I am a cancer surviver myself but I have no insight on that form of cancer.
I am deeply saddened reading your post. I wish I knew what to say.
dear friends:.
i found out on friday evening, my brother-in-law has cancer.
we don't know much at this point, but the prognosis is not good.
I am a cancer surviver myself but I have no insight on that form of cancer.
I am deeply saddened reading your post. I wish I knew what to say.
jehovah's witnesses are a nosy bunch.
they watch to see if anyone might be offending another person's conscience.
they listen for any negative comments that could bring "reproach on jehovah's name".
One of my last witness functions was a 'get-together'. I wasn't invited (too irregular) but my old roommate brought me along because I was having a real hard time and needed some fun and friendship.
My parents had just split up with a horribly, horribly ugly scene. This one 'sister' was oh! so happy to meet me!! She had heard all about their troubles and wanted to let me know how much she respected and supported my mom.
I told her it takes two people to get to the point that they did. Each played their role. And I really don't care to discuss with anyone especially someone I don't know.
She started telling me her take on all their troubles.
I asked her to please stop. You don't know both sides and it's none of your business.
I walked away.
She followed me and continued speaking as if I had said nothing.
I told her that I don't allow my parents to speak to me about the other and I was sure as hell not going to let her barge right in.
"Oh no! I would never do that!! I just wanted to let you know that........."
I told her to shut-up. It's none of your business. Leave me alone.
I left and never went to another gathering. Way too much gossip and rumor mongering.
very cute and fun!
find out your "santa's helper name" and email it to your friends and family for a laugh!
http://www.bbc.co.uk/derby/fun_stuff/christmas/santas_little_helper_names.shtml.
Cutie Berry-Baubles
or my alter-ego: Cutie Scrooge-Gnome
.
of course, they say it's because they've outgrown the hall but that isn't what this years report indicates is it?
http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/ebayisapi.dll?viewitem&category=15825&item=4344657631&rd=1
Yup. Very common design.
Deters criminal break-in and day-dreaming during talks.
i was raised a jw and as i've probably said before, i left when i was around 18... i'll be 27 in a few days, and as i get older realise how i do not really know how to celebrate anything.
being raised a jw we never had xmas or birthdays (or any celebration), and since none of the friends i had when i left the jw's were christian either, i have to this day never celebrated it... i am not christian and will openly admit that i couldn't care less about the religious side of christmas, but what i see around me, everywhere in the world are people who aren't really christian either, celebrating christmas, either for kids or friends or whatever, but i've never done that or had anyone around me to do that with... people look forward to this time of year so much, they buzz and rush around like it's a real event, and to this day i've never been able to feel that way.
most of my christmas/birthdays since leaving jw's have been spent by myself, completely devoid of celebration, i want to get into that feel good spirit, but i don't know how, and if i try to fake it, i know it is fake.
My parents didn't start studying until I was 9. The we quit holidays altogether.
I've been essentially 'out of the truth' since 1991 (or 1987 - depends on which stage of cognition we count) and still struggle with this holiday stuff.
When December comes around, I feel more lonely, depressed and out-of-sorts than the previous year.
I want to celebrate. And I feel guilty. and that makes me feel more disconnected.
I participate in some holiday activities at work and send 'non-religious' cards to my customers. Couple of shy gifts to selected workmates but not a clue on how to begin celebrations on my own. Any suggestions?
This board has been a god-send (ha!!) for the past few weeks. Can't tell you how wonderful it is to hear everyone's story. Finally I've found some people that I feel can understand and appreciate me and my feelings.
we are so busted.
i learned tonight, from my source, that someon saw our christmas tree and reported it to the elders.. rats, our days of anonymity are likely almost over.
starting tuesday, the local congregation has the circuit and the district overseer, before their ca next weekend.
LOVE the 'who will take care of my mother?' comment!!!!
LOVE IT! That'll end it all right there. It's your trump card.
Surely the elders and pioneers don't want to take on that responsibility.
Better for them to say you drifted away and have been gone for so long now.
Best of luck (keep smiling!)
you know what i hate??
when you're talking to someone and instead of acknowledging you or whatever you're saying, they just stare.
A lumpy matress
High humidity
And when people at work make comments or jokes about Jehovah's Witnesses. (No one there knows that I was a jw for 25 years.) I still take it personally. My little (ha!) secret.
just a quick run-down for those who haven't followed my court case so far: .
my ex and i have joint custody but primary residence is with her.
she has broken a bunch of the orders that the judge made.
formerout -
How did it go today??
just a quick run-down for those who haven't followed my court case so far: .
my ex and i have joint custody but primary residence is with her.
she has broken a bunch of the orders that the judge made.
I don't know your story but I sure do empathize with you and wish you a clear, thoughtful head tomorrow.
13 years ago I won custody, and *I* was the out-of-town guardian. I believe that I won because I focused attention on what I truly believed was in the CHILDREN's best interest - short and long-term.
Key point: I was the one who was encourage cooperativeness between all parties. I made it clear that I was committed to making sure that the kids would remain in close contact with the other parents. I firmly (but non-judgementally) listed specific instances where this commitment was not demonstrated by the others. I made it part of the record that I did not criticize the others and always behaved respectfully to them and that the respect was not returned. I brought up children's behavior patterns changed for the worse when around the others. It was known to all that I wanted the children to maintain a strong, healthy relationship with the other parents and my very real, documented concern was that the other parties were overtly undermining the relationship that the kids had with me.
Notice: NOT my relationship with the kids, but rather, the KID's relationship with me.
Does that make sense? It's not my personal connection that i'm trying to protect. I have that - I am connected for life. I want to safeguard the KID's personal connection.
I'm having trouble finding the right words and am afraid that I am about to repeat myself so I will stop.
Suggestion: Breathe. Breathe deep and often. Go to bed early. Get good sleep.
BEST WISHES for successful presentation tomorrow.
-Denise.
.
my brother, my sister, myself, xena and those with us walked out when we were called aside and asked not to attend the reception after the memorial.. more details to follow....... timb
I think the people that invited your father to dinner over stepped their bounds.
In light of your respective non-/involvement with the organization, I can understand that diehard witnesses would have felt compromised to participate and associate. That would be their problem. Your mothers memorial and funeral is a family matter. Dinner that night should have been set aside for family first. Others as invited (according to each others sensibilities). But that evening should have been dedicated to the family members. Regardless of their organizational status.
Dinner at the friend's home would have been much more appropriate a few days later.
(This is making me quite angry.)