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How do you handle a Volitile Ex??
by Seeking Knowledge inmy ex....is an idiot.
i have had problems with him from the get go when it comes to custody of our son.
we have gone to court and established some ground rules, which he consistantly bends & twists to suit him.
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pennycandy
Maybe a great thing for you guys would be a divorced parenting class. Some states require them before finalizing a divorce. A good class stresses the importance of working together (without pointing fingers). It will show him that a child's parents fighting will change a child on the inside, forever, and give guidelines for maintaining good communication.
Maybe if you put it to him as something that can help all of you including yourself and his new wife, it won't look like you're suggesting he's wrong and needs talking to.
I feel for you, girl. Good luck.
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Follow up question for: Re: Would You Stay As A Witness, Even Though You ..
by XBEHERE in.
ok many good comments came from minimus' question so i have one: .
how long did you stay in once you realized the truth?
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pennycandy
About six months of meetings, and another year to research before the official fade. I REALLLLLLY wanted to be sure.
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Online pray?
by Gendolf inwhen to me it is bad, i can pray to the god on this site: http://www.jesus-flower.com, how you consider, than it differs what i do not go to church?
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pennycandy
God is not in any building, and we can pray to Him anytime and anywhere. If you enjoy the fellowship of being at church with other believers, that's the reason for going. But God doesn't care where you worship, just that you do.
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Letter from PO......opinions????
by jillbedford inafter leaving jw, being a former regular pioneer for many years, i wanted to still help others is a meaningful way.
this year i am raising money for the leukemia & lymphoma society.
i am training to run a marathon, 26.2 miles as part of my fund raising.
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pennycandy
I would say "Thank you so much for your kind donation. It is truly showing the spirit of mercy and love for neighbor, just as Jesus did."
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Related to Anyone Famous?
by the_classicist inrwagner's post go me thinking.
are any of your ancestors famous?
the only famous one i can think of is sir robert peel, i'm not too sure what he did.
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pennycandy
Clyde Barrow of Bonnie & Clyde fame was a cousin somehow. My grandmother remembers visiting his family.
My uncle-in-law is G.W. Bailey, the cigar-smoking mechanic "Rizzo" from Mash, and the Police Academy movies.
No one really noble, I'm afraid.
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What does "having problems" mean in JWland?
by pennycandy ini'm off to visit my jw family for the weekend.
i've been fading for about five years, so our visits are always kinda like walking in a minefield.
anyway, i've been thinking about my friend r. r and i met and started studying in 7th grade and she is the only person i can say i directly "brought" into the org.
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pennycandy
I know I'll have to be careful. There have only been a few witnesses I've opened my mouth to, and never before I was sure it was safe. Even if her troubles have nothing to do with religion, I still want her to know I'm here for her, whether the truth about the org ever comes up or not.
I also have an aunt I haven't seen since I was a little girl. She was disfellowshipped about 30 years ago. She also now lives in my hometown but contacting her a little trickier since she's df'd. I'll have to sneak her phone number from my mom's rolodex and not let her know it. But I figure I don't have any excuse for ignoring her and it's now my responibility to say hi.
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What does "having problems" mean in JWland?
by pennycandy ini'm off to visit my jw family for the weekend.
i've been fading for about five years, so our visits are always kinda like walking in a minefield.
anyway, i've been thinking about my friend r. r and i met and started studying in 7th grade and she is the only person i can say i directly "brought" into the org.
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pennycandy
I'm off to visit my JW family for the weekend. I've been fading for about five years, so our visits are always kinda like walking in a minefield.
Anyway, I've been thinking about my friend R. R and I met and started studying in 7th grade and she is the only person I can say I directly "brought" into the org. She was the sweetest, most generous, naive, funniest, dingy person I know. I've only seen her once or twice since I moved away and got married. I thought I'd look her up this weekend, since she's now moved back to our hometown.
Talking to my sister on the phone yesterday, I told her I'd like to call up R and visit. My sister said that she had mentioned the same thing to my mom, and my mom had told her that she heard R was not doing well, and having some "problems", so she probably shouldn't contact her right now.
Two things struck me about that comment. First, having been raised around JW-speak, "not doing well" and "having problems" means that she's not going to meetings, or is depressed, or is doing things she shouldn't be doing, probably a combination of the three. I had both an ache of sympathy for her, and a flash of excitement that maybe she's escaped the org. Knowing R, I would guess she would wallow in guilt for years instead of making a break or researching on her own. So now I really want to call her up, to see how she is and tell her I'm here for her no matter what.
Second, my mom was like second mom to R. She stayed at our house all the time, hung around with us for all my teenage years. To say 'someone I love is having problems so I'd better stay away from her' is just so typically . . . JW. I know my mom is only trying to protect herself and children but geezsh.
Anyway, wish me luck . I'm off to save an old friend and try not to get myself disfellowshipped!
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Do You Ever Think of God ?
by minimus indoes "god" come to your mind anymore?
jehovah god, christ, a supreme being???
since you've stopped believing as a jehovah's witness, does "god" in any form come into your heart and mind?
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pennycandy
Yes, although the God I see now is very different from the god Jehovah we worshipped.
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Do you feel that "all" Christian denomnations should be "abolished"?
by booker-t ini ask this question because my "atheist" friend the other day told me that he is much mentally free now since he left christianity.
he told me that "all" christians that he comes into contact with or knows from his religious lifetime are "miserable" and that the govt should abolish all christian groups for the sake of perserving the mental health of the people.
christians never are satisfied with their lives because they are trying to measure up to "jesus" and the apostles and will never measure up which causes many nervous breakdowns among religious people of all christian groups not just jw or mormons but many born-agains have mental breakdown as well.
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pennycandy
I'm sure there are people who live the type of "Christian" life your friend described. But I think that would be the far extreme. There are jeans and shorts at my church. I've never been asked for money, and as you can either donate to the collection plate (bag), pick up one of the pink donation envelopes, or send it my mail, no one ever knows who contributes and how much. There are also gay people at my church (non-demoninational). I never beat myself up for not being perfect. I know my sins are forgiven because I'm NOT perfect; that's what Christ died for.
But most importantly, my church teaches to never judge another. It's not my place. Anyone is welcome in my home if they are polite and kind. I don't debate Christianity with anyone, no point. Everyone is my equal.
I think maybe your friend has come across a few bad eggs, or has exaggerated "the opposition" to supplement his own opinion.