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  Do You Now Appreciate Your Worth Since You Are Out Of The Organization?

  by minimus in

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  so many people that are witnesses feel down and unworthy.

  do you still feel this way about yourself??

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  Actually, it's gotten a bit harder to appreciate myself. I think the problem is that, as JWs, you exalt yourselves above all 'worldly' people, and in your mind, you think you are chosen, greater than the rest.

  After leaving the JWs, with all of the emotional baggage that comes from leaving a high-control sect, I find it hard to touch on my own personal worth. The JWs debilitated me in that area. It's one of the toughest things for me to overcome. A sense of complete worthlessness, knowing that you are one ant on an enormous anthill, in the middle of a vast plain.

  We'll see how it goes in the next few years.

  ash
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  The Watchtower & the cigarette company

  by expatbrit in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  i: some relevant quotes from watchtower publications

  1: the position of the watchtower as regards smoking

  *** jv 181 13 recognized by our conduct ***.

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  Great thread. Looking at this, I am pleasantly reminded of the UN scandal. Man, I'll tell you, we have a bunch of crack detectives here. Great work expat.

  ash
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  Delurk

  by Euphemism in

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  well, this isn't quite a delurk, since i've made several posts already.

  but i figured it was worth introducing myself anyway.. i'm 21 years old, and was raised a dub.

  had very loyal and active dub parents... there was just no question growing up that i was going to pioneer, reach out for privileges, etc.

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  I really am afraid of hurting people, because I love them all so much.

  I was there, dude, and you know what? You find out how they really feel about you when you start to leave the JWs. When I left, I realised that their 'love' was entirely conditional, and that there was nothing that I could do or say as an 'outsider' that they would care to hear. Some people even said that they would be happy with me just pretending to be a JW. That's when you know you're in a bad organization, when people are even willing for you to lie so that their consciences can be sated.

  Care for your family, and work the slow fade, but trying to keep your friends? I have a feeling it's going to be a rough road for you. Try joining a club, or finding some friends outside of the Kingdom hall. And, just don't try to find only ex-JW friends. They help, for sure, but finding some well-rounded, (in your case) spiritual yet "worldly" people who share common interests would be the best thing for you and your new wife. They can be a listening ear when the JW times get rough (and they will), and 'wordly people' can have fun without always mentioning a watchtower magazine, service or interjecting some other doctrine into every fun time.

  And, unfortunately, you are going to have to expect some people to leave your life, betray you. But, in the end, living your life without fear and control is worth every hard time you will go through.

  ash
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  What Is The Best Remedy For a Hangover???

  by minimus in

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  since drinking is a very integral part of vacations, especially in the summer, which remedy works best for you the morning after??

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  If you are feeling queazy, get it out. Your body is overwhelmed and can't handle it. You'll feel much better afterwards. Besides the cold porcelain against the forehead feels damn good at that point. LOL

  Make sure the toilet rim is clean first!

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  Delurk

  by Euphemism in

  1. jw
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  well, this isn't quite a delurk, since i've made several posts already.

  but i figured it was worth introducing myself anyway.. i'm 21 years old, and was raised a dub.

  had very loyal and active dub parents... there was just no question growing up that i was going to pioneer, reach out for privileges, etc.

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  Wow, dude. You have a lot ahead of you, but my wife and I both left the JWs together, and I can say that a slow fade is possible. Hell, it's even possible to get your entire family to leave the JWs as long as you don't attack the JWs. You have to be subtle and patient. That's the key. It's about dropping little morsels of truth on their platter, and hoping there's one that will stick. If there is an event that is 'faith-shattering' to them, then be supportive, but don't seem like you're capitalizing on it. Remember, patience is the key.

  Good luck.

  ash
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  Post your pointless "talents" here

  by berylblue in

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  mine is......(and this from a woman who will probably not notice the big a when it happens) .

  i can find four leaf clovers anywhere, anytime...i never even really look.

  just walking down the street, i'll look at the lawn and see one.

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  I can use the keypad like The Flash. I used to work in a bank, so I got used to hammering out numbers.

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  What Is The Best Remedy For a Hangover???

  by minimus in

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  since drinking is a very integral part of vacations, especially in the summer, which remedy works best for you the morning after??

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  Personally, I take aleve, and before I go to sleep, I drink about 4 8 oz. glasses of water. It also helps to sleep just a little bit later.

  for massive hangovers, I'll take a multivitamin before bed, drink the gatorade, and then some water, along with aleve. Works like a charm for me.

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  WOMAN THROW'S TWINS INTO MISSISSIPPI RIVER!!!

  by little witch in

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  she threw her little sons into the river, and jumped in herself.

  unfortunatly, she survived, and only one of the babes were rescued, the other drowned.....

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  Wow. I wonder if this is another post-partum depression thing.

  ash
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  new member

  by heather_66350 in

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  hey everyone.

  im new here.

  i was invited here by coldredrain.

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  Hi Heather, Welcome!

  ash
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  Man gets life in prison for spitting

  by happyout in

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  man gets life in prison for spitting

  wednesday, july 2, 2003 posted: 3:16 pm edt (1916 gmt).

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  Frankly, I'm thinking that the bastard should be put in a work program, with all of the monies being sent to the wife. Screw this imprisonment garbage. Make the bastard work. And, he shouldn't be in jail for life, either. Let him out. MAKE HIM pay his wife for all of his hurts he visited on her. Make him do a lifetime of community service, lifetime house arrest with work being the only place he goes, remove him from society and the triggers that make him an animal, yet let him be a working for in America.

  All they've done is made this guy just another statistic, completely worthless to the wife he beat, and the community who had to pay for his trial.

  ash