it's amazing that people think when they are hurting or angry, that they can say anything they want.
and then the next day or week, they can say to you: oh i was just mad.
i was just venting.
sally...yeah, the slaps hurt too. i got those too. hairbrushes, wooden spoons. the back of dad's hand so hard upside my head i saw stars.
great way to discipline a 4 year old :( i have never, and will never hit my own child. or say anything to her like what was said to me.
i loved them when i was a good little dub.
the other day i happened to see a shot of the inside of our local convention venue on the news. it literally made me shudder, and gave me goosebumps. just seeing it. and did i mention that i can't go anywhere near a dome physically for any reason without having panic attacks now? sadly i am not kidding.
ugh.
hey!
shotguns post got me thinking.
post your story is 3 sentences or less, if possible.
my family is on it's fifth generation of dubs. i was the first one in said family to leave an abusive mate, get df'd (though i tried to da first, they df'd anyway) and not try to get reinstated, i'm quite the scandal. am finally happy for the first time in my life, i'm free.
fleur
trying to reason with a devout jehovah's witness is like........
trying to play frisbee with an anvil.
(meaning, trying to throw the anvil, not throw TO the anvil) LOL
man i need coffee for clarity here.
this site has helped me a great deal, so i share my enthusiasm with others who were not aware of this site.
one such person is very close to me, and she is with us now:.
allow me to introdroduce..... jane eyre!.
wasn't that Thornfield? :) jane eyre is one of my all time faves.
welcome jane. may you find encouragement here, "belonging" and more kindred spirits than "st.John rivers" types among us. glad to have you here.
fleur
it's amazing that people think when they are hurting or angry, that they can say anything they want.
and then the next day or week, they can say to you: oh i was just mad.
i was just venting.
My ex-husband has said so many cruel things to me that when my dad and I were talking about this yesterday, we were saying how impossible it would be to ever go back. How can you go back to a person that would say things to really hurt you? If he cut off my arm, I would be stupid to go back. Well, he cut my heart and I just never thought he was that type of person and then he did it over and over and over again. And he did it behind my back as well, trying to isolate me from friends by twisting their words to me and mine to them. Just evil things. Anyway, it hurts all over again because my dad and I were talking about painful words and anger management yesterday..........
ugh ugh ugh, can i relate to that simplesally.
i've been divorced now almost as long as i was married, and still the things he said to me are with me. my second husband has never, ever, in seven years of knowing him spoken an intentionally hurtful word to me, never yelled at me or called me a name.
my ex not only delighted in calling me filthy names, but when the divorce was over and i told him that he had himself to thank for it, because of the emotional and other abuse he forced on me, he said 'it felt good to call you (expletive deleted) and i'd do it again."
and he said that i wouldn't find anyone to treat me better than he did. boy, was he wrong.
((((((((((((((simplesally))))))))))))
just an understanding hug, from someone who has been there, as a child and an adult (both of my parents were/are screamers and said plenty of things i will never forget to me when i was little).
thank you for reminding us that words can hurt, and kill, just like physical blows. you just can't see the scars.
fleur
yesterday was the wedding.
all five of my siblings and their spouses and children, my mom and dad and their spouses, even my three daughters were invited.
but not i. she is the only one who is jw.. they sent the invitation to the girls in their name only to my address.
i'm so sorry blue. this makes me cry, i have been through missing three family weddings (very close to me before i left the org) and each one hurt like hell.
i hope she wakes up, and someday gives you the apology she so desperately owes you.
((((((((((bluesapphire)))))))))
essie
i'm new to the forums so i just wanted to say hi.
kind of nervous at the moment.. i'm one of the jehovah's witness kids that is looking for the whole truth.
i go to the meetings and have my own problems with the organization but i do believe in alot of it's beliefs.. since i got that out the way i wanted to see what other people think about the newer jehovah's witness teens.
welcome, secret...
i may have missed something in previous replies so if i did, and i'm repeating anyone else, i apologize. i'm glad you've found your way to this place. it will be an education for you to be sure. at times some of the things you read will seem shocking and unbelievable. do your homework, and things will make sense.
i was one of the 'dedicated' kids. never wore a skirt above the knee, never swore, spent my life with my nose in a book wondering why i was so miserable among jah's happy people. then i realized, there are very few happy people among the throngs and those that are likely have some kind of mental condition. because the extremes that jw's teach can not be reconciled with a normal frame of mind.
i was born in, when i left at 25 i lost all the people i grew up with. maybe a handful of real friends. i think of them now, i hope they get out. it won't be easy for you to deal with all this being you're so young and still at home with jw parents. be careful about your computer browsing, if they find you here it won't be pretty.
i too recommend that you try to make contact with your brother. don't let the borg take someone you love away from you. don't let him feel all alone. if you do, you will live to regret it later, i guarantee it.
keep reading, and talking. you're among those who really understand here.
fleur
well as you would have guessed from my name, i am a proud witness and i feel obliged to preach to you about the promises that our wonderful creator, jehovah god, has promised each and every one of us, of any race or background.
i know that you already know what he has told us through his word, but i am curious to wonder why you have chosen to jump off the narrow road which leads to everlasting life.
is it because you have had a bad experience in god's organization?
hello proud witness,
i hope that you find your time here educational :) it is kind of you to be concerned about my salvation, but don't worry, i take full responsibility for that. you don't have to worry about me.
i was curious about one statement you made, about apostates receiving 'ultimate destruction' at Armageddon. how is 'ultimate' destruction different from just regular destruction? are there some that you believe will be 'more dead' than others?
just curious.
i was like you once. i hope that you will find freedom to be yourself here.
fleur
the society would like to say this is done (except for the 'life stories') because 'all recognition' blah blah blah should go to jehovah...but what do you think are the real reasons why everything is published anonymously?.
and, is this also a common practice in other religious articles/publications?.
boa...
roflmao, six! that was the first thing i thought, would you admit to writing that crap? LOL
