1 in

jw
friends

let's say that a young relative of yours is a dub, 16 years old, and live with her dub parents.. she has come to you because she is pregant and needs you moral and financial support in this matter.. because she was in denial about her condition, if she has an abortion (which is what she wants) it would require a short hopital stay.

she is 11 weeks i think.. what do you do?.

1. tell her parents?.

Chia

Without passing moral judgment(ahem, AFIN), I would not get too involved. I know it sounds cruel, but that's a tough call. Since she's underage, it depends on the laws and all...I just think it's sticky. What if she decides to come out and tell her parents later, and then it all falls back on you? I wouldn't want you to be caught in that situation. That's just my humble opinion.

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It is finished, or is it just beginning?

by IP_SEC in

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friends

well i am no longer one of jehovah's witnesses.

i had fully intentioned to disassociate myself from the platform today, but i decided that if i wanted a chance to save my marriage that i'd better tell my wife.

she immediately went to to one of the elders.

Chia

Wow, Matt, you're really brave. I know this must be such a difficult time for you, but kudos for your bravery. I don't go to meetings anymore but I can't bring myself to that final step of disassociation. There's still some lurking doubts I've got to take care of.

You're a brave man, I can't say it enough, and I hope things work out for the best with you and your family. You deserve people in your life who care about you for who you are and not how "strong" you are spiritually or how many hours you spend in field service or how many magazines you sell or how good you are at public speaking!

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Your Most Embarrassing Injury!

by whyamihere in

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friends

i want to know for a good laugh!.

onetime(in band camp) i was rushing to get to work and i was really late.

i got there and i forgot my hand bag in the car.

Chia

Ooh yeah, that's bad. I know someone that happened to once (AHEM) but it wasn't quite so bad that she had to go to the doctor, it was just red and uncomfortable and I--I mean she---couldn't wear her contacts for a while.