Victor
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The Courage to Heal
by Victor_E inthe courage to heal.
in a study done at the university of houston researchers concluded that a person with deep psychological issues would go through a five-step process.
i concur with this study after having worked with offenders on probation for drug and alcohol problems and sexual and physical abuse survivors.. .
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Anatomy of a former JW
by Victor inone of the respondents on my post on mental illness stated that it was the same of ex jw's.
i thought about this for a couple of days and drawing from my personal experience, i can say that this is mostly true.
if one is disfellowshipped, the act of forcibly cutting off all ties to a jw's way of life is painful and in some cases inducing cognitive dissonance.
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Mental Illness among JW's
by Victor indisclaimer: this article has some broad generalizations that will have exceptions to what is stated.
this is the only way i can even attempt to address the topic.
i've looked for scholarly articles published on peer reviewed journals for years.
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Ex JW Doctors/Lawyers/Etc.....?
by Iamallcool innobody responded so far on my previous thread.
no problem.
the last sentence i asked if you know of any doctors or lawyers, etc..that left the borg too?
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Ex JW 12 Steps Continued
by Victor instep 4 make a searching and fearless moral inventory of yourself.
to err is human.
the bible (if you are a believer) has a written moral code.
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'Phone call from Ex JW,
by Phizzy ina guy i was great friend with in my teens 'phoned me out of the blue today, and brought back a lot of fond memories, he was df'd, because he was a very naughty boy lol, but as he said, as is common with a lot of us exes, he took a long time to grow up.
he spoke of my parents, who despite being jw's, were lovely people, they took him in to our home when his mum was in hospital for some weeks, he also spoke of the good times we had as kids, and how his parents were good to him, and made him what he is today despite being jw's.. we sometimes do not give credit where it is due, my parents made me a lover of truth, but it is real truth i espouse now of course.. perhaps this kind of view of our upbringing is more positive than concentrating on all the downsides of what is basically an evil cult ?
looking at the (very few) positives can perhaps help us heal ?.
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Exiting After Effects Part 2
by Victor inapproval .
as children we have a need to bond with our caregivers or parents.
this bond leads to needing their approval.
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What happens to bethel members who get sick?
by JimmyYoung inso i am sure if you are at bethel and have the flu you just get time or what ever to recover, but what about serious sickness.
say you get cancer or some possible terminal illness?
what happens?.
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Exiting the JW's and its aftermath Part 2
by Victor inapproval .
as children we have a need to bond with our caregivers or parents.
this bond leads to needing their approval.
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How do you feel about the JWS religion after being out more than 10, 20, 30 years ?
by Finkelstein inmyself being a born in and completely out for more than 30 years i see more of the damage of what this religious cult causes people .. part of myself leaving had to do with the psychological harm it was causing people back in the 1970's, one guy my age at the time hung himself out anxiety and depression.. the numerous suicides that have occurred in numbers is shocking to say the least.. then there is the many families breaking up.. marriages breaking apart because one member decides to leave the jws.. the deaths of members or their children from refusing a blood transfusion.. this hit me personally when my mother refused a bt when she was ill in the hospital and died.. over the years and observing all of these things reminds me how glad and fortunate i left when i did but i do find it responsible to others to expose this religious cult to what can happen to people who get involved with it and that's what i've been doing on this forum and elsewhere.
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